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missblyss
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posted November 10, 2018 05:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"you aren't that pretty"
she just turned five. idk why it is hurting my feelings so much. i don't even think she said it to be mean, she was just being honest.

like i feel so weird bc on one hand I'm so upset that she views me in this way.. but then I'm also like wow i can't be upset with her for being honest

bleh

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furrybunny
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posted November 10, 2018 06:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for furrybunny     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
missblyss u are gorgeous!

I have a 3 year old brother and I would ask him if i'm pretty and he would say no especially when I don't play with him but stare at my phone. if I ask who's the prettier sister he would say my sis and if she asks him, he would say I am. he's Pluto dominant and he plays these little funny games with us mostly to make us laugh.

so maybe she said it because you haven't been focusing on her too much as well and thats how she got your attention.

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posted November 10, 2018 06:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi MissBlyss,

Just some thoughts:

What your daughter said may be a reflection of the transit of Saturn to your natal Venus. Other than possibly making your budget tighter, this transit, from what I've read, will be a time when you re-evaluate your relationships and what you are getting out of them and putting into them. It's also a time when you may scrutinize yourself and your appearance--making you more sensitive than is usual. A lot of people with this Saturn square Venus (I have it right now, too, but my Venus is in Libra) will end up making changes like getting more sleep, taking better care of themselves, losing weight, change their hair color or style, clothes, music, etc. I might have responded differently to your daughter--even at 5 years old. What would you have done if she had tried to bite you or laugh at someone in a wheel chair? One of my nieces tried to kick people when she was around your daughter's age. We traced it back to the Power Ranger's cartoon. I'm thinking she's getting it from somewhere. Does she talk to your ex, her biological father, very often?

Spring

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missblyss
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posted November 10, 2018 11:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by furrybunny:
missblyss u are gorgeous!

I have a 3 year old brother and I would ask him if i'm pretty and he would say no especially when I don't play with him but stare at my phone. if I ask who's the prettier sister he would say my sis and if she asks him, he would say I am. he's Pluto dominant and he plays these little funny games with us mostly to make us laugh.

so maybe she said it because you haven't been focusing on her too much as well and thats how she got your attention.


you're really sweet to say that love

its just like... it kinda did seem to me like she really meant it. I think because im kinda a hippie and never wear makeup and stuff and she's more of a diva who wants to always wear dresses and makeup lol

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missblyss
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posted November 10, 2018 11:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
Hi MissBlyss,

Just some thoughts:

What your daughter said may be a reflection of the transit of Saturn to your natal Venus. Other than possibly making your budget tighter, this transit, from what I've read, will be a time when you re-evaluate your relationships and what you are getting out of them and putting into them. It's also a time when you may scrutinize yourself and your appearance--making you more sensitive than is usual. A lot of people with this Saturn square Venus (I have it right now, too, but my Venus is in Libra) will end up making changes like getting more sleep, taking better care of themselves, losing weight, change their hair color or style, clothes, music, etc. I might have responded differently to your daughter--even at 5 years old. What would you have done if she had tried to bite you or laugh at someone in a wheel chair? One of my nieces tried to kick people when she was around your daughter's age. We traced it back to the Power Ranger's cartoon. I'm thinking she's getting it from somewhere. Does she talk to your ex, her biological father, very often?

Spring


she never talks to her bio dad. like literally never except for her visits which are 2 hours 2 days per month. they never talk on the phone (she refuses)

I do think she's getting exposed to a lot of judge-y type of stuff through youtube and shows she watches. she's also just a really girly girl. loves to dress up and stuff. I realize that it is probably because I don't dress up in fancy dresses and wear makeup. that being said, I really can see that the issue with this was that it triggered a HUGE wound in me, like wow. I am usually pretty confident, but I was really depressed for like an hour, thinking that I was really just ugly and had to accept I and remembering every time I was ever rejected.. or whenever anyone said something bad to me about my appearance, it all came to the surface!

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missblyss
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posted November 10, 2018 11:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for missblyss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Would anyone wanna exchange?

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