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posted February 24, 2009 04:28 PM            

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posted February 24, 2009 04:42 PM            

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i feel this way, but im not a watersign, and have little water in my chart.

do you have 11th house cusp on taurus by any chance?

do you have any leo planets?

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posted February 24, 2009 04:47 PM            

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Doesn't everybody feel like this?

I guess that is a stupid question.
I hate to mingle and I am terrible at it. I am too genuine. I also feel the same about loyalty and love etc.
I have moon in the first house, so maybe that is it.

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posted February 24, 2009 04:52 PM            

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I think that everyone feels like this but it is a valid question. I think the truth to the question is why do you feel like that? People have different reasons for not wanting to mix with others and seeing others mix and as a result feeling left out.

I suggest you look to your 7th house and what is in it. I tried it on myself and it worked.

I'll use myself as an example. I have Libra DC with Moon and Pluto on the DC. Uranus is on the 7th. With Moon and Pluto I seek deep and emotional relationships. With Uranus in the 7th, I seek loyalty but I like to keep my distance. With Libra DC, I seek fairness and partnership. As you can see, I have a lot of criterias to satisfy before you're my friend. Unfortunately, I've rejected most of the human race because (1) My Pluto is a sh*t detector and most people are full of it, are not sincere and are insipid; (2) Most people are rude and are not fair.

Maybe you should have a look there too.

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posted February 24, 2009 05:01 PM            

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Hah, I'm a Libra and just as painfully introverted. I've got Moon and Mercury square my Ascendant (but not conjunct each other) so my social life has always been nonexistent. Also I have Saturn square my Sun, Mercury, and Mars.

I have always been the type of person who has one friend at a time. Venus/Pluto conjunction in Scorpio makes it easy for me to put all my concentration onto one person, and most of the time it weirds the other person out too much. I always maintain the typical Scorpio attitude that they just couldn't handle me lol. Maybe it is something to do with water signs, but I would look to the natal aspects to look for things like introversion and self-seclusion.

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I'm like this and I'm a pisces, but I've got a cardinal grand cross with mars in cancer, venus in aries, moon and jupter in libra, and neptune and uranus in capricorn, and then I've got a scorpio rising too. And yes, pisces mercury and scorpio pluto, if you're looking for all my water.
In fact, add aquarius saturn, and I think that's all my planets (and asc.).

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I have always been the type of person who has one friend at a time. Venus/Pluto conjunction in Scorpio makes it easy for me to put all my concentration onto one person, and most of the time it weirds the other person out too much. I always maintain the typical Scorpio attitude that they just couldn't handle me lol. Maybe it is something to do with water signs, but I would look to the natal aspects to look for things like introversion and self-seclusion.

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wal - i have venus in Scorpio conjunct pluto, and i'm a Libra. now that you've said this, i kinda think it applies to me too! i i just can never have a huge array of friends. there's only one or two i be my true self to, the rest are just small talk friendships with no meaning.

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My Pisces friend from the 6th grade on, is very to herself and her group of friends. She feels comfortable around people who have similar interests, are loyal, are themselves at all times, considerate, and caring.

The three Scorpios are very popular and have an abundant of friends and do very well with all types of people but for love they like deep, loyal, passionate, understanding partners.

The two Cancer girls are a mixed bag, could be because their Cardinal Water.

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posted February 24, 2009 07:07 PM            

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Actually, the only other person I ever met who was exactly like me in this regard was a major Earth: Sun, Moon, Mars, Chiron, and Mercury in Taurus, and Venus, Saturn, Uranus, and Neptune in Capricorn. She had a lot of squares and quincunxes in her natal chart and yeah...our friendship was pretty intense. We were so, so "there" on the same level at first but I started to grow in different directions and she didn't take it well, being an earth person and not open to change...we had some seriously bad aspects involving Neptune, Pluto, and the Nodes.

Her Pluto WAS in Scorpio, but Pluto moves so slow that I can't really believe every Scorp Pluto is like this.

And yeah, Libras are supposed to be the social butterflies of the zodiac lol. When I get to know someone I definitely act out my Libran qualities, always flirting and joking around, but because my Saturn squares my sun and mars in Libra you have to get past him first...Saturn in Capricorn is definitely not a "social butterfly" placement.

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posted February 24, 2009 07:10 PM            

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This is interesting.

the older I have become the more selective I have become. I talk to everyone but I only consider very few people my "friends"
Even though im very easy to talk to and friendly.

I have Saturn in my 11th house, so maybe thats it?
nothing in my 7th house.

Look to your house of friends, perhaps thats where the answer lies.

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posted February 24, 2009 10:21 PM            

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Yeah, as a water sun I'm very selective with my friends, but I have scorpio on the 11th and Cancer on the DC so that might be a factor. I also have a gemini venus so I do have acquaintances too, but they're acquaintances and not friends for a reason.

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posted February 24, 2009 10:55 PM              

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Not that I have perfect friends though. My best friends have been Aquariuses, but I don't really hang out with them that much. I am more regularly in contact with a Leo, Sagittarius, & Aries, actually.

I think the reason for this is that explaining myself is exhausting, so an Aquarius who (though aloof as an Aquarius) is not stupid, or spoiled at least, I enjoy the company of most. While a Leo wants deepness and strait forward sincerity, and this particular one is spoiled and stupid, which leads him to be unrealistic, and falsely pretentious who you just can't tell is wrong, when he is every time, and of course wants to be admired. The reason I hang out with him really, is because he's lonely, and I'm lonely.

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posted February 24, 2009 10:56 PM            

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I feel this way about people and the only sign in my chart in water is Mercury in Scorpio. I have mostly fire and air in my chart.

I'm a Sag sun with Mars & Asc in Sag as well; you'd think I would be more extroverted and gregarious. I can be, but can be reserved and save my energies for people I know well. Having Venus in Libra doesn't help I'm very particular.

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posted February 24, 2009 11:03 PM            

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Well, I have periods when I am so selective that I will lose contact with some people completely on purpose, and then, I have periods when I just become uber-social and will go out there to meet lots of new friends, superficial or not. I have cancer asc,scorpio sun, aries moon.

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posted February 24, 2009 11:53 PM            

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I have a Cancer Sun. I'm not selective about friends. There's a very fine line between selectivity and exclusivity I think. Sometimes I behave a little like a social butterfly because I have so many varied group of friends.
Varied groups not only just different cliques but people from all walks of life with different philosophies and way of living.

I think everyone is interesting and beautiful in their own way. I usually...ok who am I kidding, I always want to find out more about people. Their inner selves, deepest desires, dreams and all that. Probably it's the Plutonic influence in me that makes me so investigative.

I realise that perhaps deep down, there are really no shallow people. Just people who are adept at playing the social game, masking their true selves or holding deep burdens/wounds.

But I feel drained at parties, I prefer my interaction one-to-one or in a very small group. Personal, intimate and fascinating.

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posted February 25, 2009 02:01 AM              

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im a cancer, albeit on the gem/can cusp so im astrologically scizophrenic. On one hand i can mingle and socially interact in different groups in many diff situations like a chameleon gemini but i often need seclusion and keep a small, tight group of close friends i spend time with privately.

SO yeah, very selective about who i include in my private circle. I'm the most extroverted introvert ever

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posted February 26, 2009 10:29 PM            

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I have aries on the DC and no planets there, 23. But maybe pluto in the 1st could add to the reason for this. Could you also be clearer on what specific different reasons ppl may have for feeling others find more ppl to get along with? Kinda foggy on that one

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Well I think that you in relationships or developing relationships are very straightforward and honest and you seek people of a similar quality because your DC is in Aries. If you catch anyone lying, being deceitful etc you really don't like it. You might associate shallowness with this maybe. The Pluto in the first with you indicates a part of your personality and maybe what others see in you and how you act with others. Because you are intense in nature and expose this, naturally a deep person will want to find another deep person. Or maybe you are deep and can't see anyone that matches that often.

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I seem to be choosy in who I hang around with and I'm not crazy about welcoming new faces/strangers into my space for some reason. usually I gravitate to the ones who seem warm towards me and the ones who seem distant or don't seem to care I don't bother with. I live in a scary building with 80 apartments and all walks of life in here. I don't live in a friendly city and need to have that aloof stance about myself.

It could be my Moon in Cancer. Sometimes I think I have all the friends/family I need.

So I come across as very hard to get to know and enigmatic to most. (My life path is 7 - we have this hang up about trust and openness and most of us could live life as a hermit...)

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posted April 15, 2009 10:56 PM            

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I hate mingling. Saturn opposite ASC, for you. That kills all my airish sensibilities towards mingling.

In general though, Pisces (as a water sign), loves everyone. Cancers are usually more shy and would be prone to less mingling and Scorpios of course hates the fakeness of it.

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posted April 17, 2009 12:37 AM            

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Ya I think water signs would be the most selective about the people they surround themselves with for a bunch of reasons.
We are the most sensitive of the elements so I think its a defense mechanism that innately kicks in and sheilds us from people who we think might or could hurt us.
Also true is the fact that we are looking for relationships with people who have that similar depth to their personalities and emotions. On the surface, shallow people- I can't relate to.
And also, we feel everything so strongly with our perception that we can meet someone and instantly know that something is wrong with them or that they are bad or possess some sort of negative quality that we don't like.
I guess it's kind of a gift and a curse at the same time...Sometimes I meet someone and get that icky feeling about them and the other people around or friends of mine look at me like im crazy cuz i didnt like them straight off the bat. At times I've thought myself too critical but if I feel that way there must be a good reason.
Sun Venus Jupiter in Scorp
Moon in Pisces

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posted April 17, 2009 05:05 AM            

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What's your rising sign? That could be significant.

My instinctive response was no, I don't dislike most people I meet, and I don't have a problem mingling. I'm a Gemini Sun, with Libra Moon.

But I'm a Scorpio Riser. Few people I meet I would want to get close to ~ and I do take instinctive likings or dislikings to people.

But I wouldn't want to be dismissive and judgemental. This is where my first house Jupiter/Neptune in Sag gets involved (it is in contact with my Moon and Pluto, chart ruler). I find that if I tune into people I will get to understand them, and so at least tolerate them, as for those rare cases of someone I could not find palatable in any way, I would probably not stay around for long.

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