posted August 10, 2015 07:01 AM            

I developed quite early, starting my period and developing a woman's body before I was out of grade school (less than 10 years old). Boys my age didn't pick on me, but the attention I received from them made the other girls hate me, and my lack of encouragement/reaction to the boys seemed to make them angry at me, too. I got called a **** and a tease before I had ever even kissed a boy.

I could've dealt with anything my peers threw at me, but the way older men gawked at me made me VERY uncomfortable. There were some of my dad's friends that I just completely avoided bc of the way the stared at me. Or, for instance, when I was 12-13 i was over at a friend's house while his parents had company. The guy, without even knowing my name, jokingly said to my friend "Whew look at her, I bet she could suck the chrome off a tailpipe." I was SO embarrassed. I didn't come out for the rest of the night.

posted August 10, 2015 10:14 AM            

But I did have contact with sex early (Centaur Nessus between Venus and Pluto) and I demand a lot in appearance matters for myself. I'm not satisfied with my own and I have a little obsession with beauty LOL but I'm so open to other people that does not attend that tastes, well.

I truly believe that beauty emerges from the soul, like your state of spirit will change the way you look and I like to get to know that side of people that I have interest into.

posted August 10, 2015 10:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Dreaminess:
Btw did you guys know about sex way too early to? I did get exposed to sex way too early bc of a girl i used to play with (she actually has a scorpio venus) she found some adult movies her step dad had and she showed them to me. This is so embarrassing to say but i remember when i played with my barbies i would also pretend they had sex and would spray perfume on them so it would look like they were sweating. I also started way too early asking questions about sex, i would ask about how it felt like is it embarrassing etc and made a few adults shocked and uncomfortable with my questions.

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posted August 10, 2015 10:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
I can relate, doon't feel embarrassed!
I was exposed to sex/molested at 3...it changes you no matter if you want it or not. What's really bad is I grew up in a religion that thought sex was the devil so I was exposed and then thought I was the devil for knowing or feeling the way I did, I felt so dirty and unloveable. I thought god hated me. Ontop of that every guy around me, even family was oversexed and would constantly say and do rude things regarding my appearance. I was molested off and on continually throughout my childhood. Man that stuff messes with your head so much! Don't feel bad, you were an innocent child expressing what you had been taught....that's not on you. What you expresed is totally normal for what happened to you. You were always innocent and pure, that never changed no matter what imagea they forced into your head.
Sorry someone came along did that to you...that's their wrong, it will never be your wrong!

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posted August 10, 2015 11:12 AM            

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Originally posted by Dreaminess:
Btw did you guys know about sex way too early to? I did get exposed to sex way too early bc of a girl i used to play with (she actually has a scorpio venus) she found some adult movies her step dad had and she showed them to me. This is so embarrassing to say but i remember when i played with my barbies i would also pretend they had sex and would spray perfume on them so it would look like they were sweating. I also started way too early asking questions about sex, i would ask about how it felt like is it embarrassing etc and made a few adults shocked and uncomfortable with my questions.

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Venus conjunct Pluto in Scorpio here. Haha, I had a very similar experience! When I was 12, I discovered my dad's porno tapes in his closet. I had to share with somebody, so I showed them to my buddy (same age). He also has venus conjunct pluto in scorpio. I watched them by myself first and was amazed by the erotic, dirty, nasty, beauty of it haha! I then watched them with my buddy, I think it was his first time seeing naked ladies too. Needless to say, me and my buddy would have "races" while watching the videos (purely platonic and competitive) and whom ever finished last would be so disappointed! Little did we know that finishing last was actually winning...

I guess I introduced my friend to naked ladies, while he introduced me to pot later on. He'd say to me "You know that feeling when you orgasm down there? Well this stuff is like that feeling in your chest!".

Growing up, I had girls/women of all ages express they liked me. Teachers, parents' friends, sisters' friends, friends' sisters, neighbors. I'd find out through other people that someone was obsessed with me and I wasn't even aware of it. I didn't quite see what they saw in me, but I was flattered. I recently had someone's 3-year old blow kisses to me and tell her mom she wants to marry me, haha.

When I was younger (before 12), I definitely felt really uncomfortable about sex and feelings of lust and desire. I'd just feel it was so wrong and "ugh". I mean, I liked girls when I was 5. But the feeling of wanting someone sexually made me feel wrong.

When I had sex for the first time, the girl didn't believe me that it was my first time. She also told me I was the best she ever had. A few years ago, after playing a show, I had a lady fan approached me. She was 10 years older, but I found her really beautiful. We had sex later that night, and she admitted to me that she stared at me "like a piece of meat all night long".

posted August 10, 2015 12:48 PM            

Pluto in the 1st house
Venus in the 7th house

I also saw my first porn tape (vhs lol) at 5 years old. Took it from my uncles room and i remember enjoying what i saw.

posted August 10, 2015 01:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Geminiyoungster:
Do any of you have mars trine, conjunction, square Venus with this combination too? I heard its supposed enhance the sex appeal. I read that ppl get a lot of stares from ppl..

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I have the sextile. I get stared at all the time, not sure if people find me attractive or not haha.

posted August 10, 2015 01:36 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
I have the sextile. I get stared at all the time, not sure if people find me attractive or not haha.

My cousin also has venus opp pluto, trine mars. She is very well developed, very wide hips, large breasts. She gets alot of looks by older men, reven women.

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Mars/trine/sextile/ conjunction mars

Sensuality can be quite pronounced with this aspect. Do you ever find that people are staring at you? There is something attractively magnetic about your auric field that demands the attention of other people, even though you're not trying to do that intentionally.

posted August 10, 2015 02:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Geminiyoungster:
Do any of you have mars trine, conjunction, square Venus with this combination too? I heard its supposed enhance the sex appeal. I read that ppl get a lot of stares from ppl..

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posted August 10, 2015 02:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Koniucha:
My daughter has Venus trine her Pluto in the 1st. Reading this is making me so sad, I really need to stop.

She will be 8 soon (She is a Libra <3). She was molested about two years ago and also exposed to some adult content. Now she seems to think about it a lot. I just tell her that she is too young for all of that. I don't know what else to say

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Tell her she's beautiful naturally. Tell her she's innocent and pure. Tell her men will love her for heart, tell her you love her for her heart. Tell her, her she more beautiful on the inside than the outside. Tell her if a man doesn't see her inner beauty than he's not worth anything and she had the right to get far away from him.
Tell her if a man touches her, hurts her or or says things that make her feel bad or dirty that's how she will know, he's a bad person, not her and she can scream and run away from him.
Tell her when those things happened to her it didn't make her bad, what happened was bad...the person that did it was bad. Tell her she is still and always has been a beautiful innocent child that is worth more than the world. Nobody can make her dirty...her beauty shines from the inside out.
Tell her she doesn't need that other stuff to be pretty, wanted, valued and cared about, it doesn't lead to someone loving you it only leads to them having access to hurt you.
When we get abused like this we mistakenly think that attention mean's someone cares about us, our perception of what love/attention/being cared for get all confused and mixed up. We lose sight of what's real and what's just someone using us. She's only gravitating towards it because she feels like that's the only way she is valued...like that's the only way she will get male attention.
So you gush over her in real every day life over little things...pure sweet childish things that she is (I'm sure you already do)
Find men that will gush over her regarding things like her sweet lil drawings, her artistic abilities, her intelligence...anything thing she does that has nothing to do with her appearance or could be interpreted as sexual.
If she's not in some extra activities get her into some, show her a way to get positive attention something she can excel at!
When I learned how fast I was at running, and that I could beat most the boys at soccer...I practice it everyday and loved that I felt powerful because of it. Then when I learned that I could do algebra and science without even trying I perfected it and loved showing off. It gave me a new way to think of myself. I wish someone had given me opportunities to find things I excelled at when I was really young, I was 10-18 before I started realizing I had more to contribute than just being a nobody for ppl to use n hurt. If someone would have guided me I'd have healed much quicker!
Please help her get her self esteem refocused and reinforced. It's her self esteem that has been knocked off balance don't let it stay that way!

She might unknowingly initiate inappropriate behaviors around men, she's been programmed to do this by the abuser, it only takes once, so be EXTREMELY cautious with who you let near her! It's not her fault, she's been taught just like when you teach a child to read they go around wanting to show their ability and get attention for it. Don't ever trust men around her alone until you know she believes she has the right to fight for herself and knows she will feel safe to protect herself and loudly say "NO!!!!!!"

Teach her scream, "NO" do it with her outloud, practice, practice practice!! Have her say it over n over again and then laugh about it together! Play games where she had to say "no" loudly and make a big deal to protect herself. Make it a fun thing you do together. Don't worry about her getting a big ego or fighting you...she will only grow to love and trust you from this. Instinctively she will know your the one she doesn't need to fight, she will know you have her back!!
Teach her to do boy things, teach her to fight!! Literally take her to self defense classes, empower her! If she's to young YOU take self defense classes and have her watch you, smile laugh wave and make it something she's proud to see you do!! Then practice the moves at home. If she had big brothers or cousins or friends let her practice her skills beating them up, lol....make them be submissive to her while she learns to stuck up for herself.
I know some of these things she to young for so do it when it's appropriate. You don't outgrow this, she will need help from you for awhile to unlearn what she's been taught. You must overwrite the negative with positive emotions....teach her she has the right to say no if she's not totally comfortable.

If you tell her to stop being drawn to the negative stuff she won't understand what your talking about.
She can't help what she's been taught.

If you tell her she's to young, she will not understand this either. This has been forced on her NOW at this age, so somebody decided she wasn't to young and now she has to live with it. She can't help it...she will probably feel you think she's bad to because she does have these feelings when your saying she shouldn't.

posted August 10, 2015 02:31 PM            

I think I was exposed to actual images of it around 8-9 if not earlier.. I can't quite remember. I think that was also when I started becoming interested in it, rather than disturbed by it.

posted August 10, 2015 03:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Geminiyoungster:
Mars/trine/sextile/ conjunction mars

Sensuality can be quite pronounced with this aspect. Do you ever find that people are staring at you? There is something attractively magnetic about your auric field that demands the attention of other people, even though you're not trying to do that intentionally.

This happens to me a lot..

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Yes people stare at me all the time. Not sure if it's intrigue, repulsion, lust or all the above lol.

posted August 10, 2015 08:04 PM            

Of course, in my situation I also have an 8th house Sun, opposite Pluto in Scorpio. xD with Mars squaring both of them.. That may also have a bit to say about why some people get the vibe that I am experienced in those regards..