posted July 01, 2009 03:07 AM         

it went like this

we made love early in the morning and then our discussion became a little more serious which could not be a bad thing. We talked about future, kids, chores, having fun and we seemed to agree with eatchother. Still being serious he added that he is a jealous guy, sometimes too jealous. I laughed saying it's not a being deal and it's normal to be jealous when you love someone. BUT my laugh froze when he said ” if i don' want you to go out the you don't go, you have to tell me where you go and why”. I tried to tell him it's not healthy acting like that and i asked him what i did the same. Didn't seem worried about it, urghhh
And as if it wasn't enough, my sweet told me to get ready for the second round...
i must admit i AM a passionate girl but three times a day WTF ??
i am adding his chart so you can see more

i don't know his exact birth time

posted July 01, 2009 03:20 AM         

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i must admit i AM a passionate girl but three times a day WTF ??

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I dont really understand that in context of what you have written.

Taking a wild guess at Capricorn, as yeah, does seem controlling. Saturn is placed at 0 degrees Scorpio.

posted July 01, 2009 03:23 AM         

Is this the early stages of a relationship?

It sounds like it. The options are things settle down until you find a balance between you, or your chemistry curdles. His chart is heavy on oppositions so finding a balance is part of his inner tensions (we all have them to some extent or another).

Saturn and Pluto in conjunction is quite a hard aspect to carry. It is a long-term aspect so will hit a lot of people around his age, but even so. We don't know where his Moon is and it could be very significant.

posted July 01, 2009 03:36 AM         

I've always attracted jealous and possessive men. I had one person tell me he was so jealous of other people around me that we couldn't have children because he would be couldn't share me with them. The problem exists within them and there's nothing you can do or say to ease it and as time goes on they become more insecure and therefore more controlling, and you slowly become imprisoned by their "love".

posted July 01, 2009 04:48 AM         

The guy i'm talking about also has Saturn 11' Scorpio, Mars 14' Scorpio and AC 11'Scorpio all in which conjunct my Moon in Scorpio and he has an 8th House Moon, Saturn inconjunct Sun.
Saturn=Controller Pluto=Jealous controller

It does sound like you're at the early stage of the relationship and me and my guy just being friends makes it easier to dismiss but for you and your guy your in a relationship which can make things harder and sometimes more willing to endure more then you normally would.

posted July 01, 2009 04:51 AM         

Do you have your chart handy?

Looking at the synastry might be illuminating. It sounds like you've already warned him that his behaviour isn't healthy and you've managed to do it in a non-confrontational manner.

posted July 01, 2009 04:51 AM         

Telling someone how/where/with whom they can live, what to do and all that is a sure way of controlling people. Not very healthy at all.

Some may do it and then relent, which is fine and understandable for a Taurus/Scorpio. Others who really mean it, you should go away from as quick as possible.

posted July 01, 2009 04:59 AM         

His birthnumber is 9, very aggressive and he has these negative aspects:

1. NESSUS sq Saturn

2. NESSUS conj NEMESIS

3. NEMESIS conj NESSUS sq DEJANIRA, the potential rapist/sexual assault aspects.

4. LUCIFER sq Sun exact, creepy!

5. PHOLUS-Venus-IXION form an exact YOD with Mars opp IXION. Too many negative characteristics. He has the potential to be a nightmare at age 29 when there is Saturn return and Saturn conj Pluto.

Trust Coffee, Peri and Peacenagel. Run away from this relationship. Listen to your intelligence on this, not your body or heart.

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posted July 01, 2009 05:03 AM         

these are actual conversations.

it can start out bad and just get worse. unfortuantely these men are usually good providers, well liked in the community and no one would much have a clue except you, who maybe put 10 extra miles on the car when you picked up the kids from school, where the hell did you go?

posted July 01, 2009 08:17 AM         

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BUT my laugh froze when he said ” if i don' want you to go out the you don't go, you have to tell me where you go and why”. I tried to tell him it's not healthy acting like that and i asked him what i did the same. Didn't seem worried about it, urghhh
And as if it wasn't enough, my sweet told me to get ready for the second round...

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Hmmm. As amowls said here he seems unapologetic about his jealousy which sounds like a big warning. I'm all for people being mildly jealous, it's ok as long as you're aware of it and know how ridiculous it is (falling in love and letting go is scary after all). But the lack of apology....

I went out with someone who sounds remarkably like him. Never EVER apologised for his outrageous jealousy. Biggest control freak ever, which escalated into violence.

And you know what disturbs me most about the quote above? He is controlling through sex. Be aware of it. Sex should be beautiful and levelling. Not "Here is what I think, now I will **** you to reinforce the message". The only time I ever got a shag from my wifebeater was when another man strayed too close (ie popped round as a friend for a cuppa) and he felt threatened. What a joke. I was pretty much ignored the rest of the time. I never went out, he banned my family from visiting the house.

Be aware that I once got hit for washing up too loudly on Christmas Day. The 5 year thing, she makes sense you know.

And I can't even let myself off with excuses that I wasn't aware of it from word go. I was. I just never anticipated how bad it would get and how it would affect my other relationships after him. And how it would affect my image of myself.

cpn edgar winner.