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posted March 17, 2009 08:12 PM         

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do you know anyone, are you, or are you with someone with this placement? it is difficult for me being with someone like this. i truly love him but the communication is absolutely nil. he is the classic case of this placement. he can be so quiet. and non assertive. how do i deal with this. i try to ask him questions, trying to check up on our relationship to make sure he is happy. or ill ask round about questions. but he answers a question with a question. and he is so sensitive i am scared i will hurt his feelings. how in the world can i get him to open up. and if he doesnt how can i deal with it. 12th house is pisces btw, AND aqua moon! and on top of that cappy venus, so careful.

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posted March 17, 2009 08:26 PM         

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Mars in 12th house Pisces man here.

12th house is a bad house for mars, IMO, but I do ok since I have Sun-Mars conjunction (makes me very assertive). Do martial arts. I have moments in my day where I need to switch off and go back to my own dream world though. I've had to learn how to manage my agression (I was scared of it), since I asserted myself too much or too little.

Good points with that placement? your drives are directed towards artistic stuff, music, poetry and for some people (like me), spirituality. Unfortunately, for other people with this placement, they get driven towards alcohol, drugs and assert themselves in an elusive or cowardly way. It depends upon the evolution of that person's soul IMO.

Good luck in dealing with that person. It must be very challenging and frustrating at times. Let him know how you feel in the most constructive way possible.

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posted March 17, 2009 08:34 PM         

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oh, god bless you, Kamots, thanks! this pisces girl feels so frustrated. i feel like hes the only one...btw he is not aggressive at all, like you. though he can sit in solitude for days at a time. his father also did not help the situation he was very emotinally abusive. not alot of confidence at times. hes good for me, though. and he really loves me. just gotta figure this out. pretty funny, because my moon (leo) is in 12th house. i crave solitude to recharge, and he can go days at a time being alone!

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posted March 17, 2009 08:58 PM         

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My friend, I know how difficult that can be. One person craving for time together and the other needing some solitude. I'm one of those solitude guys like him and that was a problem in my relationships. I felt really bad for making my ex-girlfriend's unhappy that way Hang in there and try to meet halfway, if possible. As for the worries about what he needs, don't worry. He'll tell you. He's probably not expecting you to guess his needs and attend to them (and if he did it would be wrong anyway). You don't have to be perfect or save people... you're great the way you are

Still it's important for him to learn how to open up a bit more and share his feelings. Not necessarily to the point where he soothes all your worries, but some of them for sure. Communication is extremely important.

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posted March 17, 2009 09:11 PM         

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haha yes i actually like the me time, until i really start missing him. you sound like my brothers, "just relax" lol but i dont think he will tell me what he needs.. you know what though, yes he does but in his own way, i guess. im just trying to figure out his methods in telling me. hes got quiet written all over his chart! its hard to figure out if hes mad or not. its better that trying to figure out who is he cheating with or what type of drug is he on! but yes your right just chill i guess. the only thing is i am an analyzer by nature. its my hobby. its what i was born to do.

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posted March 17, 2009 09:24 PM         

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LOL!!!

OK, let's go to plan B then. When he's asleep, whisper "tell me everythinggggg..." The day after he wakes up and has an incontrolable urge to confess all he feels and needs.

Ok you see this, this is my own 12th house looney imagination. We're hopeless! Anyway, keep us informed. I might give you better advice next time

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posted March 17, 2009 09:37 PM         

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My Virgo friend and I are Sun Square Merc double whammmyyyy. His Virgo Mars is in my 12th house and my Pisces Mars in his 6th. His Venus is conjunct my ASC.

We dated for about a week but couldn't talk to each other at all.

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posted March 17, 2009 09:47 PM           

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My Cap friend's Mars fell into my 12th house and my Mercury fell into his 12th house, and we were good friends for 4 years almost but it ended abruptly and we decided we were going into two very different directions.

Honestly all I felt from his Mars being in my 12th was I questioned his actions alot because I thought he had hidden motives but he was a really honest and caring a guy and he was not passive aggresive at all, just really laid back because he never got worked up over anything..

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posted March 18, 2009 02:27 AM         

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I have Virgo Mars in the 12th and I have no problems communicating lol. I guess it helps that I'm a Gemini!

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Virgo Asc 6˚& Mars 0˚
Gemini Sun 24˚
Libra Moon 14˚(conjunct Pluto 0˚ in 2nd house)
Gemini Mercury 25˚
Cancer Venus 29˚ (Mutual reception with Moon)
And yes, i'm a guy!

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