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Topic: Natal Uranus Square Moon - Emotionally unstable?
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GemGemGem
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posted March 13, 2009 01:14 PM
 
Hello. I wanted to know a little more about this aspect in a person's natal chart. A friend of mine has this, and she is a bit erratic, and up and down when it comes to her emotions. It's really difficult for her to have a stable love life because she's always changing her mind. "I love him...I love him not!"
So during the times of "I love him not, she'll look around for other guys while in a relationship, and has cheated before.Anyone have any experiences with this? I want to know how this may play out in relationships. Is it always like my friend's experience? She has an Aqua moon square Scorpio uranus. 4 degrees Is it difficult with this aspect to sustain a stable, faithful relationship? IP: Logged |
evander
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posted March 13, 2009 01:41 PM
I know of a very similar case. The worst thing about that person is incredibly emotionally unstable. And not just when it comes to relationship issues.... just a destabilizing person... And very needy in a way. The most erratic example of this is a person I know with Pisces Moon... like that needed more destabilizing  ------------------
sag sun, cap moon,sag mercury, aries mars, scorpio venus IP: Logged |
sweetrhonda
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posted March 14, 2009 01:08 PM
I know someone with natal Taurus Moon/Mars square Scorpian Uranus.He recently married at the age of 50. During his engagement he bought a house so it would be in his name only and after he married he insists his new wife stays in her trailor until it's paid down enough to sell. Some of the women I know that dated him say he's a control freak. They also say that the woman he married was willing to do anything (she's 53) to get married so she puts up with him. I just think getting married just to live apart is strange. IP: Logged |
sweetrhonda
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posted March 14, 2009 01:10 PM
sorry: I meant Leo Uranus.IP: Logged |
WaterDog
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posted March 14, 2009 03:24 PM
<--BiasedI have a natal uranus square moon, and a Pisces moon at that! I'll tell you this: lots of people consider me emotionally unstable. Most people don't know me too well. Some days I feel good about things in my life, and some days I don't- just like everyone else. I've never strayed despite some urges to, sometimes. For the most part though, when I'm with someone, they're they only person I think about romantically. I'm incredibly steady in my affections, but I do cut people off harshly when necessary. It's not a random act, either. It will have been something I've been thinking about for a long time, and some incident was one straw too many. Also, am scorpio rising, and I credit this action to that. I am a Taurus sun, as well. So I consider myself very stable, emotionally. I'm not wishy washy in any way, and am very opinionated, as some of my poor family will attest. I would look elsewhere for this destabilized aspect. What you said sounded more Gemini to me than moon-uranus. Uranus isn't wishy washy or indecisive. IP: Logged |
GemGemGem
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posted March 15, 2009 07:23 PM
Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences with this placement. My friend who has this is very moody from day to day. One day life will be wonderful, then one little thing will happen to her, and life is all of a sudden horrible and unbearable. She is always one extreme or the other. She's Leo moon Libra sun, so I guess she's always trying her best to balance, but it just doesn't work. She's not that loyal, in her affections either. Once she's in a relationship, she won't leave (Scorpio venus) but she'll cheat. I think the Uranus/Moon is the strongest placement in her chart, so I wanted to know how this may play out in relationships. Thanks everyone!  IP: Logged |
leapinglemur14
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posted March 15, 2009 09:24 PM
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MyVirgoMask
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posted March 15, 2009 09:35 PM
Here you go, GemGem. There was just a thread on this not too long ago:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/001122.html I've got the opposition. No indecisiveness per se, and I don't think your friend's actions sound Moon/Uranus. She does sound like a Libra to me though - on their worst days they can be highly indecisive and huge perfectionists/idealists.
I've never been unfaithful. I don't change my mind if I am in love - there's no inconsistent feelings there. I've got Venus Scorpio too, and I don't leave for a long time despite misery, but once I decide I am done - I'm really done with you. Moon/Uranus for me means I dismantle whatever's been stood on for too long if it looks like lousy foundation - and I have no qualms about doing it either. Moon/Uranus people look erratic to others sometimes, especially those who don't know them. Or even those who think they know them too well lol. They need closeness followed by enough space to regain personal balance. Too much of one or the other makes them freak out, I think. Excessive emotionalism for long periods can make them do things that look crazy to others (such as cutting off ties suddenly, or other things). It's probably because they don't like stagnation or things to be status quo for too long.
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lechien
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posted March 16, 2009 06:21 AM
MyVirgoMask, your description really sounds like the friend of mine with Uranus/moon conjunction. a lot of people are really disturbed of his "mood swings" based on his desire for and fear of emotional intimacy, but it's a perfectly logical behaviour of him for me knowing him closely.IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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posted March 16, 2009 06:27 AM
Lechien, I think when I was younger this aspect came out rather horribly, I'm ashamed to say. I didn't trust anyone and the mood swings were pronounced. I was terrified of intimacy. So no, it's not easy....having the conjunction would seem like it's less 'strain' but I'm not so sure anymore since it's still a hard aspect.
The older I've gotten, the more I've tried to work on keeping close tabs on my own emotions, and just stay aware...which is NOT easy with a moon in the 12th, I can assure you!
Keep in mind the aspect also says something about the upbringing and the mother too. Sometimes it's just personal history. IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted March 16, 2009 10:27 AM
yea he had a problematic relationship with his mother, and there's a mutual understanding of sorts because i had/have a similar experience. of course that's not the only factor why i seem to "get" it (and my Moon and Uranus are not aspected... it's inconjunct actually). his case is the opposite of you, MyVirgoMask, when he was younger (when i didn't know him yet), he was not at all like how he is now. he says that he's changed tremendously and it's extremely painful to not be able to love someone. anyone. poor guy. IP: Logged |
cheshirekat
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posted March 16, 2009 10:42 AM
Wow, this sounds like me but I don't have Uranus in a hard aspect to my moon, only Mars and my moods are..something, I hate to say.
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leapinglemur14
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posted March 16, 2009 08:51 PM
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MyVirgoMask
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posted March 16, 2009 10:28 PM
Yeah, I hear you, Leaping. I kind of get that way too lol. Finding the balance is hard.IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted March 17, 2009 05:53 AM
i guess with inconjunct aspect my case is slightly different in quality from you guys? but this made me think of the time when i had an affair with a boy. he was a Cancer and EXTREMELY caring and soft and sweet and blah blah all that. i had never had a saccharin endorsed relationship like that and for a second i even thought of marrying and having his baby too (i hate children!!! and never had the desire to have babies, yuck). it lasted for less than a month. soon i was completely disgusted, it was intolerable and i really had to run away and err, get rid of him. yea i sound mean but it was alright, he was cheating on his gf with me, so thank god...this Uranus/Moon thing made me think of this. but i'm not always like this. i'm not emotionally unstable either, necessarily. i don't know how much an inconjunct aspect can affect it. but obviously less than you guys' hard aspects. IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel
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posted March 17, 2009 06:03 AM
I have the trine and relate a lot to what MVM has said about needing the space to regain balance. People do see me as erratic, but I am - not in a moody, bad way, but I'm highly unpredictable in my words and actions and surprise myself with the things that I do - my antics. I have a lot of fun with it and make people laugh along the way. It's channelled well. A bit absurdly, but all in good nature. I'm highly charged. Uranus is not only trine Moon, but also opposite AC, Sun & Chiron and conjunct DC.IP: Logged |
GemGemGem
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posted March 17, 2009 09:27 AM
So do you think with this aspect, long term, stable relationships are possible? Everything written about these aspects say that personal relationships suffer the most. IP: Logged |
cheshirekat
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posted March 17, 2009 09:52 AM
My Cap friend had Moon trine Uranus, I forgot because it hurts thinking about him but everything said here was pretty accurate, especially the love/hate relationship with mom.As for relationships, he's pretty damn faithful to the maximum T but he gets frustrated with erratic people and guys that just brag about sex because he doesn't put much emphasis on his sex life. So I am pretty sure his new girlfriend is in heaven and is pretty damn lucky to have someone so faithful and intune with women.. IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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posted March 17, 2009 10:00 AM
Jeez GemGem. I've never cheated and have had plenty of long term relationships and was married. What are you insinuating 
I have been with men with this aspect. They were loyal.
I come from a mother with this aspect - married a long time. Took a long time to get the right relationship. White picket fence? YAWN. You'll never get this with Moon/Uranus. Needs a partner with their own mind.
That does NOT MEAN they don't know how to commit! They just don't like ruts is all!!
So as long as the other has a life of their own, it should be fine. IP: Logged |
cheshirekat
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posted March 17, 2009 10:17 AM
I agree with MVM, you have to respect their personal freedom and to have "ideas" of your own with or without them. Also he seemed to like to do alot of spur of the moment things and was emotionally attatched to the latest gadgets "PS3" and "Wii" but this is probably just a dude thing but he was also pretty outgoing, hyper, and extremely talkative..he would say anything that came to his mind though it was completely random.Anyways I can't type anymore about him because it hurts to talk about him, now that he and I no longer speak..so I'd like to keep it a out of sight out of mind thing but boy do I miss him though >_>; IP: Logged |
GemGemGem
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posted March 17, 2009 10:42 AM
Sorry MVM, didn't mean to make it sound so negative. But if you read what's written about the Moon/Uranus square, it's talked about like its the kiss of death to relationships or something! haha. It says stable relationships are downright impossible. That's why I'm asking. Good to know your experiences with it. My friends who also has this, is so erratic in relationships, and this guy I dated once had this, and it was infuriating cause he would say he loved me one minute, then say he couldn't be with me the next. Arrggggh!
Both flakes. cheshirekat, I'm sorry to hear about this boy you are hurting for right now. I've been there, and broken hearts take much love and caring to heal. I send you a big hug!
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MyVirgoMask
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posted March 17, 2009 11:42 AM
It's ok GemGem
It depends what you mean by stable! Like I said, white picket fence, quiet life listening to the grass grow...Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Oh HELL no
This is one of the reasons my marriage didn't work out. But to be fair I told him from day one - I don't do that, I need a balance. And I never strayed, I was always honest, and emotionally present. And I've known a LOT of people without Uranus/Moon who were not emotionally present.
So, I think it's the kiss of death because of the Uranus thing. But that's so screwed up! Change, freedom....how isn't that part of a relationship? Forget those kiss O'death descriptions, GemGem. Those aspects just challenge us to grow and breathe new life into relationships. If someone has this and can't integrate in a greater way...well, then, he's got his own problems, and astrology is the least of them!
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