posted July 20, 2017 07:08 PM            

Some time ago I downloaded an app called, Habster. This app tracks your habits when you mark down the day you did whatever it is you're trying to stick to or avoid. I want to attempt to not get any readings for 60 days. Yep! 60 days! The reason why I chose 60 days instead of something less is because it takes 60 days for a habit to stick.

Currently, I've gotten more readings over the course of the past 5 months. I would count how many, but I really don't feel like signing in on Bitwine to reveal how many paid readings I've had; but trust me when I say it's been a lot. For me, doing this challenge will be difficult because I know I will get that itch to get a reading with someone, but I'm going to try my hardest to stick with it.

NO READINGS FOR 60 DAYS!

Now, I'd like to invite anyone who'd want to do this detox reading with me. You can choose you're own amount of time and see if you can make it also. I feel that a lot of the time people that get readings are so focused on wanting to know what's going to happen and when, instead of living life and allowing the universe to take over. We as people can get impatient, but I believe that whatever is meant to happen will happen regardless of what any psychic, intuitive or whatever says.

If you would want to try this detox out, just comment within this thread and list how long you're willing to try the detox out. You can comment your progress and if you're struggling, of course we'll be a support group for each other.

Starting today I will begin my 60 day challenge. I'll be honest if I have a relapse, of course, but I'm hoping that won't happen, lol. I'll also report back with my progress along the way and any other information you feel you'd want to share, you can also post it here: if you're considering doing the detox.

Who's interested?

posted July 20, 2017 07:56 PM            

So, I guess it means I need to sign up for more??!!

Good luck to ALL who decide to join the challenge.

posted July 22, 2017 09:21 AM            

Haha, really? That's good you lasted that long before! I feel the longest I've ever gone without readings was when I was with my last ex, considering most of questions when I get readings has to do with a relationship. Since I was in one and it was going well, I felt I didn't need to ask one. And during those months without one, I felt how you felt also: I felt like I was living my life.

posted July 22, 2017 01:52 PM            

For the people that do have addictions can understand that it can be hard. Addiction is addiction, no matter what it is you're addicted to. Trying to quit cold turkey can work for some, while others it can be a process. I've attempted the "cold turkey" some years back and only lasted for about two weeks or so, lol.

posted July 22, 2017 03:23 PM            

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Originally posted by outofideas:
If you are finding yourself with spare time but not enough activities to occupy yourself with, thus seeking to get a reading just for the sake of it, then maybe you should get into some hobbies. Maybe get excited about learning something new instead or just try to spend more of your time outside and not in front of the computer. Don't let yourself get bored and restless.

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Well, I do have hobbies and passions (one of which I've been doing all day today), but my questions in regards to readings always stem from me not being patient enough, mostly. Basically me wanting to know if something is still going to happen and if things are still on track.

But besides that, I try to spend time with my family when I can, I go to the gym almost daily and work on my novel (which is what I'm doing now). So, I do have other things to do, but like I've stated before, I do get that itch from time to time, lol and it's a process.

I totally get what you're saying though. Being bored/restless can be irksome, and even before I was even introduced to readings, lol.

posted July 27, 2017 08:40 AM            

Here is why I think this, I have OCD as a actual DX . Anyway, my OCD is deep down a fear of security.

So when I was first DX with OCD , I would lock my doors at night and then go to bed My mind would haunt me that someone was going to break into my home and hurt my kids. So I would lock the doors 5 or 6 times at night even when I knew I had just locked them. I would check every room in the house and look under all the beds. Why? Because when I was little I grew up experiencing the world as an unsafe place and I was fine till I had kids. Then I realized , I had no control over things that could happen to my kids. Locking the doors 5 or 6 times a night( ritual) was my way of controlling or attempting to control things to ensure nothing would happen to my babies.

So what I think happens here is that people who would go to an extreme on here or anywhere to get readings done have an extreme amount of anxiety because they are trying to control the future. It's like the cards land how they want to but the outcome is like a release to the anxiety whether predicted good or bad to a situation. It's like if I know the future I can prepare for it even though someone knows the cards can be right sometimes or they can be terribly wrong.

posted July 27, 2017 09:57 AM            

I'm attempting to do this to control myself from getting a reading and not be so focused on my outcome, because I am aware whatever happens will happen, regardless of what a psychic says. So, I am fully aware of what's going on, including me getting readings and etc, so yeah, lol.

My fear stems from getting hurt and trust, due to reasons in my past. Some relate to past relationships and others personal reasons. But it's mostly fear of getting hurt, insecurities, my trust being broken and abandonment. Those are my fears.

posted July 27, 2017 10:00 AM            

You are right, often readings are a hit and miss. Circumstances change and so do outcomes of situation. Only really fated events can be foreseen with the cards. Also, being forewarned of a future negative situation may only bring unnecessery anxiety and cause a lot more trouble than there would have been without having had the reading which may not even come true.

posted July 27, 2017 10:12 AM            

I truly want to fix this problem so I don't rely on what a reader is telling me. I want to return to how I was before and allowed the universe to take over. Back then I wasn't focused on something happening, because I didn't know if it would or not. I could only hope/pray that it would and continue living my daily life.

Now, ever since being introduced to this world of psychics/readers, I've become reliant on wanting to know what will happen in the near future or distant future. Sometimes I get myself so excited, if it's a positive reading, that I start to live my life in limbo waiting for the prediction to happens and when it doesn't, I become disappointed and want to know why something didn't happen.

posted July 27, 2017 11:11 AM            

CBT is a really good method to look into for anyone wanting to detox from any type of addiction is the best word I can think of at the moment.

Like what am I thinking= Omg, what if he doesn't love me back. ( negative thinking)
Question: well why am I thinking this= he usually tries to call me at night before he goes to bed and lately he seems to be ok with not putting effort in like he use to.( logical right, notice of change in his routine.. trust issue)

Feeling from thought= He doesn't like me, doesn't love me like he said, I am losing him, he is cheating on me , lying to me etc.. ( big one) All men are the same etc.

Behavior= I blow his phone up and call him , txt him 50 times what is going on , why are you doing this etc.

Him: scratches head like yep she's crazy, I am overwhelmed by my life and this is just too much for me right now.
Text back: I am sorry honey but right now I can't continue to see you anymore because my life is a little bit to hectic etc.

Btw: the right man won't do that because if a man or another is convinced then even if they are irritated , they'll stick around

Ok: in this situation

Thoughts: This is how to train your brain: This is a really bad situation and it really hurts. I didn't like that he responded to leave me because he was overwhelmed in life ( you didn't do anything because your human too remember that) Although this situation didn't go like I wanted to , he wasn't the right guy for me because the right guy for me is going to need to be more understanding that I have some trust issues because of bad experiences and although I am not trying to be too much, I can't deny that those things are something that I carry with me. There are men out there who are more compassionate to my needs as a human too. There are men out there who are not too overwhelmed by life to take the time to reassure me that they love me and are in it for the long haul.

Behavior: new guy: I am looking for a relationship and if your not at a point in life for that I need to know at this moment so I can not waist my time .
Ask questions: how much time do you have to put into someone in your life? Does it bother you if your dating someone and they ask questions to charges in your behavior, does being questioned bother you? He ask why? Well I am really serious about finding a relationship that works for me, until things are official I really will be making sure that you are who and what you say you are?

Anyway,the point is that the anxiety has to be redirected mentally and then your behavior will change. Mentally you are programing not to take the failure of one relationship personal or however many hurts you have endured.