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Topic: Pesky Sag man
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libraschoice7
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: Arizona
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 11, 2009 08:38 PM
 
What would make a Sag man continue to call an be obsessive even after you have been upfront about not being interested? I thought thats what they wanted was honesty...IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 338
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 11, 2009 08:51 PM
ASC gives a better picture of the personality type. What is it?IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 338
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 11, 2009 09:06 PM
I forgot to add "please"May have sounded like a barking dog. What is it? Tell me NOW!  IP: Logged |
libraschoice7
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: Arizona
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 11, 2009 09:11 PM
I don't know his Ascendant, as I have not went far enough to ask him his time of birth, I hardly know this guy. What happened is he approached me for my number when I was coming out of the grocery store, I figured he looked like a decent guy and I gave him my number. But after talking with him on the phone for abit, I realized there was neither really a mental or physical rapport there so I told him it wasn't a really good idea for us to get together as we just seemed real different, and the fact that I still had problems with my ex. He seemed disappointed but ok with it...so I thought. But then he still continues to call me even after that, and hes leaving me these really long voice mail messages about how he wants to pursue my 'friendship'. Hes left like three messages so far, I don't know what to say to him. I dont want to have to change my phone number. He seems to think persistance is going to win me over, its not its just making me feel threatened. It seems thats all I ever attract is fruitcakes or losers, why me?!IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 338
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 11, 2009 09:18 PM
Maybe something fixed on the ASC. A cardinal sign is good at getting things started. Likely to get a lot of numbers, but not follow through. A mutuable sign tends to go with whatever happens. A fixed sign will be fixed on the goal and keep at it.
Maybe something fixed: Taurus, Leo, Scorpio, Aquarius.
Obsessive is a Scorpio word.
Common sense: Tell the guy straight that you have no interest in friendship or whatever. Make sure he listens, repeats what you said and ask him what he thinks that means - TO NEVER CALL OR VISIT AGAIN. Any problems, alert the police.
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libraschoice7
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: Arizona
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 11, 2009 09:28 PM
I know I will have to be firm an blunt with him not to call me anymore..you would think he would have known better though, especially after I told him about my Scorpio ex. This guy must have some heavily aspected Pluto or Mars. Definitely could have some Taurus in him too. Somehow I have a feeling I will have to change numbers..IP: Logged |
Kismet*
Knowflake Posts: 89
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 11, 2009 10:14 PM
Somebody who likes the chase...IP: Logged |
blue moon
Knowflake Posts: 144
From: U.K
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 01:37 AM
Sometimes, they just aren't going to rest until you sleep with them, they just won't let it go. I don't get it either, but I'm a woman, not a man. Not a particularly young or pretty one, but that makes no difference. Anecdotes suggest to me this phenomenon still pesters women in their retirement. There's one easy way to get rid of him - give him what he wants then he will leave you alone. But, of course, this is likely to be unpalatable to you on moral, emotional and phsyical grounds. I am assuming here you are not interested rather than this being an ex-lover who won't accept it is over. Just thinking also, he might be one of those odd types who get off on feisty women telling them to get stuffed. In that case you will have to be really savage for him to get the message. IP: Logged |
Writesomething
Knowflake Posts: 677
From: meet me in montauk
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 04:20 AM
I knew a sag with taurus moon, aquarius rising who was the biggest weirdo ever. i told him never to speak to me again, and he wouldnt stop texting me. i finally said text me one more time and im calling the police and he just laughed. i changed my number finally because the texts didnt stop. im so glad i never let him know where i lived because he wouldnt let it go, and kept saying stuff like "i cant believe i took you out to dinner, i want my money back" or "why wont you talk to me?"...like seriously wtf? u asked me out dude and offered to pay. weird. i never responded to his texts too at first, but finally was blunt but that didnt do anything. sags are mainly weird men who do not like giving up.IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 338
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 04:45 AM
BM, Men are taught that Women are strange creatures in many ways.
One of these is that they dont always say what they mean and seem to prefer the bold, take no for an answer macho type who flexes his muscles at every opportunity.Some women may test Men by not accepting a date/call whatever, to test a Mans interest. This golden nugget of information is passed down through generation of Man. Maybe it was a lie at the start and Women do not do these things. Just letting you know. IP: Logged |
blue moon
Knowflake Posts: 144
From: U.K
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 04:57 AM
You are right of course, crossed-wires and the games people play, it can be so easy to read a situation wrong. She says, "I find you physically repulsive and my husband will try and kill you if he finds out you are pestering me for sex." He struggles to understand this mixed message and can only assume she really means: I am gagging for it, but I am far too much of a lady to tell you straight out and besides, I am going to make you work hard for it, like us women always do. IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 338
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 05:07 AM
Of course I am right, I am always right. Good example! IP: Logged |
cpn_edgar_winner
Knowflake Posts: 277
From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 05:16 AM
stalk them till they give in .....sounds very aries to me.no means = put on your astranaut daiper and hang out by the trash cans for weeks. IP: Logged |
cpn_edgar_winner
Knowflake Posts: 277
From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 05:20 AM
put him on permanant ignore - he should "get it" in a few yearsIP: Logged |
woah city
Knowflake Posts: 75
From: formerly cakes of the heart
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 06:01 AM
blue moon  that is what i was thinking. it's the freaking GAMES. he probably thinks you're testing his feelings by acting aloof, and hoping he'll be man enough to go after you and persist. sagittarians are, by nature, "sporty" people too. they like a good challenge and they're weird about it. all giggly and crap. games = lames edit, how'd i miss cpn's posts? astronaut diaper.. my my.. IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 338
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 06:06 AM
Just start with the following, if you ever message him again:"After speaking with the police about you, they told me it best to......."
Should work. IP: Logged |
carl
Knowflake Posts: 135
From: China
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 06:42 AM
There's one easy way to get rid of him - give him what he wants then he will leave you alone. -------------- No.
Terrible advice joking or not. IP: Logged |
Yin
Knowflake Posts: 112
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 07:35 AM
Libra, this guy sounds scary. I like Coffee's advice about starting your texts with "After speaking with the police about you, they told me it best to......."Writesomething, those are Jim Morison's placements.
Sag Sun, Taurus Moon, Aqua Rising  BTW, I have always been obsessed with male Saggies. I don't know what it is about them, it's probably my Venus in Sag that's making me all crazy but I LURVE them! Yin,
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blue moon
Knowflake Posts: 144
From: U.K
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 08:35 AM
Carl, was it intentional to chop out the important part of my sentence and misinterpret my entire post? People do have odd senses of humour on the 'net and it can be hard to tell. Coffee is right about a lot of things, but does he really trust the police? I don't know if I would drag them into this kind of scenario. A little word off a burly friend would be my preferred option. IP: Logged |
cpn_edgar_winner
Knowflake Posts: 277
From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 09:16 AM
in all seriousness - maybe if you ignore him completely he will fade away. wishing you luck. there are some creepy's out there.
if that doesn't work, the police thing might not be a bad idea, just alude to it.IP: Logged |
Deux*Antares
Knowflake Posts: 79
From: No Permanent Address
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 09:22 AM
Bore him to death.IP: Logged |
DD
Knowflake Posts: 351
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 09:50 AM
Male Sag`s really can be a pest. And I am saying that being a female Sag myself.
But the times I have really felt STALKED By a guy it was a Sag, both times. REally really annoying.
Actually I had to be VERY blunt about what scum of the earth they were, of course I was exaggerating. But it was the only way plus luckily I have had a very tall very muscular good friend at that time, who assisted me in making those guys realize that I REALLY Wasn`t interested and would NEVER be.
But it was really hard work.In one case it helped to introduce him to another girl.  Of course that other girl really liked him, so she didn`t have the same problems I had.
And once he was distracted, I could disappear and become invisible. lol
For me the best way would be to be very very clear about my intentions and about my NO, and not allowing any sign of compassion for his situation surface.
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libraschoice7
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: Arizona
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 12, 2009 11:18 PM
Hey thank you all for responding, I thought about it and I think its best to just ignore him, if I keep talking to him and he gets a rise out of me he will start to think that he's getting some how closer to what he wants. Because I am giving him attention. And that will make him keep on bothering me, so I let my phone go dead for now. I need another phone anyway, this just gives me another excuse to do it. I feel kind of bad about having to do that, but when someone tells you straight forward they are not interested usually it's your cue to leave that person alone an to stop calling. Even with me, as obsessive an crazy in love as I get, as much as wanted this Pisces guy I was infatuated with(a few months back)I still knew when to leave well enough alone... rejection sucks but it happens to the best of us.IP: Logged |
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