posted March 20, 2018 12:08 PM            

We both have a past- he broke up wid his gf of 8 and wife of 1 year and is going through a decision making phase in career.

I am going through different circumstances n dont wanna drag it and either get married or break up.

We had arguments when he talked abt his past and uncertainities and he would disappear And i would let him have his space, till he resurfaced. This happened right before the day we were finally going to meet up and i cancelled it. He pursued me into it though and invited me over to his home over breakfast woth him and his mom( i have read it is a big step for cancerians)...

However, I was shy and uncertain and preferred meeting outside.

Now the brief summary of the meeting full of confusions- he tells me am pretty, while i am being very defensive (partly hiding my nervousness); i talk about my past as an example of something i was trying to console him about in his own past and tells me it makes him feel uncomfortable; he asks why i am silent as i was silent most of the time; he says he wished he had met me 5 yrs back when we could have a steamy affair as opposite to now when he can see that our priorities are different coz of which he says" we can't think of a marriage and i should find someone to get married to' . But the very mext moment he suggests that i stay back and we go somewhere for a night- i refuse; we drive to the bus stop but I suddenly dont wanna regret and ask him to go for a long drive to a beautiful place where we could talk to and come back in the evening. He tells me then we have to return home and change the car- i refuse coz i m nervous to see his mum as am not prepared . We have a deep converaation and he tells me he feels physically attracted towards me but that otherwise, our egoes clash a lot. I had put away my defensiveness till then, and thought he was doing the back n forth crab thing and told him i like him and miss him, and as am going overseas for a year, i want to make the best of our meeting.

I tell him i want him to hold my hand and kiss like he used to say on phone. He holds my hands and refuses the kiss saying we would end up making out which is not a good idea coz he is looking for a stable and calm relationship than the fragile steamy one that we will have (!!!contradicting his pleas to arrange for the meeting). He says he is holding my hands and kissed my hand out of 'humanitarian feelings' (!!!cant understand what he meant).

Then he tells me he is hungry and to accompany him to restaurant. I tell him i would wait outside and he is suddenly upset over it. Then he asks me to pick a time limit and i pick one hour for the drive before he could go back. He agrees.. but instead drives to a restaurant. I finally get a little annoyed and he tells me i am nagging since we met and that i have wasted his hour and half . He though asks me to come home with him to share lunch wid hia family,as a 'friend' ( his mum knows he was talking to me in more than friends way). I cant refuse but am about to cry. He doesnt talk to me for the next twenty minutes he is driving me to the bus stop, we dnt go on any drive, he dsnt stop being cranky even if i apologise for dnt know what, he tells me it is good if we never contact again, tells me he is sure after meeting up that we are not for each other, calls up his mum to asi her to set the lunch table instead of sayin me goodbye..
I was so ****** of and was about to cry when i decided to step out of the car without waving any gudbyes as i saw him dialling up the phone number to make some call as he parked near the bus stop and acted he was busy.
I returned, sent him a message that it ws nice knowing him n i had no hard feelings and i would miss him. He instantly blocked me.

Wats up with him!

Did he jst want to take me to the bed, but then why this drama when i later asked him to go on a drive where i could kiss him!

N why would he bring a girl home to his parents when he has no intentions of remaining in touch with her?

He has confused me...he always does- but am still missing him and can't stop thinking about him.

Any help plz?

posted March 20, 2018 11:42 PM            

I know as a Cancer we need a lot of security. He is probably worried about things working out and not wanting to lead you on but is still open to having sex with you. Typical male.

I would stick to not sleeping with him just a general rule as a woman. I would insist on a relationship and don't entertain his feelings on things. Date someone else in the mean time even though it hurts that things haven't worked out for you.

Open up to him that you aren't really interested in being his friend either. If he wants something serious he knows how to contact you if you haven't moved on by then.