posted December 03, 2011 02:04 PM            

For example, Mars cap/Rising and sometimes even moon in cap they do not like to accept help others are willing to give them? My boyfriend is having financial issues and how he is dealing with his troubles at work is by hiding away from the world, he's showing signs of depression, and I've offered to give him money how ever much he needs and I don't expect him to owe me or anything and for some reason even though he clearly needs the money, refuses to accept it and is now even more depressed and continues to hide. I'm all for solidarity and recouping but this is just frightening. Pride?

posted December 03, 2011 02:41 PM              

I'm a Cap, no Taurus unless you count Chiron in the 8th, which may have something to do with sharing resources.

posted December 03, 2011 02:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
Personally, I don't want to owe anyone anything. When I accept someone's help, it means I owe them a favor.

I'm a Cap, no Taurus unless you count Chiron in the 8th, which may have something to do with sharing resources.

Edit: Earth signs are driven by material reality, not emotions.

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posted December 03, 2011 03:06 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:

[QUOTE]I'm the same way about not wanting to owe people anything. I've got Virgo Moon, Venus in Taurus and Saturn rules my 2nd house.

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posted December 03, 2011 06:22 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
I fly solo and solve my own problems

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What if your lover just wants to make ya feel better or should they just comfort you and leave you to your own devices?

posted December 03, 2011 08:42 PM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
What if your lover just wants to make ya feel better or should they just comfort you and leave you to your own devices?

I dont know i have never lived with men long enough, I grew up around women... so...ya.

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Always appreciate help from a lover. Never turn away comfort from a lover. The idea is to be accomodating and provide what your lover needs to de-stress/de-tox.

There is a fine line between providing comfort and quietly retreating. Everybody is different, so its up to you to know exactly what your lover's threshold is. Independence in of itself can be therapeutic at times.

When my wife is stressed, I clear the media room and lead her there and put on one of her favourite classic movies. I pour her a glass of wine, and then give her a small neck and back massage. Then I retreat to go prepare dinner for her, and make sure its something she'll like. I'll bring the dinner and a large bottle of soda and ice down to her and let her dine by herself with her movie. Half an hour later, I'll return with a desert and a cocktail and clear out dinner. By the time the movie is over, she would be so much more relaxed, and I would come downstairs to clear everything.

Making your lover comfortable is the key to getting him/her to relax and becoming happier. Sometimes, he/she wants to talk, then you stay and talk to his/her heart's content. If there needs to be crying, then cry along and console him/her.

Loving him/her is being there for him/her, and yet being able to make yourself disappear when needed.

If what he/she wants is sex, then be prepared for that too.

Its not about men vs. women. We are all humans. Most of us are loving emotional beings.

posted December 04, 2011 02:40 AM              

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Originally posted by Xiiro:
The same is similar with the Taurus folks I know. They however, never admit they need help, but strategically place people who are proactive helpers, in situations where they will insist on helping. That way, if the Taurus is asked to help in return they can say, "I never asked for your help, you just ran in and started doing everything". lol

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posted December 04, 2011 02:48 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
When my wife is stressed, I clear the media room and lead her there and put on one of her favourite classic movies. I pour her a glass of wine, and then give her a small neck and back massage. Then I retreat to go prepare dinner for her, and make sure its something she'll like. I'll bring the dinner and a large bottle of soda and ice down to her and let her dine by herself with her movie. Half an hour later, I'll return with a desert and a cocktail and clear out dinner. By the time the movie is over, she would be so much more relaxed, and I would come downstairs to clear everything.

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posted December 04, 2011 02:53 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Because we can do it.

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posted December 04, 2011 08:26 AM            

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Originally posted by lindisfarne:
For example, Mars cap/Rising and sometimes even moon in cap they do not like to accept help others are willing to give them? My boyfriend is having financial issues and how he is dealing with his troubles at work is by hiding away from the world, he's showing signs of depression, and I've offered to give him money how ever much he needs and I don't expect him to owe me or anything and for some reason even though he clearly needs the money, refuses to accept it and is now even more depressed and continues to hide. I'm all for solidarity and recouping but this is just frightening. Pride?

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oh lord, does that sound familiar...

my guy, the huge Virgo Stellium with Cap AC, sounds pretty much like yours actually.

i know he doesn't mean it this way, but it does make me feel pretty useless, but i try not to go there and ignore it as much as i can...

posted December 05, 2011 07:57 AM            

I am sorry to differ. Capricorn not accepting offers is bit rear isn't it?

Their Motto is " I USE"