posted June 15, 2009 08:03 PM         

She's great. And we're getting along just fine. Woot. Woot.

I did her natal chart, of course, and i spy A LOT of water. For those of you who know me personally, you know how much i LURVE water (especially Scorpio ), so all's swell, right?

Ehhhhhh!!!! Wrong.

In her natal chart she has basically NO harsh aspects... but our synastry produces a good amount of harsh-ness. What i'm worried about is bombarding her with heaviness... i don't want to scare her!

Natal:

Synastry:

posted June 15, 2009 08:28 PM         

She will likely feel your aggression (or Strength/force) but never be able to prove that it is really there, partly because you will be careful to not frighten her. She isn't innocent though. She might be passive aggressive and this will annoy you, but because she is so "nice" on the outside, you will also be unable to prove this about her, therefore you won't be able to do something about it since she might deny her passive aggression.

So, this may result in a lot of power struggles, or psychological fights that are seldom verbalized.

Because of your AC, you'll soon smell the rat of this and decide to confront her, but her AC prefers harmony so she'll probably avoid confrontation as much as she can. So, more than scaring her, she'll most likely annoy and frustrate you.

The frustration will go both ways. But, this could just be a once-in-a-while effect, or something that may never happen.

posted June 15, 2009 08:43 PM         

Thanks so much for your insight.

Question:

posted June 15, 2009 10:03 PM         

You might work out fine. I hope you don't turn this into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

posted June 15, 2009 10:23 PM         

Her ASC is approximated (based off of me guessing from her pictures- lame, i know!).

But here is the composite:

posted June 15, 2009 11:00 PM         

With Aqua moon, you'd express a lot of logical reasons on your principles and beliefs.

With Pisces moon this Sco woman seems very communicative than being secretive. But, she seems amazingly smart and equally magnetic.

I see a competition here.. It'll be a fun ride..

Ideally, I'd recommend avoiding this woman altogether.. unless you want to be adventurous and learn about water people.

This Sco woman seems like someone who would go to the Top and you may not even know her plans until she comes to the Top.

posted June 16, 2009 01:09 AM         

Why do you say that "ideally" you'd suggest avoiding her altogether- because of the possible power struggles?

... jeez... i think i'm getting nervous now!

posted June 16, 2009 03:07 AM         

So here you are, trying to fit in and be less overpowering, not scare the poor girl. What is she doing to help things along? It cuts both ways.

posted June 16, 2009 12:30 PM         

Drat!

My natural instinct is to investigate and try to bond with people who have similar interests as me, BUT obviously that would be just asking for trouble. Shucks!

posted June 16, 2009 01:26 PM         

forget astrology, just go with what your instincts tell you.
If they tell you that you want to bond with her, get to know her.
Astrology is not as fatalistic as some think.

Besides maybe she actually "needs" those energetic aspects, you provide her, to get active.

Let me give you an example of a friend and me:

Her Moon squares my Saturn
My Moon opposes her Saturn

my Pluto conjuncts her Mercury, Venus, Mars and Pluto

my Venus squares her Mercury, Venus, Mars and Pluto (the squares to Venus, Mars and Pluto are 5 dgree wide though)

Her Jupiter opposite my Mars

her Neptune squares my chartruler Jupiter and conjuncts my NN

her Pluto squares my Venus and conjuncts my MC

her MC squares my Mars and ASC

her ASC squares my Pluto

We have been friends for 20 years this year! More than half of our lives.
And no, it wasn`t always easy, and we are definitely different in some respects, but we grew together and most people, we knew from school or universitiy, can`t believe that we STILL are friends. But we are, and I think we will be until one of us dies.

posted June 16, 2009 02:08 PM         

You might end up being best buddies, who knows? But let her initiate that if she is drawn to you.

posted June 16, 2009 02:31 PM         

yes, this friendship is pretty serious. As I said we are different in some respects, but there is much tolerance, respect and understanding between us and the knowledge that we are able to learn from each other.
I think we know each other pretty well, probably better than most.

I think maybe her Aries-Moon sextile my Moon helped as well as my Jupiter exactly trine her ASC.

So what I wanted to say is these tension aspects don`t really have to be all that bad.

Anyway all you can do is wait and see how it develops.
And you said your first impression was positive, so I`d go with it. My first impression actually never failed me until now, if I only had listened to it in some cases! *sighs*

posted June 18, 2009 01:26 PM         

I had supposedly excellent synastry with my former roommate and we clashed constantly. Eventually, we became enemies. Ultimately, free will will determine your relationship with each other.

You need to tell her directly either by calling her or waiting until you see her in person, what your pet peeves are. Ask her to do the same. Decide right then and there how you will handle conflicts. Tell her that if you do anything that annoys her, then she should feel free to tell you directly or write a note if she doesn't handle confrontation well. If she goes to sleep late and you go to sleep early, make sure you decide together how you will handle these differences. It's important to establish an open communication from the very start.

Another thing to discuss is how to handle friends coming over. Do you want to be told ahead of time if there will be visitors? Does she? Do you like to party while she prefers a quiet environment or vice versa?

Whenever you guys have a disagreement, try to discuss the problem calmly, though this will be challenging at times. If you can't speak calmly, tell her that you need to cool off and will return when you calm down.

Another source of conflict is dealing with a messy roommate. Are you both messy or is only one of you messy while the other is very neat? Be upfront about your habits and come to a compromise on how to deal with it.

To sum up, you need to discuss the following with your roommate:
1) How you will handle conflict
2) Pet peeves
3) Personal habits

posted June 18, 2009 08:38 PM         

Much thanks. I think you're right- the best way to deal with this is logically. In a very Virgo-like manner: just get the facts and build from there.

This is going to be my sophmore year, so i have lived with roommates before... but there was just something about this chick that made me HAVE to do her chart. So when i looked at all of this i thought it might be a big deal, but it's really not.