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Sikanda
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posted February 15, 2019 06:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sikanda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello, I'm having a difficult little situation within a group in which I am working right now- I would like to edit this later on so please don't quote. Let's say their names are DR, DC, DF, PT and me. Well, it seems that I am not valued or appreciated by them. Question number 1 is: I would like to know why, because I don't know where this is coming from.

This is something I cannot fathom. Imagine you don't particularly like someone for a friend, ok. But if that person is in your team, you should still learn to work with them. Moreover, I am working on a project that motivates all of us, I am doing my task as best as I can, I also feel responsible for part of the success of the mentioned project and even if for whatever reason they don't like me, I think they should be smart enough to be able to get on with me at a professional level. I participate in the team with my designs, so I expect the director in the group to give me her feedback about them. In other words, I expect them to consider my contribution important enough to give it credit, or why else would I be there? Not to waste my time, that's for sure. And I feel like I am being terribly misunderstood, and it is frustrating because I do not know why. Someone else, DF, does the same work as I and his is taken into account, while mine is left unnoticed? I see how wrong this is, because when the teacher gives us comments he does place interest in my work, while my group is just being mean forgetting about it. I just don't want to go about pointing at it, but I want it to be genuinely considered. Because perhaps you might not like me, but my work might save you the day. So my second question is: I feel like I support them, but they don't support me back, should I treat them harshly?

So to conclude, there are two ways to look at this. First is, they are consciously treating me badly for a reason which I am not aware of. I wish I had at least a friend within the group so I could talk to them about what's going on, but I feel lonely. Also I don't reckon I did anything wrong to them.
Or it might actually be that I have to learn to speak my mind about what I don't like, maybe I should be more proactive as to ask them why when my designs get rejected, I want to uncover it when I feel that I am being treated unfairly.
I feel this is a lesson in self-care and self-love though, because then, I would be strong enough not to care about what they say. But I know it is wrong to let it go as if everything was going smooth.

What is the advice for me towards this situation? (third question)

Well, you can answer any of the questions and feel free to leave your questions, too. I will read them with the Self-Love Oracle. Thank you.

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Springtimeflower
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posted February 15, 2019 07:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Sikanda,

I read what you wrote and could relate in places where I've worked and in my own neighborhood. I pulled some cards and got pettiness, which is what it seems like your coworkers are doing--most likely talking about you behind your back. You didn't say if you and your coworkers were peers or if you had a senior position and you all report to the same boss, because abuse of power came up. People who deal with insecurities negatively tend to behave as you are describing and won't tell you face to face what they are thinking and therefore act in cowardly ways towards others.

The cards I got were:

strength (rev)
queen of coins
9 of swords
5 of coins (rev)
10 of coins (rev)
wheel of fortune

You will have to stand up for yourself as they see you as lucky and good at what you do. It's hard to find a way to make them feel good about the abilities they have without them thinking you are buttering them up. The fact that your boss/teacher has good things to say about your work (I'm thinking this happens in front of them) will reinforce those insecurities. This shows in the cards as pettiness. The cards are showing that things will start to go the other way--get better, but the odds of it getting much better are less likely. There is a change coming--for the better or worse...I pulled a few more cards and it's showing that you still won't understand them and will feel lonely (temperance (rev) and 9 of cups (rev).


I have a question: How will things go with the people in the community over the next couple of months? Thank you!


Spring

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Jazabel
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posted February 15, 2019 08:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jazabel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hey, Spring

I can exchange you if you are willing. what so your question?

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Springtimeflower
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posted February 15, 2019 08:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Jazabel

Hi!

How will things go for me with the community that I have been taking care of things for?

brb with yours..

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Springtimeflower
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posted February 15, 2019 08:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Jazabel

I got some interesting cards for your question:

4 of wands
moon (rev)
page of wands
king of wands (rev)
10 of coins (rev)
star (rev)
clarifiers:
justice (rev)
7 of swords


On one hand he wants to experience the romance, social, harmony, etc. that go with a good relationship and on the other hand he may not be telling you everything--something he is keeping hidden, but you'll see it before there are any problems. You'll receive some important news from a trusted friend. Is there someone that is intolerant, severe or austere in how they view life? That hasn't changed. Someone may be throwing caution to the wind when it comes to finances. It's showing that one of you will be letdown by all of this. Intolerance, false accusations, bias and unfairness. The last card is showing a repeated cycle...as when I pulled more cards I got regret and disappointment..

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Jazabel
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posted February 15, 2019 08:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jazabel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you, Spring

For you - I see that you really want things to work out for you and the community you are taking care of, you have your heart into it. you might have had past disappointments and are a bit wary and looking for unexpected blow, but rest assured- you will do well, the troubles are behind you now and you will be in control. You have gained wisdom and knowledge and know how to handle things. I see there will be a retribution for something done in the pass. Also, despite you doing your portion of the duties, I see a money loss from the community (5 of Pentacles) or someone might not do their portion of the responsibility . 5 of Pentacles is connected with the home and someone is left outside, hence - not doing what they had to do, but this has nothing to do with you, it's them. Overall, I see you doing a good job ( 9 of Pentacles + the Hermit)

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posted February 15, 2019 08:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Explain the retribution part...is that something involving the other people and not me?

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Jazabel
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posted February 15, 2019 08:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jazabel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
retribution part I am picking is about something unjust done to you in the past and now you get retributed for it, its like pay back time, or something like that, I don't understand it either, im just getting a feeling of you being cleared out on something from the past

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posted February 15, 2019 08:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know, R, one of the community members had spoken badly about the HOA/me last year to the staff at the library where I had the meeting. He didn't actually come to the meeting, but I saw his car out in the parking lot before I came in their door. I also think he has been telling people that I'm spending all their money on things they don't need--wasting it. I've only been maintaining stuff and not doing anything fancy.

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posted February 15, 2019 08:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I also think he got his step son to cut the wire to the sprinkler sensor. The money loss could be the woman who has two lots and won't pay--doesn't like having to pay for two, but the other person doing what I'm doing told her that before she bought it.

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Springtimeflower
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posted February 15, 2019 08:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do you have another question Jazabel?

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Jazabel
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posted February 15, 2019 08:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jazabel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Spring, I see....


as for me, that's for me for now, thank you, dear

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Springtimeflower
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posted February 15, 2019 08:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
okay..thank you so much Jazabel.

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Sikanda
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posted February 16, 2019 06:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sikanda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Springtimeflower, I did your reading, and the answer was

"* Spend Time Alone *

All decisions should be made by yourself. Give yourself the time and space to seek the answers within, rather than without.

You may be surrounded by too many external influences at the moment, and thus unable to connect and listen to your own heart.

Take some time away to be yourself. It is OK to turn down social invitations. It is OK to take a break. If you need to ask for the time away, then do so. The quantity of the aloe-time does not matter as much as the *quality*. That quality is determined by whether we are still running away from ourselves by using distractions, or if we are giving ourselves out full and undivided attention.

Giving ourselves our full attention, we may choose different ways of knowing ourselves. Perhaps all it takes is a quiet room, and pen and paper to write down our thoughts and dreams. Or maybe it will take hiking, jogging, or cycling out in nature, where our thoughts can work themselves out while we're engaged in silent physical activity. Sometimes, we may need a weekend alone by the beach or a silent meditation retreat.

We need the quiet spaces where the inner promptings from the heart can be heard, and for each of us, this may mean something different.
What's important is to allow yourself the time and space to listen to the quiet voice within".

I hope it resonates with your question, just let me know.
And thank you so much for your very detailed answer. Sadly, it resonates. I can see how pettiness is showing, and yes, I feel lonely. I hope the change is for the better.. We are peers, but I am older than they are. And we report things to the teacher as our 'boss'. Yes, he speaks of my work in front of them, in class.
I must admit it, though. I have also acted insecurely when confronting things with them, too. It is like a cycle in my life that I have been trying to break even since I was a kid, and I got much better at it. I think the only way for me to fix it is communication. And also self-care, self-love (when I do not sleep well for many days, I can have an emotional imbalance and that results in my not getting things right, and I feel I kind of should apologize for not having been responsible enough for my own health, thus annoying probably others too). I just hope they can understand and they can relate. Anyway, thank you for your answer.

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Springtimeflower
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posted February 16, 2019 08:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you Sikanda!

Your reading does resonate a lot for me, too! I know during times when I had fewer tasks tugging at me, I did get the answers I needed. I'm getting closer to finishing many of them and have also thought about going to the creek for a walk to just relax and be in nature.

I hope the change is positive for you as well.

Hugs,
Spring

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posted February 16, 2019 08:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Springtimeflower     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh, just a thought... when I wondered if I could keep up with the younger ones, I didn't try.. instead I just focused on my strengths..

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