How do you fall OUT of love?

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babeefoxx unregistered	posted April 09, 2009 01:03 AM I'm sick of the physical pain and anxiety and the bad moods I experiece when things aren't going right. I don't want to feel this way anymore, and I know he doesn't feel the same. I can't figure out why I do, why do I have an idealism of love with him, why is he on a sky-high pedestal that prevents me from moving on? Why can't I just quit? I apologize for the rant. I'm just very lost and feeling alone. I don't know if its because of anything astrological or just fate. But how would I know if he is the right one for me, I guess you could say soulmates, or if it could eventually work out? To this day I don't know much about our synastry or compared charts, but when its great, it's great and when it's bad it's bad. Am I experiencing any crippling transits right now? What's going on in my life! IP: Logged
savanna20 Knowflake Posts: 35 From: ca Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 09, 2009 01:11 AM I'm with you. I've been feeling this way too! I wish there was a way to fall out of love myself as I'm having a hard time letting go. Remember though, Full Moon in Libra tomorrow-I remember reading somewhere we would get emotional... IP: Logged
babeefoxx unregistered	posted April 09, 2009 01:41 AM Would it affect me because my Libra rising? I thought it only affected you if the moon was in your moon sign? I want some transit news. When will this s**tfest stop? IP: Logged
blue moon Knowflake Posts: 144 From: U.K Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 09, 2009 02:21 AM I'd answer this question better if I didn't have Venus in Taurus. Once the bull has made its choice (slowly) it plods on, content in its meadow for the most part. Is it astrology? It might illustrate the differences between emotional natures and relationships, but I don't think we can blame it in itself. Most relationships are going to have their off moments and the pressures of life might come into it (check out Transits, Progressions, Solar Arc) or it might just be because. Trust your instincts, that will be the best guide of all. IP: Logged
amowls Knowflake Posts: 4 From: Falls Church, VA, USA Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 09, 2009 03:00 AM Well, Venus has been retrograding in your 7th (if you are Libra Rising) for some time now and tomorrow it will station and then go direct. It's almost over! Btw, what happens if it's Full Moon conjunct your Moon? I have my Moon at 23 Libra in my 5th. IP: Logged
babeefoxx unregistered	posted April 09, 2009 03:02 AM I also have Venus in Taurus...everything is just so mind-bending right now. I don't feel equipped for dealing with the real world. Here's my birth info if anyone is willing to take a gander, I can't post charts/placements because I only have internet on my mobile phone right now. 3/23/91 8:24 pm San Jose,CA US IP: Logged
evander Knowflake Posts: 19 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 09, 2009 04:24 AM Pluto is squaring natal Sun Pluto is trining natal Venus That might give it "the i can't help myself effect" Also nataly You have VEnus squared by both Jupiter and Saturn.. so things may get very confusing from time to time. People fall from pedestals easier then we put them there. Just you wait and you will see. It happens 99,9% of the time. ------------------ sag sun, cap moon,sag mercury, aries mars, scorpio venus IP: Logged
AquaGuy Knowflake Posts: 3 From: Registered: May 2009	posted April 09, 2009 06:23 AM Love blinds you to the person's bad qualities... Once you start noticing the person's bad qualities (that they're just like everybody else) you will "fall out of love" with them... ------------------ Sun = Aquarius... Moon = Aries... Venus = Capricorn... Mars = Pisces... Mercury - Pisces... IP: Logged
belgz Knowflake Posts: 87 From: Sydney, Australia Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 09, 2009 06:28 AM You need to beblessed with some saturn - moon aspects from birth to control yourself lol ------------------ Sun.. Cancer Moon.. Gemini Mars.. Cancer Mercury.. Cancer Venus.. Leo Ascendant....... Virgo IP: Logged
GCcarrier unregistered	posted April 09, 2009 06:39 AM Would hard aspects count though, Belgz? I have Saturn square Moon in my chart and I have the same problem as babeefoxx. IP: Logged
swirl-kitt Knowflake Posts: 24 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 09, 2009 06:44 AM Well people end relationships when they really really want to. So you will end it when you really want to Even though you may still be in love. For me it's not like putting someone on a pedestal. I think I only fell in love and never OUT of love with 1 person so far, it's been years since we broke up, and he is like everyone else but I still love him and adore him. I just love him for who he is and it's a great feeling to know that people like him exist in the world It was annoying at first but now it feels even nice. IP: Logged
belgz Knowflake Posts: 87 From: Sydney, Australia Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 09, 2009 07:24 AM No i think hard aspects are difficult because theres no control then. A trine or sextile would mean discipline (saturn) and emotions (moon) But the square would make controlling emotions alot harder. I have saturn trine moon and sextile venus.. I fall in love with who i want and fall out when its over. I can switch on and off. ------------------ Sun.. Cancer Moon.. Gemini Mars.. Cancer Mercury.. Cancer Venus.. Leo Ascendant....... Virgo IP: Logged
koiflower Knowflake Posts: 72 From: Australia Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 09, 2009 07:57 AM I find imagining them picking their nasal cavity doesn't work. Any foul image like that doesn't help at all. The best way, I've found, is to act ignorant when in their presence... eg. "I'm not going to look at you, or even talk to you. You don't deserve me. You are as important to me as a crusty old sultana". Then I go home and cry my broken heart out! LOL!!! Sorry, if that doesnt help. It's really hard dealing with a broken heart. I think falling in love with someone else, could help. Or going to help in a voluntary organisation could, too. Good luck and love to you IP: Logged
evander Knowflake Posts: 19 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 09, 2009 08:09 AM i guess Saturn ruled moon helps me. i just suck it up keep it all in me. Just staying grounded is what i always try. And people will hang them selves if you give them enough rope. It's not the taking off someone from pedestal that bothers me it's the pain and the disappointment when it happens unexpectedly. ------------------ sag sun, cap moon,sag mercury, aries mars, scorpio venus IP: Logged
cheshirekat unregistered	posted April 09, 2009 09:15 AM Sometimes I want to fall out of love too but then I remember that this is a part of living, I have to take the bad times with the good. As I've said probably a lot of times on here..sorry guys..about my Capricorn friend, I am never really going to get him completely off my mind and probably will not completely let go but I am going to be happy for him. I happy he found someone to be there for him when I am not and just to know that my good friend is happy and loved is enough for me to begin to heal , even though right now I am still hurt but in due time I will heal..maybe not today or tomorrow but I will heal. huggles We all heal, maybe not perfectly but then again were not perfect are we?<3 IP: Logged
babeefoxx unregistered	posted April 09, 2009 10:45 AM Those pluto aspects seem right on the money. I totally feel like I cannot pull myself of out this like I would in other situations. It feels like there is something so magnetic between us, I don't even think I could try and quit him cold turkey. Too many paths lead back to him, and like I said, even when I am contemplating dating or thinking about someone who could possibly fill that void, I think to myself that no one will ever be as perfect. Our relationship is about four years old, and also a long distance one, so that piles on to its difficulty level. His data to compare: 09/03/89 1:44am West Covina,CA US IP: Logged
Mama Mia unregistered	posted April 09, 2009 02:06 PM Its all mental, whatever you think will appear..If you think there is no one better best believe that there won't be. If you think your stuck in a rut with this best you are.. If your unhappy and want to move forward tell yourself 200 times a day if need be that you deserve better that there is someone out there that you can be peaceful with who can reciprocate what you give.. I went through something like this, I never thought I couldn't get over him but I did know that our connection was so deep and hard to break..With my mind I manage to turn somethings around. It did not happen over night it took about 7 months, but things turned around. So what I am saying is try thinking positive and letting go lil by lil. Encourage yourself, we have to be our biggest cheerleader and motivators. Bc what you think about this situation good or bad gets it to where it needs to be.. don't walla in this just keep looking up, up,up and up.. Goodluck, later when you figure it out you will be saying why didn't I think of this sooner, or this was not as bad as I initally thought.. IP: Logged
scrappydog Knowflake Posts: 16 From: Texas Registered: May 2009	posted April 11, 2009 08:34 PM I feel like this a lot, a have a prominent venus square neptune with neptune squaring jupiter to make it even worse. I have a lot of trouble controling my emotions they are very deep and irrational and will totally get the best of me. But when my love does die I will cut ties completely and coldly, even if they still love me I will feel nothing for them any longer. I wonder if this is my cappy moon square saturn? Or my strong scorpio/pluto influence? IP: Logged
MyVirgoMask Knowflake Posts: 247 From: Registered: May 2009	posted April 11, 2009 11:41 PM With the Pluto (my Venus Scorpio and 7th house cusp) stuff I do not let go of relationships. With the Neptune in the 7th it's easy to stay stuck. Taurus rising and Mars digs in, stays put. I stay until the bitter end, fight tooth and nail. But you can bet that there's this one moment that's like the hamster becoming aware that it's on the wheel....and that's the moment which I guess is 'falling out of love'...like ice water on the face. I think with the Pluto stuff you will stay until you've exhausted every option...and then you will see the thing die, symbolically die with it, and become resurrected from its ashes, and reborn. That's the way it's been for me....hard to go through, but in the end, it can be redemptive. I think that's the sacrifice Pluto calls for: our selves and our old versions of self, to die in some way. I don't even think this is falling out of love so much as being so transformed within by the relationship, that if changes aren't made to accommodate the new self, it won't work...and then you just let go.... IP: Logged
taurean_scorpion unregistered	posted April 12, 2009 05:15 AM babeefoxx, its so cool that you live in san jose where my bf's from. we're actually going up on monday for spring break. i've never been there before. do you go to LG high? IP: Logged
gorgeousbutterfly unregistered	posted April 12, 2009 05:28 AM LOL nevermind haha . IP: Logged
babeefoxx unregistered	posted April 12, 2009 12:39 PM LG as in Los Gatos High? I live in the evergreen area! IP: Logged
Kismet* Knowflake Posts: 89 From: Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 13, 2009 08:41 PM Hun, you will never make yourself fall out of love. Time is the only master in this scenario. One day, when you wake up you will realize that you have changed and don't like the person you used to be, so you feel stupid, and then you move on because you really want to and would never look back. This is what falling out of love is about. The end. IP: Logged
monsoon unregistered	posted April 14, 2009 10:42 AM With time, effort, new experiences and... it helps to have someone new to take your mind off him. It gets better, I promise. Be kind to yourself. IP: Logged
Glaucus Knowflake Posts: 163 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009	posted April 14, 2009 12:20 PM I am very sorry about what you're going through. It takes time also...I wouldn't use somebody else to get my mind off somebody. It doesn't really work out that way. It's not fair to the person get involved when having feelings for somebody else. I am trying to get over my exgf,Meghann who broke up with me back in April 2nd of last year because of her man-hating feminist mother that she couldn't seem to cut the umbilical cord with even though she turned 25 last year. I haven't had any contact from her ever since, and it was very painful last year all the way. I had a hard time letting go and missing her a lot. After weekly shaman healing sessions,going to an interfaith unity church regularly,and just concentrating on my spirituality, realizing that I want to set up nonprofit neurodiversity organization,and that I am better off with a woman who likes to help others/into the healing arts/loves children which is not Meghann at all, I am letting go emotionally. I am not over her yet. I know that I will. I have to if I want to be with a woman that I can have lifelong relationship with. It would be awesome if she and I become partners in a holistic healing practice and even in the nonprofit neurodiversity organization. I wish you all the best. You will get over it. It takes time. I really think focusing on yourself more will help. I am doing that, improving both my mental and physical health by cutting out sweets,junkfood, and working out. It has helped a lot. I am getting interested in the Law of Attraction too,and I trying to make that work in my life. Raymond IP: Logged

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