posted August 12, 2017 12:54 AM            

My q is how can I help H be more communicative in our relationship?

posted August 12, 2017 02:09 AM            

Hope these links work to view the cards o:

Strength: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/cf/dd/98/cfdd9899e6105488d0816795f4ebb18e--major-arcana-ouija.jpg

10 of Cups: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/a5/96/1c/a5961c3821da1aebad22ed6fb61105be--tarot-decks-tarot-cards.jpg

It seems that you and JG recently recovered from some trying times by being quick to act in order to care for what needed to be done right away, as well as having the patience and the fortitude to wait out what needed to be waited out. I get that you guys are keeping your head above water and have bought yourself some time to be able to breathe from problems that have plagued you guys for a few months( guessing six).

There is a strong theme of two in each of the cards that speaks for a need of balance, and being able to maintain the status quo. There's also this minor theme of needing to keep an eye out for missing "small" mishaps, that may turn out to be a bigger deal in the long run.

8 of Hazards + 7 of Cups.

8oH: https://bobneilson.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/8-of-hazards1.jpg
7oC: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/80/86/e3/8086e31dba00b9c12eba5235d1571d05---seven-ouija.jpg

The cards are advising the need for prioritization while you guys are ahead... and trying something new? I think in the sense where if you've tried stuff you're familiar with and the results aren't panning out, you guys may want to try something that hasn't been done yet, as in you haven't done it yet. I'm guessing research, coupled with minor trial and error types of things would help.. I wonder if this relates to the small mishaps I mentioned earlier, in which something that keeps remaining problematic may be as easily remedied by looking through the minor details and just plugging in something different for the formula.

I'm not sure if I'm talking about a relationship or a business partnership! In summation, it seems that it's important that you two take this brief reprieve from your chaotic surroundings to balance yourselves out. Pay attention to details, as missing out on a small problem may become costly in the future. Don't be afraid to research and experiment. Based on your research, you should be able to better prioritize group goals for you both to accomplish.

posted August 12, 2017 08:36 AM            

right now we are conducting long distance. 2 hours away by plane so not too bad. and I've been trying to think of something fun and unique for the times we do meet. I think this was the fun part for me haha. Honestly I've been trying to move on from my old patterns of thinking and try to approach this relationship in a whole new way.I use to scrutinize his actions and wonder why he does x y z but I've been thinking thats just him and I should relax haha.

posted August 12, 2017 08:58 AM            

5 swords 8 pent 6 swords 4 swords Judgement Lover

I feel like if you don't tell him, he would never really have guessed it was an issue to begin with .

I feel like H has a lot of things on his mind and he use to never be like this. so Tell him its going to be hard work but you're here for him and would like to hear his thought processes for certain decisions and how is his day etc. you don't need a fancy strategy to get him to start talking but he is a bit closed off which I feel a little honest conversation and hard work will allow it to be resolved.

At first, He will put up a wall when he hears this and you just have to let him think about it , sit on it. I feel he will starting changing rather quickly. you will notice he will start telling you whats on his mind and I feel the energy between you will be somewhat similar to when you first started dating in the beginning. I felt like he forgot how it was between you two and allowed reality and physical demands affect your relationship.

posted August 12, 2017 11:10 AM            

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Originally posted by furrybunny:
Thank you for the reading!! 🤗I love the pictures on this deck. Was entirely different than what I had imagine . Reminds me of stepford wives haha

It really really makes sense. I'll post my feedback and ur reading when I wake up. Prob 4-5 hours from this time stamp. I woke up to drink wAter and decided to check this thread haha.

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In regards to your feedback, glad it makes sense!

It was funny because I thought six first, but then my brain said 3, and I responded to self, "you're always saying three, so say six!" And it turns out three was right XD.

I was in a few LD relationships and I know they're difficult to maintain. It's good that you two are much more closer than my previous relationships( one lived in France, two in the U.K., and I stay in the US).

posted August 12, 2017 11:19 AM            

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Originally posted by furrybunny:
how can I help H be more communicative in our relationship?

5 swords 8 pent 6 swords 4 swords Judgement Lover

I feel like if you don't tell him, he would never really have guessed it was an issue to begin with .

I feel like H has a lot of things on his mind and he use to never be like this. so Tell him its going to be hard work but you're here for him and would like to hear his thought processes for certain decisions and how is his day etc. you don't need a fancy strategy to get him to start talking but he is a bit closed off which I feel a little honest conversation and hard work will allow it to be resolved.

At first, He will put up a wall when he hears this and you just have to let him think about it , sit on it. I feel he will starting changing rather quickly. you will notice he will start telling you whats on his mind and I feel the energy between you will be somewhat similar to when you first started dating in the beginning. I felt like he forgot how it was between you two and allowed reality and physical demands affect your relationship.

please let me know this makes sense

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This perfectly resonates.

I've been trying to stop telling him directly, hoping he would just pick up what's up. Partly this as well because I feel like I come off as nagging, and I don't want to nag him.

However, he has been under a great deal of stress lately and I sympathize. I was running errands with him yesterday and it was so hard to get him to focus and prioritize. I started getting angry and then rapid fire speaking to him in a very terse manner( my sister says that my words cut deep and hurt when I'm in this mode, so I try very hard not to do this).

He was tired at the end of the day. I ended up drawing a hot bath for him, then helping him to bed. He works hard and is good to me, so I asked this question after all that because I worry that I'm not connecting with him properly.

I think this makes perfect sense, so I will try to calmly speak to him and gently urge him to open up.