posted June 01, 2009 01:17 AM         

But the puzzling thing is, when i look at our synastry, it's not necessarily dynamite.

So my question is, what makes for a better connection- similar natals, or fantastic synastry?

posted June 01, 2009 04:45 AM         

both are important, but yes, before synastry even comes into play, the natals have to be considered.

Often you will also notice that the synastry repeats certain patterns in the natal charts (either of one or of both people).

Example:

A:
Venus conjunct Pluto

B:
Mars square Pluto

posted June 01, 2009 06:13 PM         

I wasn't copping an attitude with you. I truly was just trying to understand what you were saying. But thanks, that makes sense.

DD,

So if i have Venus conjunct Pluto, and someone has Venus sextile Pluto but we don't have that aspect in synastry, will Venus/Pluto still be a theme in our relationship?

posted June 01, 2009 06:33 PM         

What element is dominant in your chart?

posted June 01, 2009 06:41 PM         

Non-astrologically speaking, imagine two person who are very intense in some ways - but they might not necessarily trigger each other's intensity.

But well, there are often nice relationships that has poor synastry aspects too. Mine is one of them, but hopefully there are a few compatible aspects making it up lol. ^_~;

posted June 01, 2009 06:59 PM         

I'm Dominant in Water, but also heavily Earthy.

Cosmica,

posted June 01, 2009 07:59 PM         

I think I have equal parts of most elements in my chart. Mars is prominent, as is fire, but only because of the placements.

One thing I did notice is that there's a theme going with my sun/their sun. Mine's in the 5th, and almost always my significant others have had their suns in the 11th, with some Uranus influence. My closest friends are Aquas or Leos (again, 5th house or 11th house theme).

I think fantastic synastry is relative. What feels awesome to you might suck for me, definitely according to natal chart to chart. And also generational aspects might come into play a lot in synastry. Someone with a Venus square Pluto is always going to have someone in their age range with a Pluto squaring their Venus in synastry. If they have problems with their Venus/Pluto aspect, then it would definitely become a theme in the relationship. If they're aware of the issue, then they'll be able to keep it in check, and the relationship would not be based on that Pluto/Venus theme.

Maybe then the thing with similar charts that echo each other is a theme of projection too , to an extent, as in, we see part of ourselves, it is externalized, and play out some roles with the other which maybe we otherwise tend to internalize and play out within ourselves.

posted June 02, 2009 05:33 AM         

there are different theories out there. Some say, it is enough to have shared natal aspects, some say they donŽt matter at all.

Personally I agree with Comica, they have to be triggered in some way.

And probably there have to be several things coming together:
1. natal shared or complimentary aspects
2. triggering synastry
3. and the fitting progressions / Transits to make you aware of the underlying attraction.

posted June 02, 2009 06:14 AM         

the way you phrased it it sounded like having Venus-Pluto-theme in synastry is a bad thing, and I wouldnŽt ahve thought of it.

I think every constellation can be expressed positively and negatively.

Personally, I have Venus-Pluto-square, but actually haven`t met too many people whose Pluto squares my Venus; but I am using a tight orb with Pluto anyway.

Funny though, the synastry can be text-book-fantastic; if there is no Venus-Pluto aspect either in synastry or even more so, in the other`s natal, I will not feel attracted.
I have experienced that over and over again.

I have seen so many Sun-Moon-conjunction, venus-Mars conjunctions and trines and so much more, yet only those with Venus-pluto or Mars-Pluto aspect or rulr of 1st or 7th in 8th house, or Pluto in 7 or 1, really attracted me.

posted June 02, 2009 02:42 PM         

Venus-Pluto can be the most wonderful, deepest, passionate experience ever, or it could be a real nasty, jealous, controlling, posessive hellride.

posted June 02, 2009 03:10 PM         

it`s what I have long suspected.
That Twinsouls or other halves will have either the same constellations or complimentary constellation (like one has Moon conjunct Uranus and the other has Sun conjunct Uranus or similiar placements).

Personally I think the repetition or reflection of the same energies will rather produce a feeling of familiarity, kinship, being "one of a kind", while complimentary aspects (I have Venus square Pluto, he has Mars conjunct Pluto) will produce a more complimentary, yet highly attractive exchange.