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Topic: Would You Ever...?
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meta_4 Knowflake Posts: 741 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 02, 2010 03:19 PM
...date someone outside your sexual orientation?I'm being serious. Think about it. I ponder this. I want to spend the rest of my life with a man. Of this i am certain. But every so often I cross a woman who, to me, is the epitome of femininity and beauty. And I wonder to myself if I would ever be able to love her in the same way. I don't think I could. A part of me knows I could never, and I dismiss my attraction as my Aqua Moon being strange... But think about it; if you met the other piece of your puzzle, and you thought them handsome, do you think you could date outside your sexual orientation? This goes for straight women/men and non-straight women/men. I want to know your thoughts? Hypothetically speaking, of course. IP: Logged |
Astra Knowflake Posts: 186 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 02, 2010 03:57 PM
Great question!I personally could not for two reasons: 1) Although I've thought that some women I've come across were beautiful, intelligent and kind, I've admired them as one would admire beautiful scenery. Within seconds, they would be out of sight and out of mind. There is just no sexual attraction there. 2) In order to date someone, they must also want to date you. Hypothetically speaking, let us say that I am homosexual and wanted to date a heterosexual woman. In order to date her, she would have to agree to date me, but then for her to agree to a date, she must have some sort of initial physical attraction to me, right? This would mean she was not straight. At best, she would be bisexual. I think the only people who could date people of different orientations are those who are either unsure of their sexual orientation or are bisexual. People who are homosexual will date other homosexuals, and people who are straight will date other straight people of the opposite gender. IP: Logged |
Lonake Knowflake Posts: 985 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 02, 2010 03:57 PM
I meet a lot of women who would be perfect for me if they were men. Doesn't hurt that they look masculine or are on the tomboyish side. I actually meet 'twins' often in the course of my life, encountering the female version as a friend and then yrs later the male and dating him or likewise meeting the male first then befriending the female version later on. They have everything the same save for gender, hair color/style, and height/weight. Mannerisms, traits, the face shapes/features, everything else is exactly the same. Makes me wonder if I ever would...But real sexual attraction, I've only felt that for men.I wonder if Merc conj Dsc is what gives me the twins I keep meeting. IP: Logged |
depth Knowflake Posts: 121 From: Al Kuwayt Registered: Mar 2010
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posted April 02, 2010 04:27 PM
yes, if were les otherwise no, but i wouldn't mind a chic crushing on me.. IP: Logged |
depth Knowflake Posts: 121 From: Al Kuwayt Registered: Mar 2010
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posted April 02, 2010 04:30 PM
if em attracted to the same-sex person, i wouldn't mind. em pretty vocal when it comes to my feelings so i would activley ask the person out on a date.IP: Logged |
cpn_edgar_winner Knowflake Posts: 2044 From: Toledo, OH Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 02, 2010 04:48 PM
yes. i could see myself possibly loving a woman. it just didnt happen. and the wierd thing is i wouldnt call myself bi sexual but there have been times i have been attracted to a woman. usually dark hair and skin.. i just would have been open to it if it had been a woman that i ever fell in love with. love is love. but i got a big goofy man instead.IP: Logged |
Got Gemini? Knowflake Posts: 201 From: Mercury Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 02, 2010 04:55 PM
I really don't know how many different ways I can say NO to that. How many languages and dialects are there? Yeah, that many to the power of infinity no. Don't get me wrong, I am not a homophobe or anything like that, it's just it's not my thing. I don't go around admiring other men except my son. ------------------ Virgo Asc 6˚& Mars 0˚ Gemini Sun 24˚ Libra Moon 14˚(conjunct Pluto 0˚ in 2nd house) Gemini Mercury 25˚ Cancer Venus 29˚ (Mutual reception with Moon) And yes, i'm a guy! IP: Logged |
Anicia Knowflake Posts: 70 From: USA Registered: Jun 2009
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posted April 02, 2010 05:08 PM
My Aqua Moon must sympathize with yours...I've been attracted to both sexes for as long as I can remember but feel that I will ultimately end up with a man. Most of the time I'm more physically attracted to women, but when I do find a man I feel something for (and this doesn't happen often) there's fireworks. IP: Logged |
Glaucus Knowflake Posts: 2951 From: Sacramento,California Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 02, 2010 05:12 PM
A person that doesn't identify with form at all wouldn't care about one's sex. He/she wouldn't use terms like heterosexual,homosexual,bisexual to label himself/herself nor would he/she refer to himself/herself as male or female. There is nothing that says soulmates,twin flames can't be of the same sex. I believe that every person has pastlife history of being both sexes. I believe soul transcends sex. Therefore, I believe that homosexual couples could have actually known each other in pastlives as one being a different sex. They could have shared a pastlife as heterosexual couple in a pastlife.
I still identify with form as male,multiracial,human being/homo sapien,and heterosexual even though I believe that I had many pastlives as both sexes that might be reflected by my high estrogen levels for a male. I want to have a wife and children. I always wanted that. Therefore, the answer is NO for me. ------------------ Raymond
Supporting the Neurodiversity Movement A Different Mind Is Not A Deficient Mind. http://people.tribe.net/4b0cf8c4-1fc3-4171-92d3-b0915985bf95/blog IP: Logged |
depth Knowflake Posts: 121 From: Al Kuwayt Registered: Mar 2010
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posted April 02, 2010 05:46 PM
em with you glaucus!!there's nothing wrong in "admiring" women/men other than ur husband/wife. what's wrong if u find that guy/gal who washes ur car "HOT"?. that doesn't make u lusty eyed. i admire a lot of men & women. i've crushes even if em in a committed relationsp. i enjoy men flirting with me irrespective of whether em single or not. i take pride in the fact that a guys' interested in me. similarly,i'll bask in the attention a woman's showering me with. wouldn't mind if she callsme @ midnight to wish me a good night. i'd treat her the way i'd treat any other guyem not interested in. we can be friends--she can continue being interested----flirt with me...em cool with it. my aqua asc sympathises with ur moon IP: Logged |
Sanchenuss Knowflake Posts: 496 From: Clinton, SC USA Registered: Nov 2009
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posted April 02, 2010 05:48 PM
I like to hit on guys just to see their reaction. I was at the mall last week and I would walk up to guys, tell them that they were cute and ask if they would date me. I would end up going on a date with a man and then shutting him down if he tried any moves on me. IP: Logged |
amowls* Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: richmond va Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 02, 2010 09:19 PM
Nope. And I think it's really sh*tty to hit on gay dudes when you're not gay just to be a tease and boost ego points. My best friend is gay and it absolutely drives me up the wall when straight girls hit on her just to make themselves feel better and string her along and then she feels crappy because they don't actually like her. It's crushing. IP: Logged |