posted May 25, 2019 12:11 AM            

The things that you treasure,
that matter to you
were the things you least often
wanted to do

It took an earthquake of your home,
and a tornado through your heart,
for the jewels in your hand to be seen,
and valued apart

Why did it take devastation,
for your priorities to shift?
Why did you take the necessary steps,
only after the rift?

And how can you look me,
squarely in the eye,
and tell me you miss me,
forgetting the why of our goodbye...

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posted May 27, 2019 10:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Ayelet:
Too sad...

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posted May 29, 2019 03:56 PM            

When I had to divorce my ex1, for MONTHS beforehand, I "begged" him to think hard and "imagine" what it would BE like AFTER the fact. That we could work to fix-things NOW, and avert the horrible pain that occurs afterwards. I was sooooo willing!

We even went for marriage counseling--- but after two meetings, the counselors told me that my husband lacked the ability to 'put himself in someone else's perspective'. He wouldn't be able to 'project' himself INTO the future, and FEEL it, and decide if 'that' was what HE still wanted?

*crickets*
I found out a number of years later, that he wasn't a good person. It was actually for "his daughters' protection" that it was good he left. {I had forgotten about that!! I tend to remember the good-- then forget the 'why', as you said.}
The breaking of a marriage is bad.
Sometimes, staying in a wrong (and harmful) situation, would be worse. {I forgot that.}

Takes a lot of TLC to KEEP a marriage.
Takes even more when it ends.