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Topic: The story that ended before it began
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fiestyleo7 Newflake Posts: 4 From: Brooklyn New York Registered: Jun 2014
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posted June 05, 2014 10:29 PM
Maintaining relationships is so hard. Honestly I wonder if being in one is easier or not being in one is easier... but both ends may suck depending on how u feel time and time again. I have had my share of relationships- more like dating relationships and two serious relationships, all of which ended my two serious ones lasted for a year and half and four years respectively. But regardless of giving it my all the relationships just came to a point where I had no choice but to end them. I recently met this guy on a dating website. Funny thing was my best friend created that profile for me, she thought it was time for me to start dating people since I had tried meeting people for almost a year and a half since my four year relationship ended. This guy was a scorpio. Was really nice and flirty in the beginning and we spoke for about a month and then he started getting distant. I had asked him upfront if he was not interested anymore but he denied it and said he had just been occupied with school n work and just few days ago he said he was bored and it wasn't my fault and that I should always stay the same. He apologized and I let him go easy, cause I just didn't have the heart to tell him at that time that i started to really like him. Before that I had mentioned to him that I was interested to get to know him and infact I even helped him with school work and stuff but it broke my heart a lil when he decided to part ways. It's silly that someone can cause so much pain even when they didn't really mean much. And to be honest he was the first person who called me boring, most people who meet me always say the opposite. I still don't know if it was me who was boring or he was expecting too much from me without a commitment... ------------------ fiestyleo7 IP: Logged |
BellaFenice Knowflake Posts: 458 From: Phoenix, AZ, USA Registered: Sep 2013
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posted June 05, 2014 11:18 PM
quote: Originally posted by fiestyleo7: Maintaining relationships is so hard. Honestly I wonder if being in one is easier or not being in one is easier... but both ends may suck depending on how u feel time and time again. I have had my share of relationships- more like dating relationships and two serious relationships, all of which ended my two serious ones lasted for a year and half and four years respectively. But regardless of giving it my all the relationships just came to a point where I had no choice but to end them. I recently met this guy on a dating website. Funny thing was my best friend created that profile for me, she thought it was time for me to start dating people since I had tried meeting people for almost a year and a half since my four year relationship ended. This guy was a scorpio. Was really nice and flirty in the beginning and we spoke for about a month and then he started getting distant. I had asked him upfront if he was not interested anymore but he denied it and said he had just been occupied with school n work and just few days ago he said he was bored and it wasn't my fault and that I should always stay the same. He apologized and I let him go easy, cause I just didn't have the heart to tell him at that time that i started to really like him. Before that I had mentioned to him that I was interested to get to know him and infact I even helped him with school work and stuff but it broke my heart a lil when he decided to part ways. It's silly that someone can cause so much pain even when they didn't really mean much. And to be honest he was the first person who called me boring, most people who meet me always say the opposite. I still don't know if it was me who was boring or he was expecting too much from me without a commitment...
Welcome! Just a fair warning, this post might get moved to another forum. Online dating is really tough, I feel for you. The way I like to view rejection of any sort, although it feels painful, is simply a sign that there is someone out there much more deserving of you. After all, you are a Leo, you guys only want the best, right? Feel free to share your natal aspects too, this can help to understand your dating patterns.
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Gabby Moderator Posts: 3785 From: Registered: Sep 2012
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posted June 05, 2014 11:20 PM
Welcome Fiestyleo!!! To me it kind of sounds like he's a guy that's looking for fast, easy and somewhat drama filled rationship so that he can guide, scold and feel important in...so anyone just looking for something real and not dramatic, earth shattering for good or bad from the moment they meet them...is going to feel boring to them. I bet in 6months you will find out the one he stayed with has an addiction of some sort, they get into fights, someone cheats and nearly kill each other only to make up and think they are sooooo in love and nothing can break them up. Puke, puke, puke....be glad he thought you were boring! It probably just means your sane! His ending it saved you from wasting any more time on him! Maybe you should send him a 'Thank You' note?IP: Logged |
fiestyleo7 Newflake Posts: 4 From: Brooklyn New York Registered: Jun 2014
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posted June 06, 2014 12:48 AM
quote: Originally posted by Gabby: Welcome Fiestyleo!!! To me it kind of sounds like he's a guy that's looking for fast, easy and somewhat drama filled rationship so that he can guide, scold and feel important in...so anyone just looking for something real and not dramatic, earth shattering for good or bad from the moment they meet them...is going to feel boring to them. I bet in 6months you will find out the one he stayed with has an addiction of some sort, they get into fights, someone cheats and nearly kill each other only to make up and think they are sooooo in love and nothing can break them up. Puke, puke, puke....be glad he thought you were boring! It probably just means your sane! His ending it saved you from wasting any more time on him! Maybe you should send him a 'Thank You' note?
gABBY: you just said all the right things... I absolutely agree with you. I didn't think about this until I read what you had to say about this. He was the sorts who would not want to make much efforts but he wanted me to go above n beyond for him , which to me was ridiculous. ------------------ fiestyleo7 IP: Logged |
NeptunianSag Knowflake Posts: 897 From: Your imagination Registered: Aug 2013
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posted June 06, 2014 01:09 AM
I have dated a few scorpios, most of them used me as a test subject and didn't really give a damn by how I felt, obviously not all scorpios are like this, I've just not had good luck with them. I've also noticed scorpios with unusually high expectations, so it is nothing personal to you, he isn't worth you at all. IP: Logged |
fiestyleo7 Newflake Posts: 4 From: Brooklyn New York Registered: Jun 2014
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posted June 06, 2014 01:16 AM
quote: Originally posted by NeptunianSag: I have dated a few scorpios, most of them used me as a test subject and didn't really give a damn by how I felt, obviously not all scorpios are like this, I've just not had good luck with them. I've also noticed scorpios with unusually high expectations, so it is nothing personal to you, he isn't worth you at all.
Thank you for the kind words. For some reason I have a hard time finding exactly what i want. Im not all about expectations as opposed to most leks I'm mostly a giver. Even in my last relationship with a cancer male.. it last 4 years.. everyone believed we wld get married n then i found out he was cheating n i broke it off.. n just a month after the break up we found out he had cancer so i went right back, hoping this time things would be different but things don't really change cuz people generally don't change. my experience with relationships has not been all that great.. but I'm a realist and a lil bit of an optimistic realist I'm sure the world has one man that will give me what i need n ill be able to do the same for him ------------------ fiestyleo7 IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 41277 From: Saturn next to Charmainec Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 06, 2014 12:52 PM
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