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Topic: Capricorn Man-Pisces Woman
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Steph314
Newflake Posts: 15
From: CT, YSA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted October 26, 2013 08:14 AM
  
We are both in our 50's. Together 5 months. He is typical Cap and I am definitely "in" his life. Family loves me, he lives about 45 mins. was but we are together at least 4 times a week. He does the calling and texting faithfully every day. He will make little comments using the word love, but no full declaration yet. I have not said it to him, but via comments too. Whenever he talks about future stuff it is always "we will have to do this or we will have to go there." Sounds great, right? So here is a little Pisces insecurity coming through; he has been under extreme stress for the past month, having to evict his son and girlfriend as he took them in and they destroyed his condo. It certainly hurts him about his son but his mind is made up. I have stood by him, he will thank me, but lately he snaps at me, challenges everything I say, and it is kind of wearing me down. Of course I will not leave him, but is this a normal pattern when their orderly lives have been destroyed? I hope my loyalty is at least getting me a couple of gold stars! I just keep thinking of the old phrase "you always hurt the one you love."
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Faith
Moderator Posts: 6007
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 26, 2013 08:44 AM
Hello, welcome to Linda-Land!I'm a Capricorn sun. I also get really irritable under stress. And my longtime best friend is a Pisces. She and I don't live in the same state, we communicate mostly by phone. Here's the thing with her: she is usually right. She wants to help people by giving her dead-on accurate insights and she gets hurt when that backfires. If you are anything like my friend (her birthday is 3-16) you have valuable things to say...unfortunately, Cap pride can't always deal with someone else knowing more than them. In order to feel in control of our (sometimes chaotic) situations we might just shut down, block out everyone else, no matter how sensible they are, and call on our own resources. It can really be difficult for the people we affect when we do this. Capricorn moods can get very black, it just comes with the territory of knowing us, unfortunately. When I read "he challenges everything I say," I'm thinking of you making perfectly reasonable insights and suggestions, but him feeling unable to comply, maybe even (given the circumstances) feeling insecure himself about what he has to offer you. Just as an outsider, I would guess there's going to be shared discomfort until he's back on his feet again. You're right about the stress, it's a passing storm, he's working to get his stability back. Maybe lay low until he stops growling, tell him you're waiting for his bad moods to ease up, then resume your normal relationship? Best wishes IP: Logged |
Steph314
Newflake Posts: 15
From: CT, YSA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted October 27, 2013 05:49 PM
Thank you so much Faith! It makes sense what you wrote. By the way, I am March 14th and he is Jan 10. I was with him yesterday and last night and he lost it a little, but always apologizes, then we kind if review later on and laugh about it.
And the other part is due to a "medical condition" that comes on with stress, we still have not been intimate. I know they take their time and I have slept in his bed plenty of times and a couple of weeks ago he was upset because of a breakout and actually said he wanted to make love that day. I actually tell him that I am surprised he hasn't had a breakout every week since this mess started. He is not lying because I actually handed him the script with his pills that he takes when it occurs.
3 weeks after meeting, I saw him back online and questioned. We met for dinner and he said that he just wasn't falling in love. 3 weeks? Do I kept it together and said ok. Then he said, why does anything have to change. Finally the last week of July, we were both at each other pretty bad and he texted me and said he felt we just couldn't be friends. I had been telling him I was looking for long term not friends. So that was it.'a week later I get a text from him saying that it was a shame to throw a friendship away, could we talk. And we have literally been inseparable since. So very confusing. And following the Cap traits, I don't want to be the first to say I love you, although hints have been thrown around, I just don't want to push too much while his life is in an uproar. We are a good team, his thing is actions speak louder than words, so I am in doing the right thing. And believe me I don't back down to him like a puppy, trust me on that!
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