posted April 09, 2009 12:19 PM         

I have been friends with a Pisces/Cancer guy since Oct, and I truly felt like our friendship was out of the world (plus his moon was on my asc/sun and mars). Well we had been sleeping together off and on and even when we weren't seeing each other (as he was dating someone or I was) we still talked basically once a week.

Well recently we had been seeing more of each other and we both had blocks up but I was having a hard time because I wanted both of our walls to come down.

I knew he was a jerk to gf's as he had never had a gf last longer than like 4 months. And he would be annoyed with them.

Basically the last time I saw him it was really weird, like I was feeling so many emotions and trying to not express them. Plus I had suggested we just not sleep with each other. Anyway we ended up doing so but it was still weird.

Anyway fast forward to now I thought we were friends. But he ignored my calls for three weeks, and I asked him if he had a gf and he said yes (which honesty I don't care) and I was confused as to why on earth would he ignore me. And we were never together I was confused. And the reason he said he didn't want to talk to me is because he's over it. I'm just feeling so horrible because he said that he didn't want to sleep with me anymore and that was why he didn't want to talk to me. I feel like he is saying I was only good for sex...and with him not getting that he doesn't need to talk to me anymore. This was a guy who said he felt at home and familiar with him and he thought I was amazing. And then one bad visit he doesn't want to deal with me at all.

It hurts because I didn't feel that close with anyone...and I feel betrayed. He couldn't even say he didn't want to talk...but his exs he could be blunt and honest too. Even when we were talking last night he was just so cold and mean...I even said he was trash and he was like oh whatever...I just don't know why someone would go all cold on you.

posted April 09, 2009 01:40 PM           

If I sound harsh lord knows I don't mean to..I feel that you need to learn self worth and perhaps self love..You said that he perhaps had a girlfriend and maybe that was why he was not calling you..Uh you should care. I am sorry but men treat you the way you treat yourself. He has always been able to sleep with you while you were involved with someone else and rather he was involved with someone else, where that may seem like a good set up its really not. Cause now it sounded like you wanted more and caught feelings and he has moved on to something else..

So what I am saying is learn from this I can't and won't tell you how to get the lesson you have to figure that out for yourself. And you also have to protect your heart, I know you thought he was your friend and perhaps would not do anythig to hurt you, but we are responsible for protecting ourselves.

posted April 09, 2009 02:36 PM         

I guess I feel stupid, yeah I take responsibility for starting to feel something. But I did think as a friend he would be straight forward when he could be with ex's and just say either back off...or I'm over this or whatever. I didn't think a friend would treat me this way when he still talks with ex's and is nice to them.

posted April 09, 2009 04:28 PM         

I know he's bad for me...he does a lot of drugs (mainly pot, pills, but he has also done coke). And he is a 22 year old construction worker who didn't go to college.