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Topic: Virgo Not Ready to Commit?
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hikoro
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posted July 21, 2009 10:02 AM
 
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Just Mia
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2009 10:41 AM
There was this Virgo guy that I went to highschool with and he chased me all through highschool told eveyone how much he loved me blah,blah...Some years later he and I met up again and I decided to give him a chance he claimed I still love you like I did when we were in highschool..We dated a lil while and I had already knew that I was not going to do anything casual for a long time or invest any emotional energy into anything that was not going anywhere. So we had the talk and he was slow dragging with excuses and making up stories. I just told him this is over I don't have time for this nonsense you either want me or you don't.. So things ended and I told him I don't do fall backs so don't fall back..He was cool with that or appeared to be 5 months later here he comes, talking about how I brought good things to his life and he figure it out blah,blah.. I told him friends we will always be but I am done you missed the open window.. Its a sticky situation and when you know what you want you don't settle for anything else..You know whats best for you.. If someone asked me what sign "never knows a good thing until its gone" I would say Virgo's and Aquarius men, been in that spot with them to many times.. IP: Logged |
VirgOh
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From: New Jersey, USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted July 21, 2009 10:54 AM
I agree Mia, it's a sad reality that us Virgos are too ocupied with the perfect mate image we have set in our minds and on very few occasions we come across someone who comes so close to embodying that image yet we let them go because we focus a lot on the details and fail to see the bigger picture.It takes time and patience, and not a lot of people have that. Hikoro, ironically yes, and from my own experience I can tell right away if the person is worth the emotional energy I am going to invest in a relationship I would tell them right away (In my case I dont tell them, I do things to show them that I am very interested) else I'd be blunt about it and tell them right away that there is no future in it and that I am not interested in this whole thing, I belive it's better to break a heart with your honesty rather than break it with disloyalty. If this Virguy is acting this way then he is not sure of his feelings towards you, the best thing to do is to either end it or back off and dont bring up the subject, you need to get him to come to you and talk about it not the other way around. IP: Logged |
Peri
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From: 49N35 34E34
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2009 10:56 AM
he did tell you he did not want a commitment ... and if you dont like to be just 'dating' then you have nothing to wait for, it seems ... and it may have nothing to do with you being 'not right' or 'not good enough for him to commit', sometimes the timing is wrong and sometimes it is just not meant to be...   IP: Logged |
hikoro
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posted July 21, 2009 12:06 PM
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Peri
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posted July 21, 2009 12:14 PM
if it's so hard for you and he is good to you, enjoy what you have, you dont have to break up if you dont want to ...you should read this thread: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum10/HTML/003636.html IP: Logged |
GypseeWind
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From: Dayton,Ohio USA
Registered: May 2009
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posted July 21, 2009 12:22 PM
I can relate to your situation completely.
I've had more than one Virgo boyfriend, and always they seem to want "all their ducks in order, before..."Yet they would keep calling now and then, sort of keeping things going, but not really there. If you know what I mean? Then popping back up months later when I have moved on, and saying that they wished they would have done this or that different. So I know what you mean.
I usually cut them loose, but never quite get over the "what if" question. Best to keep it as casual as possible, focus on your studies, and see what happens.
You never know, and that is the beauty of it. IP: Logged |
hikoro
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posted July 21, 2009 12:42 PM
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