posted March 01, 2017 11:38 AM            

Although this wasn't long term it deeply affected me and I cannot figure out why. I've dated a few guys over the years and nobody has had a lasting effect on my mind like he does. I think about him every single day, I cry, I get angry and irrational.
I just feel like he has some sort of hold on me. - He also keeps coming back every so often which makes things worse.

Can anybody see anything of significance to tell me why I still feel this way 6 months after the breakup.

Me: 29.07.1993
Birthtime: 7:15 am (Coventry, England)

posted March 01, 2017 05:16 PM            

It is a process of letting go. Letting go is itself a process of resolution in which we allow without closing off your heart.

It probably means saying goodbye and cutting off contact so that he cannot be salt in the wound over and over again.

Pluto's transit near 19° Capricorn just recently was exactly opposite your natal Mercury, and is now quickly approaching exact conjunctions to both your Uranus and Neptune. The transit to Mercury is somewhat like a Saturn transit to it, in that it can be a 'goodbye' transit in which previous thinking and communication patterns are challenged and must end for your growth to continue.

The gift in the transit to natal Uranus-Neptune is a revolution in your personal life of greater freedom (even though you may've been looking for stability and security), and transformation of spiritual life/creativity.

In declination, Pluto [21S12] is approaching exact contra-parallel to your natal Venus [21N29]. This indicates transformation of relationships. Consider Pluto's slow trip through that transit over the next few years to open up newer and better possibilities if you only find the resolution within yourself to let go. Anger poisons the heart. Resentment makes it grow cold. Letting go allows others to find their joy and you to find yours.

posted March 01, 2017 11:44 PM            

What it seems like Kannon is saying is that you may need to find your own closure to something that is not there from the other person. The way that I found closure from some of my past relations was to find something that I could take from it , something that I learned from that person. To understand to love someone means to let them go if that is what they choose to do and to learn just to be happy for that person because if you really loved them you would want them to be happy. It hurts when we want to be what makes someone happy but those things come from our own selfishness. ( as hard is it is to admit) We want what we want but if it is not for someone else then letting them go in that sense has helped me to release the anger and bitterness that I use to carry. All the hurt, sadness and pain inside just weighed me down, it's also learning that it created space for someone who wanted to be with me , who treated me right and wanted to make me happy. You deserve that !!!! It's ok to grieve and it will take time but in the end when that person does come into your life, it will make all the others who didn't work out become your own blessing in disguise. Just learn whatever you can take from this experiance , not the negative but the positives and carry it to the next.