posted July 27, 2013 06:12 AM              

Sometimes I behave more balanced, other times I'm dominant or submissive.

I usually end up making the decisions and the tough choices, I'm usually in control of the out come in the relationship..

I think people I date look at me for leadership or to guide them.. I don't really like that, it's not really an attractive quality. I'll usually take advantage of them.

posted July 27, 2013 06:17 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I tend to automatically screw up a relationship that is getting too emotionally intense

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posted July 27, 2013 06:21 AM              

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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
I think how you act in a relationship is more the Moon! (Though in your case hannaramaa the Moon's dispositor is Venus in Aries)

Any who, my Venus is in Mean Scorpio, but square Aquarius Moon, so I burn hot and cold, going from wanting to dig deep to keeping things breezy and light. In short, I will eat you up, and that's how I like it!

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I'm not very familiar with dispositors, how does it correlate with my Venus in Aries?

Venus in Scorpio and Moon in Aquarius... LOL and Hannie wasn't your type?!?

posted July 27, 2013 06:26 AM            

And I said that because Hades Mooners crave intensity but at the same time they're scared of it.

Sabotaging relationships that make them feel emotionally intense is quite common.

posted July 27, 2013 06:30 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I'm not very familiar with dispositors, how does it correlate with my Venus in Aries?

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posted July 27, 2013 06:47 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
No, Moon in hard aspect to Pluto is not like a Scorpio Moon..

And I said that because Hades Mooners crave intensity but at the same time they're scared of it.

Sabotaging relationships that make them feel emotionally intense is quite common.

Although, it can also be supported by the fact that your placements don't mesh well with intensity, that I agree with.

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Tell me about it.Moon Square Pluto

posted July 27, 2013 07:07 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I have Venus in the 11th house in Aries, and 7H Uranus. I tend to automatically screw up a relationship that is getting too emotionally intense, preferring to keep it at a little heavier than friendship level, but not completely committing to someone (in my mind, and although that's not to say I have others on my roster - when I like someone, I'm usually just focused on them only.)

What about you and your Venus? What's it doing and doing to you?!

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I'm too hot for them to handle

LOL

seriously though this is first stage:

I'll super duper serious in my approach towards him. Especially in the beginning. I will try to x-ray the guy's mind and put it under the microscope. Does he like me? does he like me more than I like him?what does he think of me?Does he find me too this too that?I'm going to put him into major examinations,you know the ones where you get to know if you are going to graduate or not.

N-E-U-R-O-T-I-C. Yeah that's me.

stage 2: If he's passed the examinations,then am more laid back. I tend to become really childish and free in my interactions with him.

So thinking about the content of your post, I tend to jeopardize the whole thing during stage 1 itself

Although it rarely happens. The guys who are drawn to me are neurotics too so..

venus in leo.

posted July 27, 2013 07:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
That sounds like Moon / Pluto, to me.

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you know what Doux?

posted July 27, 2013 07:25 AM            

If there are past traumas that are still heavily influential on your psyche, the tendency will be to run away.
If you've learned to deal with your own intensity and aren't too scared of strong feelings, then you'd enjoy the thrill.

posted July 27, 2013 07:40 AM            

venus in gemini in 8th (moon's dispositer)
opposite saturn, uranus, and neptune as far as major aspects go.

i am very chatty. i love talking. my boyfriend and i are in contact all day long, taking breaks while we are at work. he has venus in gemini too (one degree from mine) but in the 7th.

i think i can see the 7th to 8th difference with us because i can be very jealous. when he talks about his brother i get jealous. the way i've learned to handle it (and tell me if you have any other suggestions) is to be really in touch with the jealous 8th house that comes out (could be my other placements too) i try to keep that stuff close to the surface and then we just joke about it. i can be kind of manipulative too in relationships, but i'm working on it. i think boyfriends tend to get more "obsessed" with me after we start seriously dating and they get the full effect or whatever it is. it takes a long time for exes to get over me, if at all. not to be weird.

posted July 27, 2013 08:08 AM            

I'm actually not big on intensity. I prefer to keep a certain level of distance and for it to be light and fun (Mars in Aquarius in the 5th) rather than heavy and intense. Most of the deeper feelings, I prefer to have go tacitly acknowledged but not discussed ad nauseum, haha...it makes me SO uncomfortable to even be complimented, let alone have a guy express his feelings for me. yiiiikkesss hahahaha (this might be a "guy" thing rather than an astrological thing, though, I suppose.)

posted July 27, 2013 08:10 AM            

I give too much and am too forgiving. When I'm attached to someone, it's so hard for me to back away even if I'm not getting what I need. I keep hoping it's going to turn out okay. Too idealistic, I know, and of course I end up being disappointed. But once I've had enough, I mean it and I can be quite harsh in cutting people off without saying anything.

Been through a lot of reasons why something can't happen. I get feelings for someone easily, so I'm so happy for my Virgo making me take things more slowly and not confess right away... and that's how I find out they're already in a relationship, gay or there's another reason it's not going to happen. Good thing I didn't confess.

As much as I love the "relationship growing from a friendship" thing, I do want to act like a couple. No secret stuff. So far, I've never felt tempted to cheat - I only had eyes for my guy (cheesy, huh?). Even if there was interest in me, I don't think I'll notice anyway. The 12th house makes things so blurry. What I do really want from him is being open to work things out when it gets rough. I'm open about my feelings... I want to know he's okay with me opening up and sometimes extreme emotions. People shrugging, stepping over me and not seeing them ever again has happened to me just a little too often. Being able to emotionally support each other is a very big deal for me.

posted July 27, 2013 08:23 AM            

It makes me think I am a home interior designer for sure and tech lover lol.

But on to love topics....

I think it makes it so idk what it is like to be single (doesn't make my moon opp Uranus too happy xD). What sucks is that I feel like whoever I date only has half of what I'm looking for (square mars?). And everyone I have dated is always in a rush to live together. I foolishly go for it. I don't know how to say no to my SO. Kinda sucks.

posted July 27, 2013 12:06 PM              

I usually stay friends with ex's, only after feelings have faded of course. I have jealousy issues and can be pretty possessive. I try to control it but i cant. My blood boils. I like cuddling, kissing, and running my hands on my partners skin. I am very sensual. Touch is important to me.

Venus, moon, and mercury in the 11th house.

Moon conjunct venus
Venus opposite uranus
Venus sextile Asc
Venus inconjunct pluto
Venus inconjunct neptune

posted July 27, 2013 05:46 PM              

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Originally posted by nove731:
My Venus is in Pisces in the 6th. I've also got Pisces on the 7th house cusp. I tend to be sort of flakey and indecisive to start off with. I don't think this is really helped either, by the square that Venus makes to my Moon in Sag in the 3rd.

I'm actually not big on intensity. I prefer to keep a certain level of distance and for it to be light and fun (Mars in Aquarius in the 5th) rather than heavy and intense. Most of the deeper feelings, I prefer to have go tacitly acknowledged but not discussed ad nauseum, haha...it makes me SO uncomfortable to even be complimented, let alone have a guy express his feelings for me. yiiiikkesss hahahaha (this might be a "guy" thing rather than an astrological thing, though, I suppose.)

In terms of how I show affection in a relationship, I'm not very physical or verbal in my affections, and instead I like to do little practical things for the guy to let him know that I care, but at the same time, I definitely expect some sort of return on that. I'm no errand/house slave. If he begins to take that for granted and/or get bossy, In typical fishy fashion, I disappear REALLY quickly. Hah!

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posted July 27, 2013 06:53 PM            

It's not Venus I have to worry about in relationships, it's Mars and Pluto.

Venus has a nice seat on the crown of Herakle's (*Ras Algethi*), on my South Node, with her roommate Uranus at her side, and liberator Saturn in perfect semisxt from Scorpio's fortress in my 3rd.

But, if I've learned anything from all my experiences so far, it's that I need to let Venus take the lead if I really want my relationships to last.

Venus is in opposition with Vesta (*Rigel*) on my N.Node, and semisq Mars-Pluto in Scorpio.

Venus semisquare Mars needs the same mitigation, takes the same level of effort to negotiate as any full square. But, once you come to a compromise on those two energies and what they require to not express themselves negatively, for yourself, it can no longer hinder you to that same extent ever again, you know what to look out for, and you know you can control it/yourself from expressing that negative trait.

All my Venus requires is a certain level of freedom, not so much to wander as to expel frustrations and center or focus on what I find enjoyable, beautiful, and inspirational. I can't breath in a relationship where expression is limited, I can't sit and wait by a phone for a fella to call, and I am (errrr have been, rather... since I'm wed now), too proud and very convinced that my mother's advice not to call a man first -ever- is correct, to bother playing their games. I like to chase, and be chased, despise monotony to no end, and don't need to have anyone to be content and refuse to let a (would be) partner or anyone else try to convince me otherwise. All this is contrary to what Mars (or Mars-Pluto, Mars ruling 8th), urges me to do. ^^; It's a life lesson, coming to terms with what I always thought I "wanted" and learning how much more important what I "neeeeed" really is, how different those things are, and how that leads to depression and unhappiness.

So if Venus is right, or Venus and my Moon and Uranus and Saturn and Jupiter in this case...... lol then, Mars and Pluto really needed to be put in their place. Mars can go full throttle and charge passionately into the realm of lower chakras, Pluto can get carried away with my object of affection, or obsession, (or both) --- but ONLY after I have (Sat)-secured, what makes Venus comfortable (4th house), which is a bit of eccentricity, electricity, independence, spice, and of course - space, (Jupiter/Uranus) cause she's a big girl (bullmoon), ya know. lol =)

that's how I have come to interpret my chart - and the way Venus, and her sidekicks, influence my relations. ^^;