posted February 18, 2007 11:37 AM
my ex-husband is asian and he has the thickest, most prolific hair i've ever seen.interesting, the question of hair 'ethnicity'...i look very caucasian, and my son does also, with very fine, light brown hair.
though in social settings, with people who know our background, they tend to focus, in a subdued negative way, on the 'ethnic' part of my son's heritage.
in a group almost entirely composed of blond haired, blue eyed people, my son's father's 'ethnicity' became a high point of the conversation. i was made the center of the group focus, and forced to give an account of his racial background. the questions were raised on account of his 'hair', which, as i said, is very fine and silky. no one else's ethnicity was discussed, nor commentary on the appearance of their children's hair and eye color.
i actually don't mind discussing my son's ethnic lineage...i'm very proud of him and who he is. it still distresses me though that people use this as a way to try to intimidate and belittle me. but more saddened for my son, that they would make an innocent child the object of such negativity and hate.
i was astounded that people still conduct their lives enmeshed in such bigotry. i thought these were such outdated preconceptions.
i have looked at ex-h's hair with envy on many occasions. how i'd love to have such thick shiny hair that grows so fast -- so luxuriant! i would love my son to have such beautiful hair...he got mine though...light, sandy, fine and silky...and those are the positive ways to describe it. 
Lindaland
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