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Topic: Why my boss had tears on his eyes when I said I would leave?
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FatedCinderella
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posted September 24, 2022 11:40 PM
  
Hey guys
Im heartbroked over leaving my current job.
I did quit because of distance and because my boss changed my schedule for a time that I coudnt keep going.He insisted to keep his decision despite knowing that I would probably quit but now that Im leaving his seems super sad.
Today I felt like I really wish I knew what he has on his mind cuz I totally dont understand him.
He IS a person I SIMPLY cant read. IP: Logged |
Librapurr
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posted September 25, 2022 12:20 AM
I’ve met similar dorks. Making things complicated for you, creating obstacles, but later acting like it’s you. I won’t be surprised if they make as they have nothing to do with it in their mind. Narcissists.In one situation, I’ve even heard that we did much for you from a person who did nothing, but a big problem for me. Some people have no shame IP: Logged |
FatedCinderella
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posted September 25, 2022 12:42 AM
Yeah thats really bad I totally get you.But on this case especifically...he seems to be a good person overall.
I made a mistake a few days ago and instead of giving me a headache because of it he came towards me,hold my hand and gave me a speech about How these things just happens and that I should just learn and grow.
All boys and girls on my work likes him.All of them have a nice relationship with him. To be honest Im the most distant...we just didnt connect with each other.Im more close with him now that Im leaving than before.
BUT YOU HAVE A POINT maybe he IS TRYING to look like he wasnt the one making me go away.
Maybe he IS just playing the victim.
I hope someone put some cards for me.My cristal ball aka intuition isnt working I cant read this person. IP: Logged |
Librapurr
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posted September 25, 2022 03:44 PM
It doesn’t mean he is a bad person at his core. Sometimes, it’s not really personal and people create us troubles by mistakes or poor judgment.“hold my hand and gave me a speech about How these things just happens and that I should just learn and grow.”
Sometimes those type of moments could give you insights.
It could be a chain of events, or desire not to be accountable, or when you’re in charge you need to make hard decisions. Or all together. I was thinking whether I should pull a card. And I got 7 of wands flashing. When I opened my fairly new Art tarot book, I’m not familiar with.
There was Edouard Manet quote “The country only has charms for those not obliged to stay there.”
There’s a French country house looking warm and welcoming in sunlight with an open door, but there’s no direct path to it. The trees is a fence. And the front of the painting doesn’t look welcoming as background. This place is secluded and protected. Don’t trust the easy and friendly appear, he isn’t open to you. He protects his position or somebody/ something else by his actions.
He keeps distance and doesn’t consider you’re trustworthy. Or since you said you were distant, he might think you’re not reliable because of it.
However, he has sympathy. Also, this card says about standing your ground and challenges. Other readers might get more details.
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FatedCinderella
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posted September 25, 2022 05:51 PM
Yeah I think it must be due to that.
It could be a misunderstanding but for a while I had this feeling like "he doesnt simpatize with me and I dont simpatize with him".Theres was this weird vibe between us.I have a HUGEEE part on this issue I think.
I was going through some heavy stuff when I met him and everyone become his friend but I didn't.I was highly focused with doing my work well.I feel like I was totally in the automatic pilot trying to cover my pain with my work.I was always extremely kind with everyone but I wasnt spending any time trying to be his friend.
I was totally indiferent about him.He for sure felt that.BUT I never did anything to make anyone THERE think I was a bad person.
I never ever said anything bad about anyone THERE.I never participate on gossips.I never had any fight with anyone despite some people trying to provoke me.
I feel like my self knowledge helped me a lot to become someone VERY PEACEFUL.However my pain made me to be OBSESSED with work and I forgot about CONNECTION.
He never truly tried to talk to me and I never truly tried to talk to him so I felt like we never could understood each other.Now I see that If he didnt try and I didnt try then it was impossible to trust each other.
While Im typing Im seeing things more clearly. I will make a good reflection about my behaviour the good and the bad to improve myself in the future. Plus there's a girl there who is VERY close to him and Im sure she doesnt like me.
She probably said a lot of bad things about me.When she found out I was leaving she tried to say "Im sad you are leaving" but you could see she was glowing inside.She wasnt able to hide it.Her face was like " I cant believe
this awesome new" lol She tried to pick fights with me but I ignored her completely in all her attempts. She does gossip about everyone including her own friends so I hardly believe she didnt said something about me. He didnt want me to leave and I dont want to go yet is almost done cuz I already found another job and I already gave my documents to the other company.
I always try sooo HARD to be mature but on this issue what a mess...we acted in a very childish way.Shame on me  THANKS A LOT LIBRA for pulling a CARD and for listening to me its good to vent with someone sometimes ♥️ PS: Forgive my bad english. IP: Logged |
Librapurr
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posted September 26, 2022 12:38 AM
You’re welcome.
It’s horrible when your job depends on one person you cannot click in. From your story, it might be something like a clique (close group) and not being trustworthy might be not only for him personally, but about not finding your place in a group/ company.
7 of wands is also about boundaries, protecting your position or being closed off.
If there’s some type of high-school situation where to be likable by couple people/ being a part of clique is more important than your efforts/ work, you shouldn’t feel sorry about leaving this situation and shouldn’t take the blame.
However, it’s helpful to find lessons.In addition, 7 of wands is not a really negative card. The house is welcoming, but you need to make it through the forest to get there. The obstacles could be overcome, but not without a fight.
You might not ready to fight or the obstacles are bigger than you (your schedule?), and that’s what he might be sad about. He expected you to try harder, but was closed off from your problems/ situation. IP: Logged |
FatedCinderella
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posted September 27, 2022 06:10 PM
Interesting.It makes perfect sense 
I will only work til october 3 but I will learn my lessons :/IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted October 04, 2022 02:26 PM
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Valmu83
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posted October 04, 2022 02:48 PM
Perhaps he felt he had failed.IP: Logged |
FatedCinderella
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posted October 04, 2022 08:17 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Valmu83:
Perhaps he felt he had failed.
Yes perhaps.I already left :/ IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted November 04, 2022 04:47 PM
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