posted January 27, 2009 10:39 PM           

I'm a Scorpio - and there is ZERO CHEMISTRY between us as this is someone who is beyond any level of moodiness I have EVER KNOWN. And mind you - I KNOW MOODINESS - considering I'm a Scorpio Sun with a Pisces moon.
But this person is mean-spirited, moody, very passive-aggressive, lonely, bitter and sarcastic.
This Cancer female THROWS A STONE AND HIDES HER HAND.

Give me a primitive, explosive Scorpio ANY DAY thank you very much over someone like this who is just beyond my comprehension.

Give me a feisty loud Aries, a proud Leo ANY DAY - I think that is much healthier - people get mad, people express it and move on but I frankly do not know how to deal with someone like this woman who is so moody and at ANY SECOND could turn nasty on you and seems to keep her true feelings hidden only to come out in nasty little other ways.

posted January 27, 2009 10:50 PM         

I have no idea how I deal with Cancer moon females, but I really like them for the most part, which is weird.

posted January 27, 2009 11:16 PM         

Passive-aggressive people are trying to ensnare you in their emotional crap and make you feel like it's your fault.

My advice would be to just NOT emotionally engage with her. I don't just mean when you're dealing with her directly, but even when you're alone and thinking about her. Her behavior stirs up emotional energy that, if you have any watery tendencies yourself (or maybe even if you don't), will lure you into being passive-aggressive too. Don't allow that!

posted January 28, 2009 12:22 AM         

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...And the ones who are on a CONSTANT emotional TIRADE...extremely bitter, and draining...I fall into my lukewarm soup thinking about it.

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ahh i see where my mom gets it. she's an aqua w/cancer moon. P-S-Y-C-H-O

posted January 28, 2009 12:50 AM           

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passive-aggressive people are the #1 on the list of things that p!ss off my aries mars.

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I'm 100% with you on that Dulce- nothing gets my Aries Mars goat more than passive-aggressiveness too.

My mother has a Cancer moon..and she specializes in passive-aggressive emotional tirades.

posted January 28, 2009 01:08 AM           

COuldn't help but laugh when i read your post because I'm a cancer sun (only a few teeny degrees in cancer so i got a whole lotta gemini going on) and i passive aggresiveness is my specialty.

I have the same prob with some scorps. The more intense they are, the more i feel like im up against them cos we're such similar sign. Some scorps i just DO NOT get along with. Perfect eg.

At my old work (i was a stripper), when i started we had a manager who was a lovely scorp. We got real close and she was like my counsellor inside AND outside of work. We had an open relationship with free communication.
Then she left and we got a new dance manager who was also scorp. We were like 2 opposites, we'd ignore each other, she'd play favouritism games with the other girls, id only speak to her when i needed to put in my roster for the following week. We just couldn't find any common ground, even though we had heaps in common. I just hated her. SO yeah, it totally depends on teh cancer and scorp and what else is in their chart.

Also, from a psychology POV (ive studied it at uni for years now), everyone has 2 diff personalities when it comes to work and how they are normally. You'll probably find that you both get along really well outside of work but just cant get along with each others work personalities.

Cheers

posted January 28, 2009 10:53 AM         

That's the last thing you wanna do to a cancer person, well let me say you can even regret later, they are on of the most lovely person you will ever come across.

posted January 28, 2009 03:22 PM           

I work with an Aries Sun, Sag moon who just doesnt shut the f*&k up!
Never!!
She is like a 30 year old child.
She talks and talks and talks and talks at a high pitched decibel about the most menial things and at the end of the day, I just want to punch her.
She can really get me into a bad mood.
Yesterday, she was asking me about the nutritional content of a banana!,what I thought about turning down the top of her boots, what I think about this person, that person...and when I do not pander to her whims, she calls me moody!

Truth is she's right.
She makes me soo moody.
But it doesnt help to converse with her because she doesnt get it. Or she just wants to feed off the conversation.
God sent her to test me and I just gotta figure out what it is!
Anyway I digress.....

Thing is all I want when I'm in one of those moods is to be left alone.
I am silent and I am still and I do not infringe myself on anyone.
I do not want attention. I just want to feel it and it dissapates.
But when I see that someone is expecting something from me...you know, with the sideways comments, with the backwards glances, with the ganging up with the other team memeber so that I am the 'bad one'..it just pi$$es me off even more.
My most fabulous trait is my ability to just let people be.
Especially when they are moody, and only when they keep it to themseleves.
Now when they infringe upon my personal space in a physical way because of that mood....then thats something else.
and I will not hesistate to tell them to back off.

posted January 28, 2009 04:36 PM           

1. Ignore her entirely, grunt in response if you must, and waste absolutely no thought on what she's complaining about at all. Go on about your day OR

2. This is risky. You'd have to be fairly close with her emotionally to pull it off...but um, they sort of back off and purr like kittens if you lay it down on them hard.

Usually, their fussing isn't what they're upset about, it's just something to fuss about because they're unhappy. So, for instance, let's say my mother starts calling to ***** and moan about how I left a soda out on the table the last time I visited. I'll simply ask if she called just to pick a fight with me. 'Don't come out here just to pick a fight' seems to be a key phrase that gets through to her. If you're bold, you may try number 2 in a similar way.

posted January 28, 2009 07:16 PM           

She might have a Taurus moon and if so, then she also has her Mars in Cancer.

We work next to each other Hooray. (I'm being sarcastic). Thus making it impossible to avoid her, not see her, completely ignore her.....although I try...I'm trying..

I put on my "Dont F with me" face just so that I'm not a victim of her rude comments and passive-aggressive ways. I find myself controlling my REACTION to her...

I do not know what to think of this person.