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Topic: What's up with all of the cheating??
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geemeeni
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posted July 14, 2009 02:09 PM
 
Has anyone else noticed more cheating in marriages and significant relationships lately? All of a sudden I know of three marriages where this is going on. The first in which it took place earlier this year and is now breaking up the marriage. The second situation in which a friend cheated on a husband recently and is now questioning her marriage. The third involves a friend who confided to me that he is considering cheating on his wife and he may have alreay started (that situation is somewhat complicated, and I do have a lot of sympathy for him, but certainly don't think cheating is the answer).I feel anger and sadness all in one big ball tumbling inside. IP: Logged |
DepTaurus
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From: canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 02:20 PM
i have noticed alot of affairs in people in office recently too its all over the news every weeks some new senator or govenor is admiting to cheating.
well we got jupiter chiron neptune all in aquarius all about experimentation the sign of aquarius and three planets could mean three people forming a love triangle in peoples love lifes. jupiter= man neptune emotions= women chiron slutbag= the other man or women.IP: Logged |
geemeeni
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posted July 14, 2009 02:57 PM
chiron slutbag = the other woman...LOVE the humor. I burst out laughing on that one. What about for the other man? Dic*face? IP: Logged |
DepTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 330
From: canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 03:03 PM
dickhead dickface dickbag doucheface douchebag dickwad dicknut nutters nutbag
adulter the guy shes doing it with pick any you like there tones.IP: Logged |
DepTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 330
From: canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 03:04 PM
my favorite is slutmonkey cause men are such ***** and there hairy lol. i just made fun of my own gender and myself ahh who cares.IP: Logged |
Glaucus
Knowflake Posts: 788
From: Sacramento,California
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 03:08 PM
shrugsI have problems trusting women these days.
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Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 683
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 03:37 PM
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I have problems trusting women these days.
Just "these days?"
It has been longer for Me.  I dont know if Men and Women are slowly switching roles, or if its the feminism movement giving aftershocks. I was under the impression that Women cheat more than Men. Maybe Pluto is responsible. Currently just entered Capricorn, which is square to relationship sign of Libra. Pluto in Libra 70s - 80s, maybe some 60s too. IP: Logged |
cpn_edgar_winner
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From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 03:51 PM
kinda disheartening.really destroys families IP: Logged |
amowls*
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From: richmond va
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 04:08 PM
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I was under the impression that Women cheat more than Men.
I was under the impression that men and women cheat equally because PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. Recently we had Venus retrograde. As for the Senator from South Carolina, well, politicians have cheated all the time, not just recently. IP: Logged |
downtomars
Knowflake Posts: 151
From: NY
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 04:22 PM
I think it is societal. We live in a society where we are encouraged to be “free” and to “do whatever makes you happy”. This is great, I believe in this, however, we are not told to deal with the consequences. It is all very self-centered. We feel we can just “free” ourselves from paying child support and I can “make myself happy” by screwing the secretary even though I have a wife and three kids at home. Woo hoo! It’s all about ME and MY HAPPINESS, right? Why should I deny myself anything that I want?! I am unhappy with my girlfriend or boyfriend so why can’t I just make myself HAPPY?The message has gotten all messed up, lines are crossed. DO make yourself happy but please, have some consideration for the people you have brought into your life.
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geemeeni
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posted July 14, 2009 04:38 PM
downtomars- EXACTLY.Is integrity that difficult to maintain? Choosing a moment of pleasure over a loved one's sense of trust, love, security, possibly self-esteem, etc. that may take years to rebuild? Where's the fuc*ing integrity? I know it's commonplace these days, but doesn't it seem like it would be creating major karmic issues? I don't mean to be offensive to those of you who have been in the role of the cheater... I know it's a very complicated experience and judging from the outside is a limited perspective. It's just a really disappointing side to human nature. I wish we could get a better grip on ourselves. IP: Logged |
comica23
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posted July 14, 2009 04:43 PM
This is not just about love, but also lack of personal morality.Generational stuffs.. When Pluto was in Scorpio, deep bonds and sense of right and wrong (sextile Capricorn Neptune) where deeply valued.. Maybe with Sagittarius Pluto and Aquarius Neptune, freedom and radical visions became the main focus of the world - not that it is necessarily a bad thing (Scorpio Pluto/Capricorn Neptune had its negative sides too), yet maybe people might have gotten too focused on these issues that they forgot the real meaning of these so it turned out negative in certain aspects. IP: Logged |
cpn_edgar_winner
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From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 04:44 PM
kudos to downtown mars and geenmeenie.how you hurt people will undoubtedly be how you are hurt. betrayal hurts a lot. so many cheaters i know have lost the respect of thier kids, never to get it back. consequences are rarely thought of. how hard is it to actually leave a relationship first? you want to screw the guys down the street or the secretary leave and then do it. at least then you would be honest. IP: Logged |
DepTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 330
From: canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 05:09 PM
the one one thing that does get me off is that people when they cheat and there sitting on a bed or wherever with that person there about to cheat with and they know exactly what there doing.
that just seriously bugs me how they can do that and know there doing it. its if they block everything out of there mind and still do it. and stil have the guts to come home and look your lover in the eyes and kiss them and hug them and act like nothing ever happened. how did we get so uncompassionate and rigid and so cruel.
i just dont get it.IP: Logged |
Cheshire Kat
Knowflake Posts: 259
From: Wonderland
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 05:30 PM
Because mogonomy bores some people, I hear all the time "Eww how can you be stuck with the same person for years..I get bored with a person I have to spend a week with..".Actually I am ok with other people having open relationships as long as they are honest about it with their partner(s)..it's not something I would do but I can understand some people wanting that kind of relationship. Right now my Aries best friend is in an open relationship and it's all honest she tells the guys that she's not looking for commitment and she also makes sure these guys are single, she just wants to have a fun time. I've never looked at her as a cheating selfish snake or a **** ..I look at her as someone honest with their needs, plus she says she's always safe and I guess I believe her. I do find it wrong when people sneak around and cheat behind their partner's back..atleast have the decency to end the relationship..
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aquarian/scorpio
Knowflake Posts: 159
From: Middle Earth
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 05:30 PM
so sad...No wonder I have such a hard time trusting people because of the lack of morals and the screwed mentality. How people can just pretend with another is just beyond me. IP: Logged |
mblover
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 05:34 PM
Welcome to the Aqua Age..The cheating in this Age relates to the need for freedom, experiments and satisfying logical reasoning. The logical reasons are everywhere when people are caught cheating. Note: The above does not relate to Aqua people. I am talking about the Aqua Age we are all in. IP: Logged |
etherealenlightenment
Knowflake Posts: 84
From: far away...
Registered: May 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 05:41 PM
I completely agree with all of your statements!It IS a lack of morality, compassion!! It's blatant disrespect and dishonesty!! What is the world coming to??? Look, all I'm saying is, why do you need to cheat?? You're bored? Ok fine, then don't start a relationship then! Or.... End the relationship first! It's that simple. If you're not happy, then you don't need to be in that relationship. If you're happy, then why would you need to cheat? Geez! For once I just wish that people would put themselves in their partner's shoes... how would they feel if THEIR partner cheated on THEM?? Ugh... I've been cheated on by someone I've loved before and let me just say that it is one of the worst feelings in the world. The whole concept is just something my Pisces Moon cannot get a grasp on. IP: Logged |
geemeeni
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posted July 14, 2009 05:51 PM
Chesire Kat,Hats off to your friend for actually being able to have a healthy approach to open relationships. It takes a lot of emotional maturity to manage something like that and not bring unnecessary drama to the lives involved. And it's a completely different story- I don't see how it could be considered "cheating"- when both partners know what's happening, when no one involved is sneaking. IP: Logged |
belgz
Knowflake Posts: 214
From: Sydney, Australia
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 06:05 PM
lol how funny. Cheating is a part of life. Whether its physically, verbally or emotionally. We all deceive each other.
Its not a nice thing but life is easier when you accept it.
The grass isnt greener on the other side either. Some are worse than others and deserve the boot but in matters of marriage its more complicated. My bfs have never cheated on me but i have venus in leo in 12th. I love attention at times and my moon in gemini loves flirting plus it opposes neptune my 7th house ruler.I have cheated on my bf with my ex but sex is sex. Its a one off thing and it never means anything! I wouldnt do it if i was married though.
Another thing is that ive been in a long relationship that isnt getting anywhere so that does contribute to my relaxed attitude.. Years ago i was so in love but it freakd me out i used to cry from this love i had for him lol but i cheated on hěm too at first to distance myself a bit emotionally but it never worked.
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geemeeni
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posted July 14, 2009 06:06 PM
So sorry to those of you that have been wounded by a cheater. The majority of people have been it seems. Happened to me once (that I know of) about 13 years ago, and I've appreciated stable partners even more since then.IP: Logged |
cpn_edgar_winner
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From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 06:08 PM
cheshire cat - to me that isnt cheating that is honesty. honesty is commendable.
its the dishonest actually cheating in a committed relationship that i will never respect. nobody is holding a shotgun up to thier heads making them commit. they chose to commit. that is cheating.IP: Logged |
geemeeni
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posted July 14, 2009 06:16 PM
belgz,you remind me of a basic point and that is, generally speaking, the more it hurts someone to be cheated on the less likely that person is to cheat on someone else. although i have come across a few big hypocrites that cheat all the time but expect that they should never have it done to them because it's so damaging to their ego. i believe in an eye for an eye when it comes to cheating... once a person cheats the door is open for their partner to. and thanks for your honesty... i like to understand why people choose to do this. you don't often hear of cheating when someone is so in love with another, as you were with your ex. IP: Logged |
Mannequin
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posted July 14, 2009 06:52 PM
i hate cheaters that cheat on a loving, caring, committed partner.they should all implode in a ball of fire, then have their ash hoovered up along with the other rubbish they belong with. IP: Logged |
DepTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 330
From: canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 14, 2009 06:57 PM
wow mannequinthat was really harsh and brutal i take it that you have had some bad experinces in relationshis too. IP: Logged |
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