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From: Denmark
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posted February 22, 2017 06:16 AM            

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Hi! I am wondering about what would be my ideal love match. In september last year I had a relationship lasting only a little less than a month. My ex-girlfriend was a model she had a pisces sun and capricorn moon ( March 12th 1999).

I have recently been seeing another woman she is much older than me, she is a celebrity and a former model as well. This woman has scorpio sun and leo moon (October 27th 1972)

The thing is that I lost interest in both of them right after we had our first sexual encounter. Even though they are both very beautiful and sweet, I don't know why I am like that it is really frustrating.

I am still very young (20 years). I just find it extremely hard to settle down and keep the feelings for a woman. So my question is what is my ideal match then? I myself have a pisces sun leo moon and leo ascendant.

PS: I am sorry for not posting the whole chart about the women I only know of their birthday and year.
http://imgur.com/H7enjgn

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From: Sound
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posted February 22, 2017 05:52 PM            

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Quick fly-by:

Ruler of the 7th (Venus) in the 8th along with Sun opposite Mars in Virgo.

Beauty is not enough. You require depth to satisfy the 8th house placements, to be moved on a deeply emotional level to maintain interest. However, at 20 years old you may not be ready for this. Others I've known with 8th house placements didn't feel able to settle until the thirties. Mars in Virgo can be quite unforgiving also, try not to seek perfection, this can only lead to disappointment (trust me, I know, Virgo Moon).

EDT: Someone with more earth would perhaps ground your water planets. A Virgo Venus conjunct your Mars and opposite your Sun/Venus might be stabilising, with perhaps a Sun in Leo to conjunct your Moon and trine your Mercury and Pluto for emotional depth.

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posted February 23, 2017 09:58 AM            

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"You require depth to satisfy the 8th house placements, to be moved on a deeply emotional level to maintain interest."

What kind of emotional depth? I am aware of my youth, but not being able to settle in any relationship bothers me to the core. I really want to. It is always after our first sexual intercourse that I lose complete interest. I do not know why I am like that, it frustrates me and I even worry for not being able to commit to marriage in the future.

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posted February 23, 2017 02:12 PM            

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Not sure I understand the question...

You must feel a deep emotional connection with the person, either from similar experiences, passions in life, inner values, dreams, traumas, etc. 8th housers need to feel moved, expanded, changed, or transformed by their experiences. Much of the life can be spent searching for this.
Knowledge of the self is the clearest key to what will move and therefore bond you to another.

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posted February 24, 2017 08:14 AM            

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Originally posted by MiracDk:

What kind of emotional depth?

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Maintaining a long term relationship requires great self mastery in my opinion. This is a question probably only YOU can answer to yourself. Until you don't know what it exactly is that you are looking for in a potential partner, it might not be possible to have a kind of relationship you crave. Not to discourage you, or anything, but seems like you're in for a long journey of self-discovery. It might take some time and hard inner work to have the desired ideal connection.

As for looks and perfection: That Virgo Mars in your 2nd house definitely emphasizes that you are most probably turned on by women who look "perfect" and perhaps a little bit too obsessed by their own looks, and also have some kind of "status" (2nd house - money, values, etc.) BUT!!! it is opposing that 8th house Venus showing karmic lessons about relationships. Opposition means conflict (inner, outer), 8th house is also karma and karmic situations - you attract beautiful, but shallow and superficial people to teach you lessons about yourself.

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