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posted March 12, 2004 12:26 PM         

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"Choosife?"

I don't know from where
His staunch military mind-set comes
How can I give him a second glimplse,
into the distinct mortality fears I face?

I see so many other potential paths
for a warm-hearted masculine being such as he
His people skills and creative approach to life
lend themselves more to a public service without death

His caring mind and bravely gentle nature,
Overlooked and wasted in rigid routine
He doesn't belong in an early grave
Simply since no one encourages his other talents

I want to know twenty years down the road
that my dear "best" friend thought this choice thoroughly out
He deserves to know how precious his life is to many,
Irreplacable with n'er a doubt

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"Most people love with restraint
As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight

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posted March 13, 2004 01:50 PM         

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Superb.

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posted March 13, 2004 11:23 PM         

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Randall, appreciate the feedback. Crazy question...should I share it with him?

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"Most people love with restraint
As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight

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posted March 13, 2004 11:32 PM         

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I would.

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posted March 14, 2004 10:27 AM         

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This Title is an easy one.

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posted March 14, 2004 04:57 PM         

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Thanks for the encouragement, Randall. So, basically, you don't think he'd be offended by me butting farther into his business, in essensce, attempting to direct his life decisions if he has Mercury and Mars in Cancer, Moon in Aries? I don't know how strong an importance he gives to the relationship "best" friend...I don't want to overstep my bounds and scare/anger him away.

Yep, I know the title was a giveway...I tried other options, this one just fit best.

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"Most people love with restraint
As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight

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posted March 14, 2004 08:58 PM         

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Best friends should be able to tell each other things of importance, otherwise, what do we need friends for? Best or not. If you approach the topic with love and kindness, he can't help but feel flattered that you have thought about his destiny, and the fact that you want him involved in yours... Which means also presenting him with the ideas that YOU think would benefit him and just plain FIT him as a person. Which in turn, says to him that you know him and have thought about him in many ways, cementing your relationship further. He will know you care, if he doesn't already.
*he does*
I would absolutely tell him with tact and sweetness that you think he'd be better suited to -_______- and not to sell himself short, and that you would support him and help in any way you could.
My onion.

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posted March 15, 2004 08:38 AM         

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That's a sweet and true way of putting it, pixelpixie. I hope he'd interpret it as such caring. I know his mom isn't all that thrilled about him going into this and thinks it doesn't suit him, and he respects her opinion too, but I think deep down (and this is just my theory), that he's somehow trying to prove himself better, and therefore more macho, than his very intellectual Scorp/Aqua bro. Still he's so darn determined when he wants to be, and believes he's right.

BTW, other sibs of his are pretty open about wanting him to go away, and don't seem to place much value on his life and expendablity. Mind you, these are people he's never exactly gotten along well with, yet I don't think that helps his self-image/self-worth.

I love him, and can't imagine losing him so young, and also think it would be a darn shame if he didn't live to have kids of his own (as he's always been great with them), and raise them to adulthood.

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"Most people love with restraint
As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight

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posted March 18, 2004 01:20 PM         

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to the top....

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As if they were someday to hate
We hated gently, carefully
As if we were someday to love"-Venus Trines at Midnight

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