posted January 23, 2012 09:41 PM            

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Originally posted by starmoon:
i must do ALL the initiating in terms of affection (hugs, kisses, holding hands, etc).

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"i know he doesn't use words of affection often (this was discussed by us before dating)"
--This is somewhat common. They say it a few times so you should keep it stuck in your pretty lil head until they say/act otherwise.

posted January 23, 2012 09:48 PM            

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Originally posted by TrueTaurus:
I think you should look for his Mars placement...This can't be true for all venus in aqua men. I dated a guy with venus in aqua with mars in scorpio, although he never complimented me, he for sure knew what he wanted in the bedroom and took charge. I like my men to be more inititiave and dominating. It's a turn on. The dude is a Pisces/Cancer

I'm a Taurus/Scorpio/Cancer with Venus in gemini and Mars in Aqua.

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he's mars in pisces ... maybe that is the problem ... no passion for what they want

posted January 23, 2012 10:35 PM            

Venus in Aquarius is not detached for me! In my case, its a bunch of hooey!! For me, 12th House being secretive is just more BS!

My mouth and my actions got me married extremely quickly. A man cannot win the heart of a woman by shutting up and not showing affection. So, I'll say that something is brewing in your case.

posted January 27, 2012 03:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Lonake:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by starmoon:
[b]i must do ALL the initiating in terms of affection (hugs, kisses, holding hands, etc).

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Could he be gay ?
-r [/B][/QUOTE]

posted January 27, 2012 04:00 AM            

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posted January 27, 2012 11:52 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
what other placements does he have? like sun,ascendant and moon? i am an aquarius sun and ascendant and taurus moon with an aqua venus,and several planets in the eleventh,and as a guy with alot of aquarius energy i have no trouble expressing emotion and affection once a relationship has established,but i can be nervous at first because fear of rejection( been rejected alot unfortunately) but my opinion is that us aqua guys arent cold like alot of women try to make us out its just we are misunderstood and face rejection because of it and end up putting walls up,i want very badly to have a great relationship with a woman,but women always perceive me as weird or creepy and dont understand my sense of humor or views on things so i distance myself alot and then i am perceived as shy,cold,or stuck up,it is tough being an aquarius guy sometimes....

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posted January 27, 2012 01:28 PM            

i do not have any problems communicating my feelings or giving verbal affection.... or snuggling and cuddling in private.... but for me, it's not about putting myself or my relationship on display. maybe the 12th house hidden thing has something to do with it?

posted January 27, 2012 01:57 PM            

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he has an aqua sun/leo moon/virgo asc. - his moon and sun are 100% opposite and i have noticed he is far more leo moon than aqua sun. he is very old-fashioned and romantic and gives small gifts and tokens, but just no affection unless i try for it. i am starting to perceive him as a 'cold fish' and have started to distance myself somewhat. it's almost as though he won't allow us to get emotionally close, or at least won't allow himself. your insight is helpful aquaguy, thanks

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In my experience and in my venus in Aqua, if you distance yourself from Aquarian energy the person will either keep this distance or further it -not out of spite or anything like that- but because Aquarius is one of the few signs that really knows the higher loving shown in loving/caring about/trusting someone so much you give them their space. He will probably perceive you as needing your space and will give it to you to 'show' he cares. I would look at his moon opp sun (internal struggle, emotions at odds?) and his virgo rising as well. Virgos have much affection to give but can sometimes be anal about the hows and whens to give it. I've known several virgo risings, one my close friend with Aqua sun -she is somewhat detached and surveying but does show affection for suitors, etc. but not by cuddling. The other one I know is a virgo moon and libra sun and she just cannot let go to even really begin a relationship much -although she is caring and giving in the social relationships that she allows (if flakey lol). She mostly does caretaking things and gives gifts.

You say that he is giving tokens and gifts and so maybe it is not fair for you to say that he does not give affection?! As the phrase goes 'tokens OF HIS AFFECTON'! Leo is very demonstrative and Virgo is an earth sign and they often show love/care by providing and gifting things to those that they love. I can understand how this can seem insufficient if you need more 'cuddle time' (my mom is virgo and sometimes she would just get me things or take care of certain things when really I needed one-to-one affection time -and yes, again, I am a venus in Aqua! lol), however, I've learned that the sooner one is able to recognize and truly APPRECIATE and acknowledge how the other person gives affection, the sooner they feel SAFE enough to try NEW ways of giving affection, i.e. YOURS!

posted January 27, 2012 04:23 PM            

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I agree that it is a red flag... he seems to be just not feeling it and that would scare me...

posted January 28, 2012 06:23 PM            

My Dad's an Aqua Venus-Sun, with Leo Moon. He married a VERY proud Leo woman and, 37 years of marriage later, STILL knows - and delights! - in romancing her at EVERY turn.

So, this seems odd to me for a lunar Leo man. They've been among the most romantic men I've known, honestly. And showy, goodness. There must be something REALLY afflicting that Moon. Or Venus.

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