posted November 10, 2014 02:38 PM            

Its me again. I've been absent for a while. For the past 8 months or so, I've just been chasing down internal demons and figuring out their origins in order to make myself a happier and better Cancer-Leo.

The latest shortcoming I have found to dominate my personality is my possessiveness.

I have scared the best Virgo I will ever know away with my iron clad Cancerian hold in 2013.

Now in 2014 I have been fortunate to find the company of a wonderful idealistic Leo who's sun conjuncts my own and an Aquarius who acts as silent spectator for the two of us. We've been hanging out as friends and business associates for a couple of months...and last night, I felt that I liked both of them. As friends. Good right?

Not really. You know what comes after that for me? Possessiveness. Clingy behavior. And a somewhat arrogant attitude that serves me well with my Leo-Cancer cusp buddy but not so much with my Aquarian pal.

I want to nip this in the bud MONTHS before I screw this up for myself.

How have you all handled your undesirable character traits? I guess mainly possessiveness.

posted November 10, 2014 03:46 PM            

I am actually very curious about this whole "possessive" thing.

I have a Stellium in 8th- no planets in 2nd. And my Venus conjunct Saturn. No planets in Taurus- Except Asc and Chiron.

Do you have Pluto/Mars aspects to your Venus?What does your 2nd house look like?

I just want to know what the indicators of "possessiveness" are.

Anyway,back to the issue at hand.

I don't believe there is anything characteristically "wrong" with being a little possessive of your friends. It shows that you treasure them and think of them as valued by you.

The problem however can stem when they start to suffocate.Or feel that you are "stunting" their growth.

I don't think there is a way to "nip" it except maybe to pull your attention away to something else-thereby easing the possessive grip.

Expand your social circle,find a hobby and diversify your life as much as possible.

posted November 10, 2014 05:03 PM            

I (Sag)dated a Leo who had his Mars in Libra conjunct Pluto in Libra.

You'd think it would "ease" up with Libra being the supposedly "balanced",intellectual sign and all? Nope!!

He was the type of guy that wanted me "here". And he did it in such a coy, indirect fashion,that I didn't know just how possessive he really was.Perhaps that was the Libra role? Hmmmm...

But I seemed to love it-coz it kept my T-square Moon-Mercury-Mars in cardinal very busy.The passion between us was intense.

So in your chart Mars is already in "that's mine" Taurus.And the Pluto in Scorpio opposition energy tends to make it swing to extreme emotional compulsions/behaviour.

Love that there is a square to Mercury to keep you bonkers!! Welcome to the T-square club. i think we should start a thread to discuss T-squares actually.

So if your friends have fixed signs aspects to your natal T-square(hopefully Moon/Venus because anything else will be like gas to the flames),they'll reciprocate in kind. Even like the attention you give them.

If not- they'll think that you should be committed.And will remind you of that again and again.

I wonder with Mars in 8th,do you deal well with crisis.Or find yourself drawn to crisis situations?

posted November 10, 2014 05:27 PM            

The best thing I've found is to remind myself that either someone likes you or they don't. Give or take time I don't think there's much you can do to hold onto something. That trying to exert any possessiveness robs you of unconditional love or close as you can get to it. Sometimes that thought does no good and I can't properly feel that way even if I know it but when I can it feels like a steady flame inside me.

I don't know if I understood though .. are you feeling possessive of both people as individuals and their diff nature's are just emphasizing your possessiveness. Or you are possessive of this group situation? It sounds really hypocritical to want to possess when you're presenting them with conditions they can't be with you, in fact hAve to be free and if so that's probably the problem in some weird way

posted November 11, 2014 03:14 AM            

Mercury square Pluto is much tighter...and feels more dominant. No homo.