posted February 22, 2018 12:51 PM            

He wants to have an affair but respects my decision not to. He said that he just wants to see me happy and succeeding in life.

**I'd appreciate non-judgmental comments only. My culture permits this behavior in men, so the fact that he wants to have a girl on the side and his wife would know about it is okay in my culture.

**His wife is aware of the situation and doesn't mind his flings because she's had a few of her own. I've talked with her and she said they had no intent for marriage but in their culture it looks better to be married. She got pregnant and her parents requested they get married for appearances. She said that's the only reason they got together and those are her words. They have two children together so they are staying together for financial reasons and to raise the children.

posted February 22, 2018 12:55 PM            

Really?

He wants to have an affair. Red flag right there.

What makes you think he'll be faithful to you by silver chance when you end up in an actual relationship with him?

He doesn't respect his wife. And he doesn't respect you apparently.

Y'all purposely ignore red flags then cry when it happens. I don't get it.

posted February 22, 2018 01:46 PM            

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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
If this is the chart for the two of you, it shows you have a pluto-mars conjunct in Scorpio. That is definitely some passion but wow what fights it could lead to. Being a Scorpio and having been with other Scorpios, I can tell you... you may not want that. You may want to ask the question in a horary form and see if someone can answer. I am now too old for such explosive relationships but I cannot judge for those who are not.

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I would say, "just have fun" but its clear OP is delusionally and desperately finding love with this man when it's not there.

All she's going to do is burn her own ass and then whine when it's all said and done. She needs to STAY AWAY from him unless she likes getting her heart broken.

posted February 22, 2018 02:02 PM            

To clarify the situation, my culture permits this behavior in men, so the fact that he wants to have a girl on the side and his wife would know about it is permissible in my culture.

posted February 22, 2018 02:11 PM            

Lord, so his wife is sleeping with people too?!?! Don't you know how dangerous that is? The risk of STDS and STIs? You don't know what this man is doing in his free time.

How do you know if he gets with you, he won't decide he's sexually incompatible with you too, or he won't do something you didn't know he had in him?
I hope you're getting at least money out of this arrangement. That's all.

posted February 22, 2018 02:57 PM            

To be clear we are seeking a lifetime platonic relationship with one another. His wife and he are going to attend college in America in 2 years time. At which point she and he will get divorced. Which is why I asked if it was worth waiting for him. If they get divorced in their country now both could lose their job. She didn't have another lover while sleeping with him. Additionally, I would never consent to sex without a test or condom. And as I have tried to make clear we are seeking a platonic relationship.

posted February 22, 2018 03:19 PM            

My opinions are not contradictory, however; if you view them as coming from a traditional or conservative place then you'll know that is not.

As for synastry, I can't whole-heartedly recommend any sort of suggestion based off of it.

You can post an horary chart in the horary section and people will read it for you. It will be more than enough to suffice an interpretation. But you need to determine the radical nature of the chart.

posted February 22, 2018 04:17 PM            

I hope you come out safe this situation regardless. Sorry for being blunt because I have had people tell me the same thing (that im being delusional) and I considered it helpful, but I see why you see it as rude.