posted February 03, 2019 11:19 PM            

I am having trouble seeing a way out of my current circumstances and was wondering if I will find joy again in a new life path?

posted February 04, 2019 12:21 AM            

I pulled some cards--asking what was coming up for you and got:

empress
5 of cups (rev)
hanged man (rev)
hierophant
tower (rev)
3 of swords (rev)
clarifiers: devil (rev), 10 swords (rev), judgement

Okay. It looks like you will see the woman that you were dating again--a reunion, but you won't be able to make the effort necessary to keep it going. Someone may come to help you--a platonic friend, but the cards are showing that you are following the old ways--in a rut. Then loneliness will follow. You will finally understand why this has all happened. Things will get better for you relationship wise, but that's only for a short time. Once you make peace with everything, you should experience a rebirth and improvement in your relationships.

posted February 04, 2019 01:19 AM            

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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
Hi Brendan,

I pulled some cards--asking what was coming up for you and got:

empress
5 of cups (rev)
hanged man (rev)
hierophant
tower (rev)
3 of swords (rev)
clarifiers: devil (rev), 10 swords (rev), judgement

Okay. It looks like you will see the woman that you were dating again--a reunion, but you won't be able to make the effort necessary to keep it going. Someone may come to help you--a platonic friend, but the cards are showing that you are following the old ways--in a rut. Then loneliness will follow. You will finally understand why this has all happened. Things will get better for you relationship wise, but that's only for a short time. Once you make peace with everything, you should experience a rebirth and improvement in your relationships.

Hope this helps,
Spring

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Thank you so much. I have been in that phase of trying to understand why everything happened. I guess you try and piece together your life. I really appreciate your consideration in doing this reading.

posted February 04, 2019 01:27 AM            

I couldn't sleep and remembered you needed help, but my card readings hadn't been flowing lately. Tonight they were better--maybe just a hiccup from last month's full moon. I was hoping one of the intuitive folks here would chime in and give you more detail. Based upon the cards I pulled, it may have had something to do with a set routine that got established in your relationship that never changed. That is very Capricorn like and with your Moon there, it probably makes you feel safer. If that makes sense. Maybe try doing searches on the internet for all your planets in their signs. When I first learned about astrology, I looked that stuff up in books, so I could better understand myself and why everything seemed to move really slow for me. I have my ascendant and two planets in Cap in the 1st house (including Saturn).

Take care,

posted February 04, 2019 01:35 AM            

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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
You're welcome Brendan!

I couldn't sleep and remembered you needed help, but my card readings hadn't been flowing lately. Tonight they were better--maybe just a hiccup from last month's full moon. I was hoping one of the intuitive folks here would chime in and give you more detail. Based upon the cards I pulled, it may have had something to do with a set routine that got established in your relationship that never changed. That is very Capricorn like and with your Moon there, it probably makes you feel safer. If that makes sense. Maybe try doing searches on the internet for all your planets in their signs. When I first learned about astrology, I looked that stuff up in books, so I could better understand myself and why everything seemed to move really slow for me. I have my ascendant and two planets in Cap in the 1st house (including Saturn).

Take care,

Spring

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Yeah, that's really insightful. I have been stuck in my routine here before she moved in. She wanted to move a while ago and it hadn't happened yet. That was mostly my fault but I didn't know how much it was impacting her until she told me it wasn't going to work. I blame myself a lot and am struggling with depression after the breakup. Part of me also felt like I wasn't receiving equal support in the relationship and wondered if we'd make it long term. The Cap. moon tends to make me really hard on myself.

When you pulled the cards, was there any indication of time, like how long it would take me to begin to understand things between us? To come to a resolution.

Thank you again for taking the time to respond.

posted February 04, 2019 10:53 AM            

As far as your Moon goes, there are others that may be more compatible with you--another person with Moon in Taurus or Virgo, and without some of the more independent planets in their charts like Sagittarius or Aries or Libra or Gemini or Aquarius. Water and Earth planets would be best, but some Leo might help to brighten up your day...and there would be some loyalty there, too. People with hard aspects to Uranus, like your ex, may not be there for the long haul. We learn through relationships to love ourselves even with our imperfections and to know what's best for us.

Hope this helps,

posted February 04, 2019 11:57 AM            

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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
I pulled some cards and the clarifier was the 8 of cups, so 8 weeks or 8 months? Hopefully just the 8 weeks.

As far as your Moon goes, there are others that may be more compatible with you--another person with Moon in Taurus or Virgo, and without some of the more independent planets in their charts like Sagittarius or Aries or Libra or Gemini or Aquarius. Water and Earth planets would be best, but some Leo might help to brighten up your day...and there would be some loyalty there, too. People with hard aspects to Uranus, like your ex, may not be there for the long haul. We learn through relationships to love ourselves even with our imperfections and to know what's best for us.

Hope this helps,

Spring

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This is very helpful in understanding as I am going through a transitional time which has been difficult. She was a Virgo moon, with Gemini Sun, Libra rising.

There are things I didn't take responsibility for in my own life during the relationship and I don't know why because I feel I am a responsible person.

If I gave you our birth info. do you think you could look and see if there is any indication we could have lasted together?

Mine is: 3/6/86, 11:28 am, Albany, NY

Hers: 6/10/89, 4 pm, San Jose, CA

posted February 04, 2019 07:09 PM            

I wrote down the birth info you gave me, so if you want you can edit it. I'm a bit tired, since I didn't sleep well last night, but will take a look at it in the afternoon tomorrow.

posted February 04, 2019 08:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
Hi Brendan,

I wrote down the birth info you gave me, so if you want you can edit it. I'm a bit tired, since I didn't sleep well last night, but will take a look at it in the afternoon tomorrow.

Spring

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Thanks so much Spring. I appreciate you being so attentive and taking the time. Another question I had if you have time to draw, is she seeing someone else? I feel like sending an email to breakup was a way to avoid emotion and then began to wonder if someone else was in the picture.

posted February 05, 2019 06:54 PM            

Thank you very much for taking the time to look at the current transits, I really appreciate it. It's helpful in learning/understanding.

Something in my gut tells me this isn't permanent but circumstantial and could change in time with work on my part. But I'd love to get your opinion on that.

posted February 05, 2019 08:44 PM            

Based on her chart do you truly think she is seeing someone else now? Is it a relationship that will last her?

Once again, thank you for taking the time.

posted February 05, 2019 08:52 PM            

She may have met someone and made the cut with you before she got things going with them. Neptune trine Mars (7th house, partnership ruler) is more transparent and open, which is the transit she is going through now. If it were square, I could see her possibly dating someone new and then calling it quits with you or someone else. She has Libra rising and life balance is important to her as well as being fair--in it's positive form. (I added/clarified it a bit)

I'm not an intuitive, so only possibilities and free will. Neptune isn't in her 7th or squaring venus in her chart, so if she did, it wouldn't have been hidden.

posted February 06, 2019 07:24 PM            

Just wondering, is there any indication from our charts that we could have remained together or were supposed to like a few months ago?

posted February 08, 2019 06:17 PM            

The relationship ending feels like it was my fault with not having my career path defined by now. I feel like I am to blame and am struggling with this guilt all the time. Is there any way you can tell by reading if it was mostly my fault or were we just on two separate paths?

posted February 08, 2019 07:27 PM            

This is most likely what happened and what I wrote earlier..just added "in her relationships" to it to clarity:

Your friend had Uranus transiting her 7th house cusp, so change was inevitable as she is now looking for more spontaneity and excitement as well as freedom in her relationships.

Nine years is a long time to be in a rut or routine as you stated this occurred early on in the relationship.

Your Moon in Capricorn (this sign tends to beat themselves up over things that they shouldn't). Don't torture yourself and just accept what happened as a learning opportunity. When you meet the right person one day, you'll be happy that she left. It's hard to think of it that way right now with transiting Mars in Aries squaring your natal moon, but it should get better in a week or so..the day after Valentine's Day oddly enough as transiting Mars then goes into Taurus and moves away from your natal Moon.

Hope this helps. Best wishes.

posted February 12, 2019 03:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Springtimeflower:
Hi Brendan,

This is most likely what happened and what I wrote earlier..just added "in her relationships" to it to clarity:

Your friend had Uranus transiting her 7th house cusp, so change was inevitable as she is now looking for more spontaneity and excitement as well as freedom in her relationships.

Nine years is a long time to be in a rut or routine as you stated this occurred early on in the relationship.

Your Moon in Capricorn (this sign tends to beat themselves up over things that they shouldn't). Don't torture yourself and just accept what happened as a learning opportunity. When you meet the right person one day, you'll be happy that she left. It's hard to think of it that way right now with transiting Mars in Aries squaring your natal moon, but it should get better in a week or so..the day after Valentine's Day oddly enough as transiting Mars then goes into Taurus and moves away from your natal Moon.

Hope this helps. Best wishes.

Spring

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Thank you again Spring. I really appreciate your wise words of encouragement. It’s difficult when you’re a really emotionally driven person because so much of you feels gone. All that understand, compassion and warmth. The connection being broken leaves you empty and alone. I know all things take time and learning. I don’t think I was growing enough. We weren’t stuck in a rut for 9 years but in recent months there were things I could have changed in my life, that I was in the process of changing but she got tired of waiting. Part of me also feels she was going to do her own thing regardless, she didn’t really communicate to reach mutual decisions.

The thing that angers me now is that I didn’t get closure since she sent an email without ever talking about her feelings or our relationship. For myself to move forward I feel like I need to see her once to gain closure and pay respect to the fact that we were a big part of each other’s lives. I feel like the email was another way of someone disregarding the other person.

Is there a chance we will talk? I have to give her things she left at my house anyway. Things she needs. If you can do a draw if things will be ok when we talk. Life is short and I’d hate to never have the chance.

posted February 12, 2019 06:33 PM            

judgement (rev)
chariot
8 of wands
page of coins
king of cups
wheel of fortune

There seems to be some delay and frustration along with deep worry on your part. You will make a quick decision to send a message to her, but it looks like someone, a do gooder, likes to learn, will respond (if that doesn't sound like her then it will be someone else). Someone who is considerate and responsible will help you or this is showing you becoming who you are meant to be. The wheel of fortune is showing that you are approaching the end of a problem and the outcome is up in the air. Anyways, I pulled more cards and a card that represents someone new popped up, so that seems to be on the horizon for you.

Maybe she knows that you would try real hard in discussions with her to get her to change her mind, but doesn't want that. These are my thoughts...

Hope this helps further..

posted February 12, 2019 08:28 PM            

-Brendan

Did you mean she will send someone else if I meet her or not necessarily? Maybe it wasn’t clear.

posted February 13, 2019 02:55 PM            

If what I described as a person who likes to learn and is a do-gooder, doesn't apply to what you know about your girlfriend (if this description doesn't fit her), then it will be someone else that responds to your message to her. Usually a queen card will come up for a woman, in this case a page card, which usually indicates someone bringing you a message. Either way, you should get a response.