posted March 09, 2009 03:19 AM           

I am having terrible, awful heartwrenching experience right now in the love department. My relationship has always had its ups and downs, and late last year my partner was diagnosed with two mental illnesses and placed on medication. Under those circumstances, I feel that it is my duty to mother him from a far (it is a long distance relationship) and protect his well being, while simultaneously trying to keep the romance and passion alive. Now due to the illness, I feel I have been neglected and not a priority in his life for the past two years. Anyhow, after my friend's dad's death, severe money issues and him coming up to try and help relieve me, he completely stopped contact with me. It has been almost a month with scarce text messages. I can't really find myself to explain any further because it is so confusing and to be frank-i can't handle it.

posted March 09, 2009 10:23 AM         

It might be time to both take space from the relationship, and for you especially to focus on your own life and career.

My advice would be to tell him (via email) that you will be there for him if he wants and needs you--that you are a phone call away--but that until then, his silence is causing you too much agony and you will not be in touch. Then call him to follow up the email, tell him you love him, and tell him to be in touch when he wants to. Also let him know how important it is that he turns to SOMEONE for support instead of feeling all alone...encourage him to turn to his closest family members for support.

And then--spend every day "doing your Jupiter"!! The astrologer Anne Ortelee is always talking about "doing your Saturn", all the hard work and discipline of tending to your challenges. But I think people should also do their Jupiter, to bring joy, expansiveness, abundance and relief to their lives.

Your Jupiter's in Leo in your 10th house, near your MC (not sure how near, just took a quickie glance at your chart in the Soul Unions thread)...that means you can bring joy and expansion to your life by doing Leo things, and 10th house/ career things.

Leo things: perform! Also, anything to do with creativity, fun, play, the loves of your inner child, drama, and good hair. (Kidding about that last one. Sort of.)

10th house things: working on your status, setting firm career goals and working towards them, deciding what impact you want your career to have in the world.

Good luck! Sometimes it is impossible to carry someone else's emotional burdens, even when we want to help. The best thing you can do is tend to your own life. That way, if and when you come back together, you will be able to come into the situation with strength, happiness, compassion, and clarity.

posted March 10, 2009 12:43 AM           

I would do it myself, and have tried from astro.com but I don't understand anything, which is why I need help. Plus it isn't like cafeastrology which it explains in detail of the positions.

I have not a clue what this means exactly, but here is a progressed composite + progressed chart:

posted March 12, 2009 07:46 PM         

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Under those circumstances, I feel that it is my duty to mother him from a far (it is a long distance relationship) and protect his well being, while simultaneously trying to keep the romance and passion alive.

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That's a tall order.

Why are you taking such a burden on yourself? You're barely 18.