posted May 04, 2009 02:10 PM         

My exgf and I were 12 years apart with my being older,but she and I didn't feel an age difference. Also, I look younger than my age. I even sound younger than how I look. I am a late bloomer in most ways. Our Jupiters conjunct each other were nice too. 12 years apart means Jupiter conjunct Jupiter in synastry.

My parents were 13 years apart with my father being older. From what my mom told me, my father had youthful quality about him too. My mom told me that I remind her so much of my father.

My Uncle Dino was married to a woman 10 years older than him, and she had major issues. She was immature for her age. She even lied about being 3 years younger,the same age as my mother.

My uncle eventually married a woman that's a couple of years younger than me. My uncle is 12 years older than me too. She already had 2 child before my uncle met her. He has become the stepfather of her 2 children,and they have 2 more children together. Now my uncle is the father of 4 children with a wife that is a lot more mature and stable than his exwife who is older than his current wife. It's like my uncle finally found his soulpartner in a woman that is much younger than him, but even though they are many years apart, they are not many years apart in maturity. My uncle finally became a family man at 40 years old. In a sense,he's a late bloomer. His story inspires me for it shows me that it's never too late to have your own family. It also shows that age can be just a number...well...if you're both chronologically adults.

the age difference that you talk about is not a HUGE age difference.

My mother was married to a man 25 years older than her. NOW that's a HUGE age difference. He was 6 years older than my maternal grandfather. The marriage was full of power,control issues. He tried to be like her dad in way and treating her like a child, and she rebelled against it. They were together from when I was 3 years old to when I was 18 years old. It was a marriage of convenience. He helped my mom take care of me. He provided both of us with security, but he failed to provide up with both emotional security. He was very insecure man. When you are very insecure, you can be very controlling. That's why hard aspects involving Saturn indicate both insecurity and control issues. Emotional security is very important in a relationship regardless age,race,gender,religion,etc.

Another thing too....you live your own life and your boyfriend lives his own life. What you think and what he thinks is all that matters. In a relationship, there is only be the two of you. It's not going to be your family nor his family. You are not in a relationship with him to be with his family just he is not in a relationship to be with your family. I wish that my exgf,Meghann understood this because she cared too much about what her mom thought because her mom hated men and believed that she would have a problem with the age differences even though I don't fit the norms of what man is nor the a person of my age because I am a late bloomer in many ways...maybe it's connected to my neurological differences too. I was in a relationship with her to be with her.....not both her and her mother nor anybody else in her family. I wouldn't care what my mom thought either. After all,it's my life. Not hers.

That's how I feel that you and your boyfriend should be like. After all, you're both adults. Your parents don't control you. Independence is very important in any relationship.

any ways......I wish you two the best.

posted May 04, 2009 02:15 PM         

I just looked at some anima and animus stuff

Your Mars conjunct Saturn can be an indicator that you're attracted to older and/or mature men.

His Moon conjunct Venus in Virgo is a possible indicator that he is attracted to younger women, and I feel that the square to Neptune also indicates that.....it shows a more a romantic,idealistic nature that dissolves the boundaries of love,emotions.....so age doesn't matter to him as long as he loves you and you love him.

posted May 04, 2009 03:04 PM         

i say it, because i have a platonic friend, who is 12 years older than me (im at the beginning of my twenties), and he told me at the very beggining that because of my age, we could only be friends.

But to add another positive example, my Uncle lives together with a woman who is 13 years younger than him. (And i can tell you that their parents werent very happy at the begging, but now they also know that it doesnt really matter)

posted May 04, 2009 07:47 PM         

I have dated 2 men 15 and 16 yrs older than me... ok, l did dump them cos they couldn't keep up but thats beside the point.

posted May 04, 2009 08:14 PM         

This might be a little unusual because generally, it's the older more experienced person who is the partner with the Saturn and the younger, more inexperienced with the Sun being squared by Saturn. Saturn is the teacher..of lessons and this is a karmic aspect.

In this case, it might tend to show you are the more mature party in this relationship and have lessons to teach this guy...if this develops into a full blown relationship.

While this aspect...Sun square Saturn isn't always an easy relationship, Sun square Saturn was considered by Linda Goodman, in synastry.."to be the most important one of all". Further, once the relationship is established, it's most difficult or almost impossible to break off...because this aspect indicates this relationship is a result of karma.

Are you certain the charts you posted are accurate? I'm not necessarily questioning but if they're not accurate then the above comments are not valid.