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Topic: Are we meant for each other?
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cutenadorablesagi Knowflake Posts: 22 From: Philadelphia,PA,USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 16, 2010 02:55 PM
My birthdate is Dec 4,1983 and timings are 01:07 PM IST Kolkata, India.His birthdate is July 7th, 1977 and timings are 11:00 AM IST Lucknow, India. Do you think marriage is an option here or anything similar? IP: Logged |
lalalinda Moderator Posts: 788 From: nevada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 17, 2010 12:24 AM
Hello cutenadorablesagi! Welcome to LL IP: Logged |
cutenadorablesagi Knowflake Posts: 22 From: Philadelphia,PA,USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 08:40 AM
LL has been my savior all this while!Thanks for being there IP: Logged |
Hera Knowflake Posts: 20 From: the OR Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 10:43 AM
Hey, adorable Sagi! You might get more replies if you post the synastry chart. Most people here are visual people. Also, for the record, free will trumps synastry. Unless you have plenty of Pluto, which has a talent of making you forget about your will, for better or worse. What I'm saying is that you probably will get replies about how you two interact, but nobody can say if you'll marry this guy, because that is a decision only you and he can make, regardless of what the chart says. Still, for the fun of it, post it. There are several people here skilled at synastry who might help you. Good luck! ------------------ *previously Izo* Every day is a battle with yourself, one you can never win, nor lose, nor abandon IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Knowflake Posts: 350 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 10:46 AM
quote: Unless you have plenty of Pluto, which has a talent of making you forget about your will, for better or worse.
------------------ Pluto conjunct Dejanira, Girlfriend. IP: Logged |
cutenadorablesagi Knowflake Posts: 22 From: Philadelphia,PA,USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 10:49 AM
Can you suggest a site from where I can get a chart?IP: Logged |
angel100 Knowflake Posts: 189 From: Ireland Registered: Nov 2009
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posted September 17, 2010 10:57 AM
Hey there , you can get a chart from astro.com, i think they need your email address and you can also create an account and put in your birth details as a guest user? IP: Logged |
cutenadorablesagi Knowflake Posts: 22 From: Philadelphia,PA,USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 11:28 AM
Thanks angel100 !My birthchart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_w2gw_01_kanupriya_singh_hp.54159.1547.gif&res=63&va=&cid=0twfileLk9BwJ-u1284735733 His birthchart: http://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_w2gw_02_aditya_vikram_chauhan_hp.55515.1057.gif&res=63&va=&cid=0twfileLk9BwJ-u1284735733 Hope this helps! My marriage with him is 90% sure but for some reason I am worried about my instability which makes me feel apprehensive if I will be able to make this relationship last forever! IP: Logged |
racole12 Knowflake Posts: 558 From: the world is my home! Registered: Feb 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 11:56 AM
Is this the same guy you were asking about months back or someone new? IP: Logged |
cutenadorablesagi Knowflake Posts: 22 From: Philadelphia,PA,USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 12:04 PM
Wow! Whattay memory...glad that u still remember!No, he isnt the same guy. Well, everyone advised me to forget about him so I did the same. We are no more in touch. I am not sure how many of you agree with the arrange marriage system. This guy for whom I've posted is someone chosen by my parents and I am not able to digest it again. I was wondering if someone can help me again. IP: Logged |
Hera Knowflake Posts: 20 From: the OR Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 12:31 PM
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Hera Knowflake Posts: 20 From: the OR Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 12:41 PM
quote: I am not sure how many of you agree with the arrange marriage system. This guy for whom I've posted is someone chosen by my parents and I am not able to digest it again.
The question is not about what we agree with, but what YOU agree with, what you want and need. From your natal chart, you seem like a free spirit, independent, with a will of your own, also quite romantic and passionate, so I imagine an arranged marriage might not be what you want. He, on the other hand, seems a more conformist type of guy, so he probably will accept this without too much arguing. It seems to me that you are pretty different and at odds regarding this. The composite does suggest an arranged marriage, with Capricorn on DC and Saturn conjunct Sun exact, Sun being ruler of the 2nd - marriage for security or financial reasons. There is plenty of karma between you, suggested not only by the Venus-NN conjunction in the composite, but also by his Moon in your 12th house. I'll think about this some more, I wonder what the others say about it. ------------------ *previously Izo* Every day is a battle with yourself, one you can never win, nor lose, nor abandon IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Knowflake Posts: 350 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 01:05 PM
I am not that experienced in Astrology. I see two aspects which could be problematic for an arranged marriage. The one which is the most troubling,from my limited experience ,is his Venus conjunct your Chiron. The Chiron person is called upon to pour out healing to the planet person. If one chose to do this, it would be fine but if one fell in to it, it may be a huge and unwanted surprise. The other thing is his Neptune on your Sun.My limited experience with this is someone's Neptune on my ASC . They idealized me. However, I never married them or lived with them to see IF it wore off and then,perhaps, they were angry that I was not what I APPEARED to be. Neptune clouds what it touches with distortions which can be good such as rose colored glasses or not good, also. ------------------ Pluto conjunct Dejanira, Girlfriend.
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cutenadorablesagi Knowflake Posts: 22 From: Philadelphia,PA,USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 02:16 PM
Hera, quote: an arranged marriage might not be what you want. He, on the other hand, seems a more conformist type of guy, so he probably will accept this without too much arguing. It seems to me that you are pretty different and at odds regarding this.
I would second that. He has simply agreed to everything and looks interested. This has pushed me in a very uncomfortable position. It is not that I am interested in someone else. However, my senses keep hammering on my head. Why? I don't know! But when you say 2 nd marriage...it scares me to death. I am not someone who would keep changing partners for a better life. I would rather change myself to make "our" life better! IP: Logged |
FrozenQueen Knowflake Posts: 249 From: The boundary where 'reality' ends and Dreams begin Registered: May 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 03:03 PM
Hera said the Composite Sun in the 2nd meant a marriage for security or financial reasons not a second marriage ------------------ We are mourned on the basis of WHAT we leave behind, not WHO we leave behind. IP: Logged |
cutenadorablesagi Knowflake Posts: 22 From: Philadelphia,PA,USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 03:20 PM
Phew!! Thank God. I mis-read it coz of being too enthusiastic. Sorry about that!Hera, I would confirm that. No emtional interest here. He is a potential suitor in every way and I dont have reasons to decline the proposal. I am just not sure about myself. IP: Logged |
Hera Knowflake Posts: 20 From: the OR Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 03:55 PM
That's exactly my point. I think you need to figure yourself out, what you want from a relationship, from marriage, and only you can answer if this is what you want. I don't see any sparks between you, it looks more like friendship or a bussiness relationship than marriage. There are some good aspects between you, but I see it more like a binding, constricting relationship for you. There's a lot of Saturn, that can be long-lasting or it can become an imprisonment. I especially dislike composite Saturn conjunct Sun and IC. He has all his angles in the last degrees of mutable signs. Uranus is conjuncting his DC and touching all the others. This man will have transiting Uranus in his 7th house for YEARS to come, which indicates instability in relationships. I didn't say 2nd marriage, but this transit might trigger a divorce, especially because soon after, you will have Uranus in your 1st, amplifying your already uranian natal nature. I'm guessing that in a few years, if you do marry and you find the arrangement too confining, you will want out. So the best advice I can give you is to spend some time with this guy, get to know him very well and see if he's the guy for you (the potential for disappointment is real for both of you, as Ami said, because of the Neptune-luminaries contacts), also spend time with yourself and think about what YOU want, not what your parents want. It is your life after all and you should decide for it. ------------------ *previously Izo* Every day is a battle with yourself, one you can never win, nor lose, nor abandon IP: Logged |
cutenadorablesagi Knowflake Posts: 22 From: Philadelphia,PA,USA Registered: Jul 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 04:10 PM
Thanks Hera!!I think I need to counsel myself. Can I ask you for one last help? Do you see me in any kind of relationship/love/affair in coming years? Something which would be lasting long enough and not just be a momentary thing. IP: Logged |
raspberri Knowflake Posts: 1049 From: venus Registered: Jan 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 04:42 PM
Um, I dont think the Chiron person heals the Venus person. I have it exact and I heal him. I'm Venus.He torments me, while I give openly and lovingly. BTW it seems like the above synastry is meant to be. IP: Logged |
DD Knowflake Posts: 5976 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 17, 2010 04:53 PM
Agree on the take on Venus-Chiron. Chiron usually is the one in need of healing.Don`t agree on the latter one. I donīt believe in "meant to be" synastries, in the sense that a being together will be guaranteed. Does not exist. I am with Hera / Izo. Putting astrology aside, you need to think about what YOU want.
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raspberri Knowflake Posts: 1049 From: venus Registered: Jan 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 05:10 PM
Well that composite Venus on the NN is very significant. Shows their love was meant to be.Composite NN always shows the direction of a relationship. If there arent any planets/points aspecting the Composite NN, then the relationship is going nowhere. IP: Logged |
Lonake Knowflake Posts: 1664 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 17, 2010 09:18 PM
quote: If there arent any planets/points aspecting the Composite NN, then the relationship is going nowhere.
This is wildly inaccurate.IP: Logged |
raspberri Knowflake Posts: 1049 From: venus Registered: Jan 2010
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posted September 17, 2010 09:32 PM
Show me a composite of a relationship that has produced a marriage and or kids and you will find something conjunct the NN.Please, prove me wrong. IP: Logged |
Lonake Knowflake Posts: 1664 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 17, 2010 09:43 PM
No problem.Composite NN of a couple married for 17 yrs with children. No conjunctions. And vice versa, Conjunctions to NN of relationships that fizzle out, with no lasting ties. When looking at the NN in composites it's not so much about aspects as it is primarily about the condition of the ruler and house placements. I'll add another instance just for ***** and giggles, the composite of my former spouse and I (we've produced a child) and there's the NN in Taurus, in H10, with zero conjunctions. I could go on but frankly I'd run out of room. I hope you understand. IP: Logged |
Lonake Knowflake Posts: 1664 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 17, 2010 09:45 PM
quote: Show me a composite of a relationship that has produced a marriage and or kids and you will find something conjunct the NN.
Of course, I'm sure you'd find a random asteroid IP: Logged |