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Topic: 12th house moon...need help!
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taurusvirgoleolady1974
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posted February 18, 2009 07:34 AM
 
Every day i take an hour lunchbreak from work and come home. this 12th house mooner HAS to have this time to regenerate and it carries me through the rest of my work day. i absolutely need this time to myself. anyway i have an old "friend" who is a funny aqua girl that started working there two weeks ago. let me explain our relationship. as soon as i met her ten years ago we clicked, i loved her to pieces, like a sister. (shes packed with aqua and im packed with pisces) shortly thereafter i realized she would not be a constant friend and it broke my heart but i never told her. i only talk to her about twice a year. i love her so much that im always here for her and i cant help but be her friend, basically, at her convenience. thats how i see it anyway. the only time i saw her in '08 was when her boyfriend took her car and she needed something to do while he was out partying because it was upsetting her. otherwise i havent talked to her until now. Now all of a sudden we are close. ya right. she would not even be talking to me if she wasnt working with me. what a friend. ok this is the deal. she asks me every day "what are you doing for lunch" EVERY DAY. i started on a lie bc i didnt want to hurt her feelings. so almost every day i have to tell her a lie but in actuality, I REALLY NEED MY HOUR TO MYSELF! but she is so sensitive i dont know how to tell her this. she already has a funny look on her face when i tell her i am going to my moms for lunch,etc. why do i feel bad? when she comes over which is twice a week i am totally drained for the rest of the day. i know she loves me in her own way, i mean she is aqua. fly by night, she is. what do i do! help!IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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posted February 18, 2009 07:45 AM
I hear you, I have a 12th house moon too. One of the worse experiences is when I cannot get my privacy (and being a Virgo really, really adds to this) and I feel I am going to rip someone's head off.I know other people will say tell her the truth, and I think you *should*, but really, if you say she's so sensitive, maybe she's going to take it the wrong way. And if you work with her....well...it could complicate things further. I don't think you need to lie to her, but I don't think you need to elaborate what you're doing either. If she presses you, then tell her the truth. I get people thinking I'm rude sometimes when I am not in a social mood and just want to be left alone. No way to make them change their mind. But in truth, if they are friends, they would understand a little bit and be accepting of your needs, don't you think? It's not an easy situation, you have my sympathy. IP: Logged |
taurusvirgoleolady1974
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posted February 18, 2009 08:08 AM
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and being a Virgo really, really adds to this
umm ya doesnt it? your exactly right. last week when she came over i was on my computer the whole time and hardly looked at her, i was so irritable. hows about i just tell her "Look, my moon falls in the 12th house. i absolutely need you to find something else to do." she would really freak out. lol!
good advice, btw.
i know she sees it in my eyes when she asks me, but she is so spoiled by her mother, i think it has something to do with it. she wants to get her way, as far as being needy, she expects to be taken care of. i want to tell her "im not your damn mother!" hee hee! IP: Logged |
Aloof_Obsession
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posted February 18, 2009 08:42 AM
Thanks for the info on the 12th house Moon aspect.I have a friend who has a Taurus Moon in the 12th, and have always gotten the impression she wants to be left alone. I never could be sure whether this was about me or about her, but with the Moon in the 12th I'd like to think it's not me that is causing her to withdraw. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted February 18, 2009 09:47 AM
I have 12th house moon in Aqua..Strange stuff..IP: Logged |
Deliverance
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posted February 18, 2009 10:00 AM
LOL I'm exactly the same.taurusvirgoleolady, I can totally empathise with what you're going through. (3rd House Pisces Moon conjunct IC) I'm doing a course at the moment, which I love, the group work is fantastic. every time there's a break everyone together for a cup of tea & a chat. I go off & sit by my self. (In full view of the people I'm training with.) I get on with a few people and I have explained that I go off by myself, no to be anti social, but to get some space & to recharge for a bit. I don't feel bad about saying it at all, you wont hurt someone's feelings if you explain that *you* are the sensitive one who needs some space. Im sure some people in the group think I;m rude, but I dont mind, I rather be thought of a rude than feel drained in the company of others. I go through months of not seeing friends because I need the space. My close friends understand that its my personality. I'm still available to them via text or email. They know its not personal.
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taurusvirgoleolady1974
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posted February 18, 2009 10:10 AM
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every time there's a break everyone together for a cup of tea & a chat.
yes the thought of chatting, drinking tea, or going out to eat instead of recharging makes me drained just thinking about it.
i dont know why i cant tell her. i just didnt expect her to be asking me every single day, i thought she would take the hint. sometimes i think well she never thinks about my feelings, but i just love her to death. but she is irritating the crap out of me. guess this is not only a 12th house moon issue, but a long lasting history i have with my aqua sisters as well. as much as they have hurt me, i have never gone off on any one of them (taurus sun) which can be my forte at times when someone hurts me. i simply love them too much.IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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posted February 18, 2009 03:46 PM
I have a 'friend' (in quotes because I'm not sure we even really are anymore) who comes into my life every few months and demands I talk to her on the phone. Ok, not talk - listen to her for about 3-4 hours (no joke)...as she just dumps and asks nothing.
I don't say anything because she seems to need someone to just listen, but sometimes I find it really overwhelming - it's similar to not having privacy. I want to hang up, but I feel like she's going to cry lol
Still, it's getting pretty annoying after about a year and a half of this. I feel like her dumping ground.
I don't have the heart to criticize her, but I'm scared of my own temper potentially - like I might just completely rip her a new one eventually  So, I think it's like trying to keep the feelings in check and deal with them...I think the 12th house moons can hold in feelings for way too long .... IP: Logged |
cheshirekat
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posted February 18, 2009 05:22 PM
This explains alot, Im a Virgo Sun/Pisces Moon with Neptune it the 1st house and I felt like such a "donkey" because I would always spend time to myself for months plus I have to drive all the way across town to see friends and stuff and my older sister is in her 20's with children and she does her own thing. I've had to learn to do things by myself in solitude and I've grown accoustemed to being by myself for long periods of time.Like it's natural for me but when you have a group of outgoing friends mixed with introverts, the introverts understand my behavior but the extroverts find it unnatural and cold. At times it's hard but I've learned to balance my need for solitude and my need to be social. You should tell her, I know I had a hard time telling my Aries best friend that I needed a few months to myself but it's better to tell your friend then to just leave them hanging and having them feel like they did or have done something wrong to you. IP: Logged |
taurusvirgoleolady1974
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posted February 18, 2009 06:15 PM
mvm, scared of your own temper? we are similar, i say that all the time about my temper. people wonder why sometimes i appear to be passive. if they only knew. IP: Logged |
ScotScorp
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posted March 29, 2009 04:18 PM
Hey TVLL1974!I'm a 12 house Leo Moon. I actually make Sundays my recharge day, as in... don't call me, don't bother to ask me out/over, etc. That really works for me, considering I can get by with 10 minutes of quiet every day for the rest of the week. Have you thought about asking Ms. Aqua out to dinner instead? My bf is another Ms. Aqua who doesn't quite get my Sunday thing either, so you have to find another arrangement to pacify her IF you WANT to.
At this point, blunt honesty is probably not going to help you w/the Aqua. I hope things are going okay now w/her.  Angela
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