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Claudine
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posted April 08, 2017 06:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Claudine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello guys!
Would be glad to receive your opinions on my situation.
I am always feeling unloved by my partners. Well, even if I'm trying to trust partner's words, sometimes I just cannot help with not trusting them. I feel that I am used for some purposes. And I am not valuable.
Another issue, jealousy. Sometimes I can really be not bothering about other girls around and people in general, but sometimes I cannot help, but I feel that they are all better than me, and I will be left soon. Most of these feelings I try to keep inside.
Writing all of this I am almost crying, because it's so bad to feel such way when person loves me. But I hope, that I can receive some opinions that can help me to understand something.
I guess, it's all my Moon and Venus.
When I am in love, I'm just becoming hypersensitive, I cry a lot, feeling vulnerable. Meh =_=
What do I even need? How to cope with these feelings? How to trust people?
It hurts a lot.

PS. And I know about R-Venus now ) it's just activating these themes for me

Thanks a lot in advance!
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imeanj
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posted April 08, 2017 07:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for imeanj     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
http://www.astro.com/astrology/in_dgtwehouse_e.htm

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ProxyxBlue
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posted April 09, 2017 07:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProxyxBlue     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm not a reader, but I just wanted to comment on this because I've felt this way before as well. It seems as if every guy I'm truly interested in and we seem to be getting along just fine (relationship wise or heading in that direction) always turns out they use the same line of "I thought I was ready for a relationship, but I'm not ready" or something along those lines. I've heard it said to me so much that I started to feel it's something about me that makes this happen quite frequently.

I also have a hard time trusting, even if a particular guy is showing me and being honest that he isn't that type, I still get thoughts and worry about other girls. Deep down I know it's an issue that I must work on because it's something within me that's making me feel that way.

The only advice I can give is start to take a good look at yourself. See what it is that's bringing about those emotions and try to work on it. Distract your mind with something you enjoy doing. Start to value your self more often, because whatever it is that's making you feel this way it's no doubt a self conscious negative feeling. Of course I can be assuming here, but it seems similar to me, which is why I'm suggesting it.

Also try journaling. I've been doing that and it does helps. Doesn't matter what type of journaling you prefer, from writing, private video diaries or even public ones, blogging, or voice recordings. I believe it can be very helpful if you try because you might discover the root of your problem and from there you can better access why you feel the way you do when it comes to those sorts of situations.

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LibraGirl92
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posted April 09, 2017 07:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LibraGirl92     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Im also no reader but i can say that i sometimes have a bad case of jealously even if i know nothing is going to happen i can sometimes feel that twinge ( scorpio venus here). I was recently in a relationship where i can honestly say i was used because my ex partner didnt wanna work ( child support was his excuse) and young and dumb i was agreed and went along with it til i finally found my backbone and had enough. You are kinda like me i tend to keep my feelings inside and there are times i feel that other girls are better than me and that one day my fiance would leave me for someone else because im not good enough. What i learned though is to not have those negative thoughts or if they come through (which sometimes it happens) i tell myself to not think that way and try my hardest to stay and think positive. Just know that its going to be okay and that you are worthy to somebody out there. Keep your head up and stay strong.

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Claudine
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posted April 09, 2017 05:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Claudine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@imeanj
Thank you very much, I will read this article.

@ProxyxBlue
Hello,
Thank you for your input. Yes, you understand me right. I know, that the roots for all of this is in insecurity. Unfortunately, it's hard to work with it, the conscious mind keep telling that I am not worth to be with.
Well, another problem is fear of loss, I guess. And to be abandoned.
Hmm, it became easier to live when I started to think that I'll just respect freedom of this person, and if it's mine it will come back. (but sometimes I'm afraid that they will stay but they will have someone on the side =.=)
I do journaling, it helps, when I make an effort to write all my feelings. I'll try to do it more often.
Thanks again!

@LibraGirl92
Thank you very much!
Your post somehow made me feel more positive. It activated my self confidence. Interesting!
I'm sure you are cool and deserve all the best!
" i tell myself to not think that way and try my hardest to stay and think positive"
This is it. And all these negative thoughts are nothing to do with you.
I'll try my best, I just need to figure out ways to make these feelings go away.
Tbh, when I start to think something like "hahaha, just try to leave me, you can't do it" xD or something that villainish, it makes me laugh and I feel better.

Thank you for your response


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ProxyxBlue
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posted April 09, 2017 06:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ProxyxBlue     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Claudine:

@ProxyxBlue

Well, another problem is fear of loss, I guess. And to be abandoned.
Hmm, it became easier to live when I started to think that I'll just respect freedom of this person, and if it's mine it will come back. (but sometimes I'm afraid that they will stay but they will have someone on the side =.=)




That right that, those two sentences, is me all the way! It appears we have a lot more in common than I though, lol. I fear loss/abandonment, as well as feeling like someone has someone on the side. Maybe not in the romantic sense, but having someone close that that person may converse with and my fears start to grow that maybe the relationship could turn into something more. I don't like to put much into my zodiac sign (Scorpio) but I can be a jealous person, even if say my boyfriend had a female friend that was nothing more than a friend, my fears would start to bubble up that she may start to like him or get too close for comfort. Even when I know it's not possible, my fears and doubts overcome me. So it's hard for me to trust men of my interest (and girls around them), even if I truly want to trust them, my fears get in the way of that. :/


You're welcome, btw!

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LibraGirl92
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posted April 09, 2017 07:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LibraGirl92     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@LibraGirl92
Thank you very much!
Your post somehow made me feel more positive. It activated my self confidence. Interesting!
I'm sure you are cool and deserve all the best!
" i tell myself to not think that way and try my hardest to stay and think positive"
This is it. And all these negative thoughts are nothing to do with you.
I'll try my best, I just need to figure out ways to make these feelings go away.
Tbh, when I start to think something like "hahaha, just try to leave me, you can't do it" xD or something that villainish, it makes me laugh and I feel better.

Thank you for your response


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Yay i am glad that you feel that way and that it helped with your self confidence. Makes me feel happy that helped someone feel better. Keep staying strong and positive😄


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Claudine
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posted April 10, 2017 01:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Claudine     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@ProxyxBlue
Yeeeees, you described all my thoughts too. That even there is nothing between them I can imagine that in future there could be more x.x
Everything is possible. Especially the negative things. That's what my mind tells me in these moments :\

@LibraGirl92
I'll try I'll try


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