posted February 01, 2018 07:21 AM            

Sometimes i feel like my actions are taken for granted.
I think i am a good person, i dont like drama.
Thats why people used to use me.
But when i put a mask and said NO they were very surprised why i DID change.

heheh hypocrite people.

this is my chart.
i have problems with relationships.
sometimes i think i scare men.

people that are attracted to me are usually Virgo men.
no idea why.
but it doesnt work out with them.
its been like that since high school.

i have always finally been with fire sign or air.

Why do I attract Virgos since high school?

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posted February 03, 2018 04:07 PM            

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I dont usually know if i am Pisces Aries Cusp or just Aries.

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I am very melancholical (?)

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but on the other hand i do my thing and i achive what i want.

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Sometimes i feel like my actions are taken for granted.

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But when i put a mask and said NO

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sometimes i think i scare men.

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Why do I attract Virgos since high school?

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Any other questions?

Your transits coming soon...

posted February 03, 2018 04:40 PM            

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Originally posted by Iridia:
Hello, Mya. I'm sorry for the delay.

[QUOTE]I dont usually know if i am Pisces Aries Cusp or just Aries.

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In my book there's no such thing as a cusp Sun so you're a pedigree Ram to me

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I am very melancholical (?)

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Cappy Moon conjunct Saturn and Neptune, makes sense.

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but on the other hand i do my thing and i achive what i want.

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Aries meets Capricorn.

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Sometimes i feel like my actions are taken for granted.

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Your Moon tells me you're helpful in general and when you really care, you can go to great lengths to support someone. Unfortunately, not everyone deserves it, minor help included.

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But when i put a mask and said NO

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...and it looks like you got the message. But why would it be just a mask? Own your self-respect! And keep improving your discernment.

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sometimes i think i scare men.

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Not your problem

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Why do I attract Virgos since high school?

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Your Sun is conjunct Mercury, your Ascendant is trine Mercury and this Mercury rules your Virgo 3rd house. Their Virgo Suns are ruled by Mercury. This similarity of your natures is probably appealing or at least feels comfy to those guys. Of course, there must be more to the story.

Any other questions?

Your transits coming soon...

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Hello,
no problem with the delay

With Virgo men the problem is that I am usually ( sooner or later) scare of their character, work ethic- for me even if they are nice they tend to be very strict, straight forward with a very cynical sense of humor.
I dont know why ( on the other hand ) they like me.
Virgo men are the only men ( astro signs) that they can feel my inner pain, that they can make me feel weak, or in front of them i am very pure, like a Virgin. I have no mask, im very weak and feminine.
Its the only sign i can not play games with because somehow they KNOW.

On the other hand they like my funny nature and the way i surround myself with people. I am delicate and my feminine side blossoms up in front of virgos (?) - if i can say that.
No other sign can make me feel that way.

But its a big work to do. Because they want to fix me to help me achieve goals. And my inner side cant handle being dependent. Its the problem.

Someone once said i need to find an Aqua man.
But i dont meet Auqa men very often- I meet , Taurus, Cancer, Leos... and sometimes Virgos.
I cant select men by signs, i dont ask them about signs on the dates... That would be werid...

My question may sound weird but i would like to meet and maybe date a Virgo again.
For me it doesnt matter if its my ex or a new Virgo.
Virgos in my life made me feel sometimes bad but inner me decided to fix somehow or something inside me to prove them wrong.
BUT i wish i could live without proving anyone.

I wish i meet a virgo man and be nice and calm.
So my question is - whta i should do , how to behave to meet a good Virgo? ( humble, normal hardworking - not an as**hole).

The one I was describing in my previous thread was too much for me, i was maybe too subtle, too immature. I didnt find his way of partying or living nice. His female friends were too much. They were voulgar, very loud and etc.
I was different - maybe thats why he liked me.

But anyway- i know Virgos are good, iwish i could meet someone like that in the futre- or maybe an Earth sign.
I am afraid Fire signs will be a disaster for me. Because i need to feel grounded and to feel secured.

posted February 03, 2018 05:27 PM            

When you were writing your post, the Moon was in Cancer. This Moon very much correlates with looking into the past. Your former flame...and now that I think about it, you made your account quite a long time ago but started participating now. Blast from the past again It shows that your arrival was mainly driven by your ex. This Cancer thing, the Sun and Venus transiting your 7th house, the south node (the point of the past, you could say) applying to your Venus and you were freshly after your Venus return.

I hope you found this interesting. Let me know if you need me to clarify anything.

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Virgo men are the only men ( astro signs) that they can feel my inner pain, that they can make me feel weak, or in front of them i am very pure, like a Virgin. I have no mask, im very weak and feminine.
Its the only sign i can not play games with because somehow they KNOW.

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But its a big work to do. Because they want to fix me to help me achieve goals. And my inner side cant handle being dependent. Its the problem.

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I cant select men by signs, i dont ask them about signs on the dates... That would be werid...

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posted February 03, 2018 06:05 PM            

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Someone once said i need to find an Aqua man.

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BUT i wish i could live without proving anyone.

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So my question is - whta i should do , how to behave to meet a good Virgo? ( humble, normal hardworking - not an as**hole).

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I was different - maybe thats why he liked me.

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posted February 03, 2018 06:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Iridia:
I checked your transits for the day you posted the Virgo topic and I don't see anything impressive in terms of discussing/exploring astrology. Neptune (things mystical and fantastical) is transiting your 9th house (which I consider to be the house of astrology) and he's in his own house. Thing is, I found no aspects, same with your natal Neptune. No other planets in the 9th, no Jupiter aspects. Some people could point to the Moon transiting the 12th house but I'm ambivalent. I'm more interested in the applying trine from Sagittarius Mars to your 9th house Mercury.

When you were writing your post, the Moon was in Cancer. This Moon very much correlates with looking into the past. Your former flame...and now that I think about it, you made your account quite a long time ago but started participating now. Blast from the past again It shows that your arrival was mainly driven by your ex. This Cancer thing, the Sun and Venus transiting your 7th house, the south node (the point of the past, you could say) applying to your Venus and you were freshly after your Venus return.

I hope you found this interesting. Let me know if you need me to clarify anything.

[QUOTE]Virgo men are the only men ( astro signs) that they can feel my inner pain, that they can make me feel weak, or in front of them i am very pure, like a Virgin. I have no mask, im very weak and feminine.
Its the only sign i can not play games with because somehow they KNOW.

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I'm intrigued. It gave me some ideas but never mind, don't want to tempt you to ask me to check all your synastries hehe.

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But its a big work to do. Because they want to fix me to help me achieve goals. And my inner side cant handle being dependent. Its the problem.

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Try out their opposite then? A Merman may want to fix you (or more like "save you") too, but he'd be less annyoing about it because he's too in love with love to care that much about flaws anyway. And you'd be free to talk his ears off about astrology if the Sun falls into your 9th house! That would make up for the wishy-washiness, right? Warning: don't take this seriously.

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I cant select men by signs, i dont ask them about signs on the dates... That would be werid...

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More unwise than weird. You already know astrology is so much more than Sun signs. Gonna continue in a new post.

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When i met him in 2014 or 2015 he was already fresh after a long term relationship with some Gemini woman.
( now after 5-6 years she starts to like and comment his pictures because she broke up with some other men).

I got to know him by my high school friend. It was very fast. I ve known her 8 years and she introduced me to her company.
She was single (freshly after the break up) and she wanted to have fun with friends. So she introduced me and i met Virgo.
The problem was that she is very toxic and possesive.
She realised Virgo liked me.
She didnt want anything from virgo except the attention.
She was mothering him, taking care of him like a lover. They have never slept together. But she was behaving like his gf until the time she found her current bf.

When me and Virgo started meeting up she was jealous. Because she was a Queen bee and she couldnt stand being ignored by a 'cool guy' - who was Virgo.

As i said in my 1st post about the synastry- i sometimes think that she didnt want me to have his attention.

And she felt jealous and freaked out that we both started dating. No idea why.

I didnt know that one of my best friends from school would destroy or TRY to demage some relationship.
But its not about that. If he wanted something more he wouldnt be depended on her. and ETC. Thats true.
But she was the 1st everywhere, social media, his house, his parties. When i was dating him she was EVERYWHERE when i was and where he was... ... SO weird.
Like she would check..

Now she has a bf from other big company, Virgo is in other company, i am in my old company.

I thought that it didnt matter whom you are friends with, that there have been no rules and schemes. BUT actually since 2015 im very careful whom i trust and whom i am friends with. And i do not open up easily.

I need space and and free spirit in relationships.
I cant have strict rules in friendships.

And i still sometimes wonder if our relation even if it was short was real or he was confessing everything to Taurus woman.

Taurus has a tendency to mother and to pretend she is a 'mental nurse'. She comes from family with issues but she changed her life. And she always try to help others but in a way that only she likes. Very possesive and jealous way. She can help but noone can be better than her in anything

I havent been in a real relationship since maybe 5 years. I wanted to build something with him because I really liked him. I couldnt stand the drama at the beginning, i didnt fight for him and i didnt know i needed to push away enemies ( female friends).

He is still very cool. As i said before he started uploading very good facebook statuses about politics and general life. He doesnt post anything connected to parties and party life.
He also changed his appearance.
But looks good.

I dont know why everytime i want to begin something with someone people know it and disturb. I dont know why they are usually female friends of me and hypothetical man.

No idea why people stick their noses into someone relationship business.

I know i cant look at world from my perspective but i have been usually helping people with getting to know their flames.It was me who was usually giving advices.

Now after 3 years i still dont know what he thinks of me. that it was me who ended the relation, it was me who didnt want ?

Because some of the girls told me - why are you upset? You didnt want him.

Wow i didnt want him because i didnt chase him and i wasnt his puppet?

Its not my pride, its me.

This taurus woman and his friends have been chasing him.
He got used to being chased and being lazy that women only run after him.

But then after 1 year when we broke up he was still 'checking on me' on social media or at the parties. I mean he was very interested whom i was partying with whom i was becoming friends with.
When i was choosing someone cool he was interrupting like he cared of me but then he was dissapearing.
Like a dog in a manger.

I started flirting with his friend. He freaked out. Started chasing me, behaving like my boyfriend but couldnt speak normally and then dissapeared.

posted February 03, 2018 08:24 PM            

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Acting a particular way can't grant you finding a "good Virgo" or "good whoever else". It will either happen or not and you'll either recognize him or not. In case you meet someone and want to appeal to him...pretending to be his ideal girl would turn against you sooner or later and why would you create this mess? Even if I were to give you some tips, I'd need the chart of a particular person to be able come up with an effective strategy. Venus, the Descendant etc. is what really matters.

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my problem is that i think i need to move out to another city because i cant find anyone here. i have lives in france, italy, germany and spain before. even in not so big cities. whenever i lived i didnt have problems with men's attention. i never chased a guy abroad. i have never had problems with picking a man and started talking to him.

here when i dont make moves and i dont run after men friends think that im not interested and aloof.
no. its their problem.

its a cultural thing. i have read so many articles, magazines about polish culture of relationships. we are still more 'eastern' than western europe.

women are beautiful and men are ugly. but with a pride to be polish.

what to do if i cant see anyone okey in a group of 30-50 men? what to do ? im not picky then.
abroad i didnt have problems.

i am not picky. everyone here tells me im picky. why cant i find a normal , non proud and non egoistical guy here?

a ot of people my age are already married, engaged or still party-like. they pick girls in clubs with techno or 90's songs music.

my city is 2nd in poland but usually in my age i know a lot of people ( studies, work, additional jobs and etc). normal guys are already taken.

because GIRLS made them 'normal' because before they were chasing their men on parties and started to behave them to be normal...
this is this case.

why i cant find a normal man here whom i dont wanna mother or 'behave' him in a certain way that will suit to the general schema of behaviour.

why do i need to put my work to 'fix him'? because he is a party guy but i am a nice and normal woman so if i want him i need to chase him AND WAIT FOR HIM.

almost 80 % of my female friends started their relationships like that and behaved their current man, they are married or in longterm relations.

and its not me being egoistical. i just want to have 1:1 relation, friends , good friends first, good communication and understanding.
but i see i can only find it when i flirt abroad.

this is my problem.
thank you for great posts

PS about creating my account. i created it a few years ago as i remember but i couldnt post. it was forbidden. because i didnt have permission from the admin. but i asked a few weeks ago that is why they let me post here.

posted February 04, 2018 10:33 AM            

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I dont know why everytime i want to begin something with someone people know it and disturb. I dont know why they are usually female friends of me and hypothetical man.

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why i cant find a normal man here whom i dont wanna mother or 'behave' him in a certain way that will suit to the general schema of behaviour.

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my problem is that i think i need to move out to another city because i cant find anyone here.

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whenever i lived i didnt have problems with men's attention. i never chased a guy abroad. i have never had problems with picking a man and started talking to him.

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posted February 05, 2018 12:05 AM            

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They say the 7th house is the house of open enemies. You have Venus there (a female archetype) and it's in Aquarius (groups, friends). Interesting.

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even now since november ive been working on an additional project with my friends from the same profession - i didnt trust them. i dont know why. they were surprised and very awkward when i was doing a job only for me.
the last few years tought me to be very competitive not only in a work environment but also in real private life. and i stopped trusting people.

maybe i need to be more humble and nice.

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You mentioned moving abroad in the other thread. I wouldn't recommend doing that just to get some romance but when I recall your chart, I believe you could benefit from this decision in more ways. You have your Sun (the Ascendant rules so it's extra important) and Mercury in bold Aries in the 9th house of long-distance travel and they're square Jupiter on top of that. I think you could trive if you pick the right place. Is there a country you're particularly interested in now? We could take a look at your relocation chart.

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i love travelling. i lived in several countries so far. maybe i will travel more. i want to vist iceland and morocco maybe tunisia and other african countries.

some of my friends live in new zeland and australia. i want to visit them

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so why here i have problems?
i was even talking with my mum about that and she told me that out city is very hermetic and dense, and everyone knows each other.

she spent her younger years abroad as well before communism and she told me she knows what i am talking about;

i am mentioning this Virgo man because since 3 years ( 2.5) u have only had 1 relation which was in spain and one also that started in spain and its only good friends. like someone cares of me and asks me about my day and so one.

here in my city i maybe will have to change my job for medicine or mechanical engineering ( hhaha) because i havent explored those fields with men yet.

i have no idea . architecture is full of women. in poland its 70-30% majority women.
abroad - everywhere architecture is perceived as very strong and men-like profession. in schools/ universities you can see men . in poland its opposite.

and if i wanna be good i need to focus on that job in my environment. and what if environment is full of women?

i dont know what to do.

thats why in 2015 after my and Virgo's relation ended i started doing set design and costume design for some students projects- i needed a fresh air and to breath with new people. i was then starting my master degree. and i was working as a set design freelancer.
i wanted to meet other people and see not only from a perspective of an architecture student.
i wanted to explore more. but i got paranoied sometimes because they were partying very hard with drugs and very too much laid back so i was getting stressed everytime i was doing some freelance.

but 1 year ago i abandoned previous idea and i needed to focus back on my finishing studies and diploma what im doing even right now. this minute

maybe i will come back. because i relaly liked what i was doing it was super fun generally. set design for young filmmakers movies. its cool.like interior design - so its architecture

in october 2017 when i met virgo the last time he asked me if i want to come back to set design and being freelance or just do architecture.
and then run away to his new party girlfriend apologising he asked me that question.

i answered : i dont know i need to graduate first. and now i will see what i will pursue. i need to graduat ein 1 month i guess. maybe 1.5 .
its ok.

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i love travelling. i lived in several countries so far. maybe i will travel more. i want to vist iceland and morocco maybe tunisia and other african countries.

some of my friends live in new zeland and australia. i want to visit them

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and one also that started in spain and its only good friends. like someone cares of me and asks me about my day and so one.

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here in my city i maybe will have to change my job for medicine or mechanical engineering ( hhaha) because i havent explored those fields with men yet.

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i dont know what to do.

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maybe i will come back. because i relaly liked what i was doing it was super fun generally. set design for young filmmakers movies. its cool.like interior design - so its architecture

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posted February 17, 2018 01:57 PM            

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[QUOTE]i love travelling. i lived in several countries so far. maybe i will travel more. i want to vist iceland and morocco maybe tunisia and other african countries.

some of my friends live in new zeland and australia. i want to visit them

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Iceland, Australia, New Zealand, sounds good to me. NZ in particular.

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If you're trying to say that you've gained exactly 1 new friend between your breakup and the now, I guess you have a reason to be sad.

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here in my city i maybe will have to change my job for medicine or mechanical engineering ( hhaha) because i havent explored those fields with men yet.

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I hope you're not really that man-starved

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i dont know what to do.

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Turn bi/lesbian?

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maybe i will come back. because i relaly liked what i was doing it was super fun generally. set design for young filmmakers movies. its cool.like interior design - so its architecture

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I can believe it was a fun experience. But if I were to work on set, I'd probably enjoy taking care of the costumes more.

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Thank you.

I must say that since last week or 2 i feel very weak. I see I only make friends with outsiders like me.
Outsiders meaning more serious people or young people with serious approach to life.

Now since october november i am involved in some big national architecture workshop organisation. It will be on the 2nd weel of October 2018.

Iam happy i will take part in it.

But i see that in my career or in my life i am kind of a late bloomer.

Is it how its gonna be?

Its not that im not interested but i need to make 2nd first impression to someone...

This Virgo man only chooses or chose girls that have been very popular, the same type. They were in 2-3 month relationship but he left leaving them in pain or in a nice manner depending on a woman if she could organise herself.
He is or was such an ******* to me as well.

He plays with women... he thinks he can.

But i also have a very big pretentions to myself that when i was 25 in 2015 i couldnt make even a short relationship...
why is that? was i stupid, immature or what??

could you read it from my chart?

i dont know what people i can connect to...

A LOT OF FRIENDS think i am not interested in finding a man.

i just dont wanna show emotions because in the past i have been hurt badly so many times.

when i was abroad he had 2-3 women...
even now he looks at his past and even now he likes or comment their pictures on facebook...

i am different i study i do academic work. those women are party women... maybe he likes that type.
he is himself very intelligent so i dont know...

but anyway he made me feel bad.
and since that time i question myself and my worth.
and i even cried today because of him and his latest ex girlfriends. I KNOW who they are. i can show them even on facebook and compare with me........