posted May 05, 2022 06:41 PM            

So I'm at my wit's end here. I've been reading so much about negative influences of Uranus on 7th house transits and I'm literally weak at this point...9 year relationship I can see just disintegrating right before my eyes. He is having Uranus transiting near his 7th house but effects are already felt and I have opposite descendant to him so Uranus is conjunct my ASC, it will go hit it soon enough. I don't want to lose this man, I love him but I fear that the space and freedom he desires is more than I can give since I want family and marriage and he doesn't appear to want the same.... Any insight?
Has anyone here been able to ride out a Uranus in 7th house without divorce/break up or some really nasty surprise? We went on a break for a week just to give each other some space to think...now I'm thinking it may have been a mistake...I don't know...
I've read that marriage isainly in situations it's with a new person and not with the long term partner.

Here are our charts:

Me: [IMG]https://hosting.photobucket.com/images/i/Cappylove92/(edited)_Screenshot_20220502-003426_Chro me.jpg?width=1920&height=1080&fit=bounds[/IMG]

Him:[IMG]https://hosting.photobucket.com/images/i/Cappylove92/(edited)_Screenshot_20220502-003407_ Chrome.jpg?width=1920&height=1080&fit=bounds[/IMG]

Composite with transits: [IMG]https://hosting.photobucket.com/images/i/Cappylove92/Screenshot_20220506-003410_Chrome.jpg?wi dth=1920&height=1080&fit=bounds[/IMG]

Synastry:
[IMG]https://hosting.photobucket.com/images/i/Cappylove92/Screenshot_20220506-003457_Chrome.jpg?wi dth=1920&height=1080&fit=bounds[/IMG]

posted May 09, 2022 04:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Snake Lady:
CappyLove,
I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time. I can only imagine how heart-wrenching that must be.
From what I've learned, having opposing ascendants creates a deep bond between two people and a soul-level connection, so the idea of breaking up must be extremely painful.

What I can say about a Uranus regarding breakups is that Uranus forces us to approach things in a new way. I believe that breakups happen due to resistance to allowing a new way of seeing and approaching things. If your relationship has been overall healthy and you're coming to a point of sudden upheaval and it's connected to Uranus, you might want to get some outside help before you make any permanent decisions. It's likely that there's a strong reaction to things that have been building up over a long period unconsciously for both of you.
If you have access to a couple's counselor, I think it could provide the space for you both to communicate openly and lovingly with each other what changes you're experiencing and what might be at the root of it.
A break up is not necessary just because things are changing.
You'll just have to carefully evaluate what the changes are and if you're willing to make any adjustments.

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Hi Snake Lady,

Thank you for reading the charts for me.
I feel that you are right about all that, we are going through changes, but I think the biggest thing is that I, on a personal level seem to be changing what I want and how I want it. All of a sudden the things I wanted before and had in mind to do became really strong to the point that it caused some resistance in my partner. I guess the biggest thing also is that I need to be be proven that my partner is willing to change and especially compromise the way I have. It's crazy how that feeling just came about so strongly. The instigator of change is me, my partner is trying to resist and that's the whole issue. I cannot go to a couple's councillor as I live in a country where I don't speak their language at the level necessary to have really deep conversation but my family did help me get some clarity. I don't want to break up, I just want to change my relationship status to engaged and then married, start a family and move countries for career and better life if needs be...big changes indeed. If only my partner would stop resisting marriage...and travelling abroad for work...