posted November 11, 2011 03:19 AM            

Libra rising here lol

I have an aversion to blonde men too! Haha interesting. Their delicate features just remind me of girls.

posted November 11, 2011 03:27 AM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
I have an aversion to blonde men too! Haha interesting. Their delicate features just remind me of girls.

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posted November 11, 2011 06:02 PM            

-facial hair... I have sensitive skin. It may look nice, but when I end up with a peeled chin the next day at work... it's not ok.
-bald guys. Sorry, no.
-no eyebrows. Again, no. Eyebrows mean strong personality to me (so does chin), so no eyebrows or very light is big turn-off
-effeminate voice. No. I said NO!
-no college degree. I have two and we're not splitting them equally.
-no body hair; same goes for monkey-types. Don't get me wrong, I love a hairy chest, but no hairy backs or shoulders. Hell, no.
-metrosexuals. A guy who does his nails and eyebrows and waxes his legs or chest has zero chances with me.
-long hair. Sorry, but no. May seem sexy on some, but I want a mature looking guy, not a forever-living-his-unfulfilled-teens sort of guy.

Some small turn-ons for me:
-freckles. Just love 'em, find them super-adorable.
-glasses
-suits or uniforms Sooooooo d@mn sexy!
-his smell after showering... that manly odour mixed with soap and cleanliness is just....................
-visible veins on forearms and nice handy hands
-nervousness around me. My ex on our first date was so nervous he either talked too much, waved his hands around or stick them in his pants (later confessed he was aroused). Made me want to jump and kiss him lol. Didn't though...
-playfulness in his eyes, like he is upto something no good, some sexual innuendo, but not on the first stages.
-confidence - need I explain?

Most of these are due to Mars in Aries in the 3rd conj Mercury, Virgo on 8H, Gemini on 5H.

posted November 11, 2011 06:24 PM            

Wide forearms (with veins.)
Big boned.
Broad shoulders
Wears a watch
I don't want/neeeed to feel like I'm in Winter Wonderland when you smile, but I really want a guy with some nice ass teeth. It's just more comforting hygenically speaking.

OH GOD I forgot height (how could I forget height!) Be as tall or 5 inches taller than me and I'm done for. Seriously, done for.

I like clean guys. Maybe it's just me... confident, and smart like Dr. Reid (if they look like Dr. Reid I'll ravage him so it's best to keep those ones away for the sake of their livelihood.)
I really value guys who have their **** together, with deep voices.

posted November 11, 2011 06:38 PM            

As tall, or taller than me (I'm 5ft 8in)
Medium to slender build
DARK HAIR, particularly the kind of shaggy, Jim Morrison kind of hair. Hair that frames the face, but not *too* long. Definitely not short hair.
SMART! Can't take a guy I can't talk to (Me: Venus in Gemini).
Not into sports. I detest sports, and I get bored to death with jocks.
Someone creative, or with a respect for the arts.

posted November 11, 2011 08:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
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-no college degree. I have two and we're not splitting them equally.

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In other words, you want someone who had either enough money to pay for the degree or was able to take out enough loans to pay for the degree. College degrees are over rated and handed out like candy to anyone able to pay the cost. the paper isn't worth anything more than the paper I use to wipe my butt...And I graduated. I've seen HS drop outs who are a. more intelligent and well spoken b. More successful then folks with Ivy leauge degrees (even masters degree holders). Too much importance is placed on over priced pieces of paper and I am sorry to see, time and again, folks in their 20s placing way too much weight on them as a signifier of how worthy a potential date is. All a degree means is you are now 25K in the hole and maybe are lucky enough to make 20K/year.

UNI = business first and foremost.

posted November 11, 2011 09:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
My perfect guy looks-wise would look similar to James Marsden.. Blue eyes - Nice cheek bones - Tall.
I have hazel eyes-brown hair - light olive skin naturally, though my hair is dyed.. But I'm more attracted to guys who look very different to me.

My Venus is in Taurus (11th) trine Mars in Capricorn (7th).

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Woah James Marsden is really good looking. But he looks kinda pretty boy type that doesn't really have much of a brain?? >.<

posted November 12, 2011 12:28 AM            

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Originally posted by carl:
In other words, you want someone who had either enough money to pay for the degree or was able to take out enough loans to pay for the degree. College degrees are over rated and handed out like candy to anyone able to pay the cost. the paper isn't worth anything more than the paper I use to wipe my butt...And I graduated. I've seen HS drop outs who are a. more intelligent and well spoken b. More successful then folks with Ivy leauge degrees (even masters degree holders). Too much importance is placed on over priced pieces of paper and I am sorry to see, time and again, folks in their 20s placing way too much weight on them as a signifier of how worthy a potential date is. All a degree means is you are now 25K in the hole and maybe are lucky enough to make 20K/year.

UNI = business first and foremost.

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I understand why you'd think that, but we come from different worlds. In my world, college access is free. Can also be paid for, but that is actually a minority right now. What I meant was I want a guy who values EDUCATION, to at least have a college degree. I met educated men without a college degree, my best friend is marrying one and I was strongly one of his supporters. But he is an exception, not the rule. Perhaps I should have formulated differently (well educated men), but I still think Uni has a certain effect on people, broadens their life views and their whole mentality and that is what I search for.

Now that you got me started, also want to add "a respectable job".

Perhaps I am a bit snobbish about this (Saturn in the 9th), but I want a man who values the things I value. Education is one of them. If he didn't think education was important enough (especially since it's free and therefore easily accessible - in my country) and settled for an easy-money job, he's not the guy for me. I care less about how much he makes, as long as he's good at what he does and he has a respectable job in the community.

Sorry, it's a status thing. I'm a surgeon. I can't date a janitor, or a cook, no matter how good they look or funny they are. Thats from Cap Asc sq Saturn. It's just how it is.

I was on dating sites for a few months and a dude (without a college degree) who liked me asked me why I specifically asked for college educated partners. He said pretty much the same things you did, but in his message to me I counted at least 12 grammar mistakes (in our native language which isn't English) and that was more than "a slip" because he was typing too fast. Also, the manner in which he expressed himself was clearly uneducated. I felt like replying to him and say "read your msg again and you'll see why" but I figured he wouldn't understand, so I told him what I said to you - I'm searching for someone who values the same things in life as I do and education is one of them.

out

posted November 13, 2011 11:10 PM            

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Originally posted by downtomars:
I forgot about Eros, Malena. Mine is in Pisces but I am not really attracted to Pisces traits maybe because it is quincunx Venus exact...

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It's funny because I don't really feel like OMG EROS IN SAGITTARIUS COMING THROUGH type of attractions. When I am really attracted to someone, it's because they've hit my Mars/Venus/7th House somehow, I think. None of which are Sagittarius.

posted November 14, 2011 01:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Hera:
Sorry, it's a status thing. I'm a surgeon. I can't date a janitor, or a cook, no matter how good they look or funny they are. Thats from Cap Asc sq Saturn. It's just how it is.

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hmmmm, im a cap asc conjunct Saturn (among other planets in cap) and i prefer well educated men too i have to say though what u said sounds pretty condescending! Besides, you dont need a college degree to be educated! so what if ur a surgeon (?) the status thing is lameeee!!! trust me i work with surgeons all the time some of them are pretty sh*tty people and i would never give them the time of day!

posted November 14, 2011 07:59 AM            

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Originally posted by Venus:
hmmmm, im a cap asc conjunct Saturn (among other planets in cap) and i prefer well educated men too i have to say though what u said sounds pretty condescending! Besides, you dont need a college degree to be educated! so what if ur a surgeon (?) the status thing is lameeee!!! trust me i work with surgeons all the time some of them are pretty sh*tty people and i would never give them the time of day!

everything comes second to a good heart and a good head and u dont need a degree to get either..

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Condescending? Really? Do you know me personally, do you know what kind of person I am??? I have NEVER looked down at people. I have always treated people with respect, no matter what they did for a living. I have friends who don't have a degree. At the hospital I eat at the same table with the nurses and the other staff, though they are inferior to me hierarchically. I have always refered to them as my "colleagues", whether it's the guy who carries the trash or the cleaning lady. As I previously said, my best friend is marrying someone without a college degree and I was one of his supporters. She is a surgeon like me and she had the same issues marrying a man without a degree. But in his case, you couldn't possibly tell he doesn't have one, he is one of the most refined people I have met. But he is an exception. Most people without higher education are just... I don't want to insert a word here that would make me even more condescending. It's just mentally we're at different levels. I have no problem and no bias whatsoever about them in dealing with them on a daily basis, but I don't want to marry one. Okay? For male surgeons, it is very simple, nobody is going to care is he's marrying a woman of modest education... but for a female surgeon, that is social suicide. My colleagues and the staff will talk about it behind my back and they will look down on ME. When we will gather around with our spouses, they will look down at ME for marrying "low" in their opinion. The man I choose reflects on me. And yes, this is about my daddy issues. My mother was ashamed to be seen with him, I was ashamed to be seen with him... And God help me if I will repeat that history over again.

posted November 14, 2011 08:37 AM            

"Most people without higher education are just... I don't want to insert a word here that would make me even more condescending."

really ? its that bad!

"For male surgeons, it is very simple, nobody is going to care is he's marrying a woman of modest education... but for a female surgeon, that is social suicide. My colleagues and the staff will talk about it behind my back and they will look down on ME."

i agree, its a shame that societies look down on women who marry men of less social statuses but not otherwise

"At the hospital I eat at the same table with the nurses and the other staff, though they are inferior to me hierarchically"

--->"inferior to me" !!

i just hope that this rule doesn’t come in the way of a possible great relationship or maybe even true love..

posted November 14, 2011 08:53 AM            

Last thing I'm going to say about this. Each person is free to do as he or she pleases.

posted November 14, 2011 09:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Venus:
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*sigh*... As I said, I have nothing against people without a degree. But first thing people (family, friends, coworkers) ask me when I start dating someone is "What does he do for a living?" and "What studies does he have?"........ That is the world I live in, and obviously it has shaped, to a degree, the way I perceive these things. I don't want to feel embarrassed when answering those questions about my man. Because they will certainly be asked. That is all.

Now I'm really outta here. Done explaining myself.