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Mysticr
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posted February 05, 2009 03:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mysticr     Edit/Delete Message
I'm having trouble trying to work this out at the moment. I've become friendly with a colleague at work. She's a really nice girl and was the first person to befriend me when I started my job last year. However, I just don't know if her friendliness is genuine. I don't have many friends and in the past I've made bad choices where people are concerned and have been let down badly.

Sometimes I don't mind being in this woman's company. She's very open with me, despite not knowing me very well, and tells me all about her life and her relationship. But sometimes when she's near me, I feel a chill go down my back and I just want to run away from her. I'm very sensitive to other people's energies (Jupiter 8th, Leo 12th). The woman's energy isn't negative; it's just intense and overwhelming.

I'd like to invite her to exhibitions I get invites to, and the left hand of my Libra scale, says 'Go ahead invite her', but the other half screams 'No way, don't do it'. To make things worse, I've been having recurring dreams about my friend and her boyfriend, who is also a colleague, bullying me. Even though they're just dreams, it's starting to affect me in the waking and makes me feel more vulnerable when I'm around both of them.

Also her boyfriend has caused some confusion within me too. Before they started dating, my intuition made me believe he liked me as I was getting signals from him, and to some extent I still am even though he seem to be crazy about my friend.

This whole situation makes me feel like packing in my job and the dreams are upsetting me. Looking at all three of our charts, could the couple become good friends of mine, especially the woman, or is it best that I try to avoid them? I'd really like to know whether I should bring these people into my life and confidence.

The woman and I are both sensitive and highly emotional, she a Cancer Sun, me a Cancer Moon, but perhaps we're too similar to be friends. What do you reckon? I'd be very grateful for any comments you may have.

My chart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?rs=3;btyp=w2gw;cid=mzmfilewiFJv P-u1233782847;go.x=19;go.y=2;nhor=1;nho2=1

Friend’s chart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?go.x=19&rs=3&btyp=w2gw& cid=mzmfilewiFJvP-u1233782847&go.y=2&nhor=2&go.x=26&go.y=7

Friend’s boyfriend’s chart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?go.x=19&rs=3&btyp=w2gw& cid=mzmfilewiFJvP-u1233782847&go.y=2&nhor=3&go.x=15&go.y=8

Many thanks
Miss Mystic

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amowls
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From: Falls Church, VA, USA
Registered: Apr 2009

posted February 05, 2009 05:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for amowls     Edit/Delete Message
Reading this made me think you had strong Scorpio influences and I was right. Obviously you take friendships very seriously, and the fact that you stated that you haven't had very many friends in the past due to them being not good enough really sang "SCORPIO" loud and clear to me.

I think you need to chill and just enjoy this friendship as it is. Do not make heavy demands that put more of a burden on the relationship than there has to be. You obviously fear betrayal. Do not let your fear get in the way of a potentially fulfilling relationship.

Your Moon widely conjuncts her Sun. She feels comfortable around you and you want to be there for her. Her Moon opposes your Neptune... she may feel like she has to fit an idealised mold you have for her which can be emotionally stifling. Your Scorpio stellium is in her third house, probably why she feels she can be open with you about her life even though you guys don't know each other very well. Your Saturn is exactly conjunct her Mars, so the potential for you to stifle her is really there.

I did a tarot reading to see whats up and basically you have really high ideals about this friendship and you fear her backstabbing you. You should look inward and figure out the root of your fear to get over it.

In summary:
You have high standards when it comes to friends
You fear being betrayed by a close friend
Your friend doesn't want you to be disappointed in her
You might stifle her with your standards and this will burden the friendship making your fear a self fulfilling prophecy.

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