posted June 08, 2009 07:10 PM         

This is with the guy I asked horary question here about our relationship 2 weeks ago.

He is a high school friend a year senior..Friend is an exaggerated word as a matter of fact, he is an aquaintance of mine from school.I was close with his best friend..

After school we came across couple of times when there is a birthday or wedding of our common friends..

He is a good looking guy so I kinda used to like him but he behaved strange to me,always stared at me weird so I thought my feelings are one sided and I forgot about him.I really didnt pay attention to him when I saw him somewhere..

Anyway last year we became friends on facebook and I saw his profile picture is with a woman as a happy couple.I didnt mind actually..

A couple of months later I attended a very old friend's wedding.He was there too with his girlfriend.

It was crowded and I didnt really realise they were there, I was in a very good mood and having fun.I saw him when he came near me and started talking to me..
He was drunk and didnt say me hello..actually he poked me and said "Why are you always ignoring me,who do you think you are??"..well another leo man for venusmars

I was surprised..

He told me about his feelings for me..He said he was in love with me all those years including high school and still attracted to me..and complained about my self centered personality which is not true..

I really didnt know what to say..and her girlfriend came and took him with anger..

Then we started to come across at nights very often.sometimes with his girlfriend sometimes he was with his friends..

He wanted to meet me,wanted to talk about his feelings but I refused him because of his girlfriend.

This took nearly 7 months.
I realised that I really like him.
I didnt do anything wrong but Im attracted to him..
Then we started talking on the phone,sending messages..He was so romantic.

One night we went to a bar alone and at the end of the night he kissed me..nothing more happened btw..
I felt bad when I went home..2 days later I delete his number and messages and remove him from facebook.I wanted to prevent myself calling him because I couldnt get him out of my mind.I wrote him a message on facebook telling that I dont want to see him in this circumstances.
He answered he will respect my decision..I have to admit that it was a very long romantic message..It was hard for me..
Her girlfriend has health problems,he doesnt want to leave her.I knew she has.

I feel upset.But I did the right thing I guess.Im not a bad person but I really wanted him to end his relationship and be with me..Am I evil??I only dreamt about it though..didnt do anything to make it happen.

sorry to bother you all with my problem..but it is easier to vent when people dont know you..

here is the kissing chart..I just want hear your opinions..
It is and must be over obviously but I wonder your interpretations.
Thanks for your time..

posted June 08, 2009 07:45 PM         

This chart doesn't say anything about your the future of your relationship. A kiss doesn't predict a relationship. Unfortunately many people think that's the case and they end up getting very hurt. It is an event chart for a kiss. It describes the nature of that kiss, that's all.

Now, that might actually be good news because this chart actually has a lot of stress in it, suggesting lots of action and ambition in the kiss, but if it was a relationship chart I don't think it would be a happy one, but you're lucky it's not a chart of the relationship.

If you want to know about the nature of your relationship with him, maybe you should ask a clear question of what you want to know about him or the relationship. Then draw up a chart of the moment you asked that very clear question and maybe someone here can read that Horary Chart.

I do have an opinion, though. By choosing to stay with his girlfriend, he made a choice. Whether he made that choice out of moral obligation, guilt or codependence makes no difference. He had choices and he chose the one that he felt was best for him. I suggest you move on unless he makes a clean break with her and it doesn't seem like he's prepared to do that. I suspect he may try to approach you again somehow through email or a phone call or something and it will be very provocative to you because he probably is in love with you, but he won't break it off clean so move on.

posted June 08, 2009 08:17 PM         

If I were you I wouldn't count that chart as valid because:

Your question wasn't clear. One chart can not stand for two questions and if you had the astrologers answering one question when you really meant it to be a different question, it's all completely invalid.

Not only that, if you really wanted that chart to answer the question "Will we be more than friends?" then the answer is "NO!" because in the chart you are ruled by Pluto and he is ruled by Venus. Since those two planets do not make a connection at all in that chart, the answer is "NO!" Not only that, you are also represented by the Moon in that chart. The Moon is exactly opposite Saturn. That aspect is a definite "NO!".

When you ask a Horary question, you should make sure the question is TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY CLEAR. You may even need to meditate on it just to make sure you're asking the question you really want to know the answer to.

For example, the two of you are already more than friends. You are already in a relationship, yes. It's called "A Complicated Relationship" or an unrequited relationship, but it's a relationship never the less. It's a relationship that is not the open pleasant relationship that you want, but it is a relationship. You both have feelings for each other that is "More than friendly." Your feelings for each other are strongly affectionate and definitely not platonic.

So my suggestion is:

Ask what you REALLY WANT TO KNOW!
Don't ask a question that you already know the answer to.
Be honest with yourself and ask yourself, "Do I REALLY want to know the answer to this question?"

Give yourself a few days to clarify whatever it is that you want to ask.