posted November 10, 2011 12:23 AM            

I never realized how sensitive cancers are. my best friend is a sun in cancer with other placements in cancer she's a cool chick we get along great but it's like after the fact, I realize I have to walk on egg shells and really be aware of what I say/behave so I won't hurt her feelings. I was at her house just now and I left because she's pisse off at me. she was telling me about her breakup with her bf and she said somethingthat made me giggle in a cute way, well I thought it was cute but obviously it wasn't cute because she is now mad at me and totally shut up and told me to leave. she was just goin on about how her former bf used to have these quirks and i giggled not at her but I just thought it was cute I was trying to make the situation light and it didn't work.

now, I haven't spoken/hung out with my bf in awhile, so he called to check up on me, I asked how his mom was and asked why she was in Russia, I thought she was coming back but he said "no. she's staying there." I giggled and said "what? why?" he said "what's funny?" ok let me add I wasn't laughing AT him... it was like a giggle of surprise you know when you can't believe something and you have a light laugh? that's what I did.. and he took it the wrong way got super pissy and hung up on me. I now only feel bad because I put it together - his neediness, always needing reassurance I won't leave him because his mother sure did and didnt care about staying cause she doesn't like it here in Canada - he got really upset and said "that's not funny why is that funny that my mom left and won't return?" and hung up on me. I have no idea wtf to do about both situations I wasn't trying to be rude, I now realize how it may have hurt feelings but that wasn't my intention.. please don't say I was being mean I really was not and I do care about both of these people a lot I don't know how to deal with people with a lot of cancer placements.

posted November 10, 2011 12:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
they also get ****** when you space out when they are talking to you.

ha, my ex had lotsa cancer in his chart.

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as in you having things on your mind? them thinking it's them and that you don't like them? I get that too... they assume the worst as if you're planning to leave them or reject them in some kind of way.

posted November 10, 2011 10:16 AM            

Sensitive people take things too seriously and every imagined hurt is acted out. (I am just as sensitive as a Cancerian, the sign is extremely strong in my chart). They need to develop a sense of humor and laugh more or yes life will be like hell to them. How could their soul be polished when they get defensive when life trues to polish the wound.

posted November 10, 2011 11:06 AM            

Some Cancers are really sensitive. For instance, I know a Cancerian who is born on the same day as I am, but she's older than me, and she is SO sensitive. You can't even suggest new ideas to her because you're upsurping her authority. Everybody walked on eggshells because they didn't know what would set her off and have her after you.

posted November 10, 2011 11:09 AM            

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Originally posted by skegeegirl:
Your friend must have a lot of Cancer on their chart. I know I wouldn't have been hurt like that, but then again I have Leo on my chart, so naturally I would think that there's no way you're actually laughing at me.

Some Cancers are really sensitive. For instance, I know a Cancerian who is born on the same day as I am, but she's older than me, and she is SO sensitive. You can't even suggest new ideas to her because you're upsurping her authority. Everybody walked on eggshells because they didn't know what would set her off and have her after you.

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Seems very exhausting.. but cancers teach me a lot, to be more aware. To be more sensitive to people and their feelings. It's not easy but I'm defiantly learning especially if I want to maintain the relationshi0.

posted November 10, 2011 01:50 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
or something? Im not used to being or having to watch what i say.. that's just how I grew up with my Pisces Sis being the exception.

I never realized how sensitive cancers are. my best friend is a sun in cancer with other placements in cancer she's a cool chick we get along great but it's like after the fact, I realize I have to walk on egg shells and really be aware of what I say/behave so I won't hurt her feelings. I was at her house just now and I left because she's pisse off at me. she was telling me about her breakup with her bf and she said somethingthat made me giggle in a cute way, well I thought it was cute but obviously it wasn't cute because she is now mad at me and totally shut up and told me to leave. she was just goin on about how her former bf used to have these quirks and i giggled not at her but I just thought it was cute I was trying to make the situation light and it didn't work.

now, I haven't spoken/hung out with my bf in awhile, so he called to check up on me, I asked how his mom was and asked why she was in Russia, I thought she was coming back but he said "no. she's staying there." I giggled and said "what? why?" he said "what's funny?" ok let me add I wasn't laughing AT him... it was like a giggle of surprise you know when you can't believe something and you have a light laugh? that's what I did.. and he took it the wrong way got super pissy and hung up on me. I now only feel bad because I put it together - his neediness, always needing reassurance I won't leave him because his mother sure did and didnt care about staying cause she doesn't like it here in Canada - he got really upset and said "that's not funny why is that funny that my mom left and won't return?" and hung up on me. I have no idea wtf to do about both situations I wasn't trying to be rude, I now realize how it may have hurt feelings but that wasn't my intention.. please don't say I was being mean I really was not and I do care about both of these people a lot I don't know how to deal with people with a lot of cancer placements.

this is just weird for me. I've never been around this, a lot. my Pisces sister is like this but to this level. did I really do something wrong? I know they both will ignore me now but how can I explain my reaction? I wasn't making fun of them at all. it feels like hell on earth now, I care about both of them so I'm really confuse and would like some advice. Should I just never say anything now or what?

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Actually that's not true. My dad is a Cancer and has a pretty good sense of humor actually when he's not in that moody mode that Cancers sometimes get into.

posted November 10, 2011 05:14 PM            

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Originally posted by BelligerentPygmy:
Actually that's not true. My dad is a Cancer and has a pretty good sense of humor actually when he's not in that moody mode that Cancers sometimes get into.

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I agree with you. My mom is an uber Cancer and unless she is having a "pity party" she has an awesome (if not odd) sense of humor. Even if she is in the middle of one of her moods, 99 times out of 100 I am able to get her to see the brighter side and bring her to laugh until she is ready to tinkle. My father has a very heavy Cancer influence as well (although a Cap sun) and has an awesome sense of humor.

Then again, I am sure having to raise two quirky Archer children made them grow some pretty tough skin. Growing, especially with my mom, there were a few "uh oh" moments where we knew we said something to hurt her feelings and the waterworks were on the way.

I remember once when my brother and I were kids my mom was crying about finances. My brother still being really young and taking things literally, told my mom 'Don't worry mommy, I hear that tears are like diamonds. Since you cry so much maybe you can trade them in for money?"