posted February 26, 2019 08:41 AM            

all the sex i've had and every relationship has been the other person being clear about what they wanted and me responding

even when i've had feelings i generally won't act on them

once everything is out in the open i'm more dominant about things, but otherwise i tend to keep it light and not particularly deep

i'll flirt, but it's always light and sort of a joke (and doesn't necessarily mean i'm even interested) until i get a sign that being more serious and opening up is worthwhile

i'm also borderline retarded with that kind of thing because i tend to **** around so unless the other person is excessively strong about the way they come onto me it might get lost

posted February 26, 2019 10:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
never dated another virgo, but i am one and i've never made the first move

all the sex i've had and every relationship has been the other person being clear about what they wanted and me responding

even when i've had feelings i generally won't act on them

once everything is out in the open i'm more dominant about things, but otherwise i tend to keep it light and not particularly deep

i'll flirt, but it's always light and sort of a joke (and doesn't necessarily mean i'm even interested) until i get a sign that being more serious and opening up is worthwhile

i'm also borderline retarded with that kind of thing because i tend to **** around so unless the other person is excessively strong about the way they come onto me it might get lost

however strong someone thinks might be too strong they should at least match that or go past it

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posted February 26, 2019 10:48 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
What do you think is the reason the other person has to be very blunt with you...?
Do you just not see it otherwise or do you doubt it? So more reserved types wouldn't have a chance with you?

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i have a much easier time processing someone wanting to have sex than i do serious feelings and relationships

i can easily wrap my head around someone wanting to sleep with me because people approach me for sex often and i've been offered all kinds of stuff for sex etc, but i also think that's another reason why with anything deeper i tend to write stuff off

i've had men and women tell me they love me really fast (too fast for anyone to actually have feelings) and be planning a future together or offering me trips to places and drugs and so on so i'm used to brushing that **** off

reserved people still have a chance with me because i think people who are shy are cute so i seek them out to talk to them

posted February 26, 2019 10:54 AM            

He confessed and made it clear to me. I don't know his whole chart. Think maybe he had Scorpio moon, or Scorp rising. I can't remember. There was Scorpio somewhere, that's for sure.

I had an "inkling" he liked me, but I wasn't going to do anything about it. I was/am used to people being attracted to me, so I don't even see it as a big deal, or that it even should be acted upon or taken seriously. These things come and go. Unless someone makes a grand gesture, I won't think much of it - and a grand gesture he made!

But, he did eventually tell me he wants me and tell me he loves me, and he actually expected me to reject him. I didn't. We were together for a little while. He was a nice person, but we did not work out in the long run (life plans + other issues). My feelings for him probably weren't as intense as his feelings for me. For me, it was more (intensely) platonic in a way. He was more romantic with me. He was very clean, he liked cleanliness, he liked to know you showered regularly (I'm the same). He would fuss at me if I told him I forgot to wash behind my ears. And when I finished brushing my teeth, he was shocked it took me 2 minutes that one time lol

posted February 26, 2019 11:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by kani:
[b] What do you think is the reason the other person has to be very blunt with you...?
Do you just not see it otherwise or do you doubt it? So more reserved types wouldn't have a chance with you?

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i can easily wrap my head around someone wanting to sleep with me because people approach me for sex often and i've been offered all kinds of stuff for sex etc, but i also think that's another reason why with anything deeper i tend to write stuff off

i've had men and women tell me they love me really fast (too fast for anyone to actually have feelings) and be planning a future together or offering me trips to places and drugs and so on so i'm used to brushing that **** off

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posted February 26, 2019 01:28 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
Interesting. I wonder what you look like now haha
I really never heard that from a man before that he gets approached for sex that often and offered gifts for it. When did it start ? How old were you when you noticed a lot of people want sex from you?

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it's mostly been men who have been like that with me, older gay men with women that's been less frequent but it happens

gay men are like that though, a lot of them anyway at least in my experience

you probably don't hear it much from guys because most people are straight, i'm bi so that's part of it; can't hide it either never could

i've had people get weird about it since i was younger, before i was a teenager and i look younger than i am always have so yeah...

even when it's nonsexual i'm used to people being really touchy with me, leaning against me, getting close, hugging me etc

at jobs i'd have coworkers walk over to me when they were sad or feeling sick and just lean against me for a while not talk then walk away

random strangers do the same sort of thing, i had an ex get mad at me over it like it was something i can control

posted February 26, 2019 01:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
it's mostly been men who have been like that with me, older gay men with women that's been less frequent but it happens

gay men are like that though, a lot of them anyway at least in my experience

you probably don't hear it much from guys because most people are straight, i'm bi so that's part of it; can't hide it either never could

i've had people get weird about it since i was younger, before i was a teenager and i look younger than i am always have so yeah...

even when it's nonsexual i'm used to people being really touchy with me, leaning against me, getting close, hugging me etc

at jobs i'd have coworkers walk over to me when they were sad or feeling sick and just lean against me for a while not talk then walk away

random strangers do the same sort of thing, i had an ex get mad at me over it like it was something i can control

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posted February 26, 2019 01:54 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
You must ooze some type of healing energy for people to do that to you. Or calmness, or both Doesn't it drain you sometimes though when people use your energy to make themselves feel better?
I asked a gay friend of mine how gay men see if another man is gay or not and he said they just know, a gaydar definitely exists. It seem they can always sense when a man is (also) into men.
Do women make moves on you as well or is it just the men who actively pursue you?

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it depends on the person whether or not i'm ok with it, but it can get really intense if the other person is when it's mostly physical or it's infrequent that they talk a lot at me it's not too bad

but i get people who tell me all their problems and secrets etc too and that can get really draining when i have someone talking to me daily about all of their problems endlessly (happens to me a lot with people) and it'll be the same exact issue for months on end then i can crack or need space (that sometimes ends friendships because i've ended up getting into these huge fights for needing me time from people... i had a friend who would fight with me every time i'd tell her i needed a little space and to not talk to anyone for a few days aside from my fiancee, she'd yell at me for hours over it) but usually people aren't that bad with it

my family has always been like that with me too so i'm just used to it and don't really know any different

women do it too, my fiancee actually used to grope me and tell me i was hers all the time before we started dating

at my last job there was this chick who used to grope me and tell me she loved me and wanted to **** me every time we were both there

didnt know how to handle her felt weird complaining because it seems dumb when it's a woman so i'd make a lot of jokes and **** but she was relentless

had a pole dancer at a bar ask me of she could hug me while i was having a cigarette outside and she was on a break

etc and so on, it doesn't seem to be gender based

like i said it's not even necessarily sexual, children and animals like me too

i've had random people's kids run over to me in stores and people's pets,strays, wild animals etc tend to be similar

posted February 26, 2019 02:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
it depends on the person whether or not i'm ok with it, but it can get really intense if the other person is when it's mostly physical or it's infrequent that they talk a lot at me it's not too bad

but i get people who tell me all their problems and secrets etc too and that can get really draining when i have someone talking to me daily about all of their problems endlessly (happens to me a lot with people) and it'll be the same exact issue for months on end then i can crack or need space (that sometimes ends friendships because i've ended up getting into these huge fights for needing me time from people... i had a friend who would fight with me every time i'd tell her i needed a little space and to not talk to anyone for a few days aside from my fiancee, she'd yell at me for hours over it) but usually people aren't that bad with it

my family has always been like that with me too so i'm just used to it and don't really know any different

women do it too, my fiancee actually used to grope me and tell me i was hers all the time before we started dating

at my last job there was this chick who used to grope me and tell me she loved me and wanted to **** me every time we were both there

didnt know how to handle her felt weird complaining because it seems dumb when it's a woman so i'd make a lot of jokes and **** but she was relentless

had a pole dancer at a bar ask me of she could hug me while i was having a cigarette outside and she was on a break

etc and so on, it doesn't seem to be gender based

like i said it's not even necessarily sexual, children and animals like me too

i've had random people's kids run over to me in stores and people's pets,strays, wild animals etc tend to be similar

it's just with adults it tends to be sexual + a comfort thing

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posted February 26, 2019 07:33 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
I absolutely get what you said about people coming to you and telling about their same old problems day in and day out. I used to attract people like that in the past and it did drain me when it was the same old crap and they didn't seem like they wanna get out of their misery and just kept on whining. I still like helping my friends, but in moderation and the friends I have now don't tend to do that in such extreme ways like those I had when I was younger. Also in the past I attracted people, complete strangers, who told me their problems/whole life story. It hasn't been like that for a while though. Maybe it's because of that inner change that people stay away (you know, the hard to approach vibe I seem to give off now).
Haha I like how your fiancee came on to you. That is really forward.
That other woman sounds a bit extreme though.

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she was yeah, it was really uncomfortable, she was married with a kid too to make it more fun

my fiancee was really forward, for 4 years til i got it through my head that she meant it when she was telling me she loved me lol i eventually got it though we've been together 14 years so far

with the repetitive feelings if they really cant get out of their situation or they arent intense about it i can deal indefinitely it's when they're like that and then hysterical it's too much

i can feel people really easy so if theyre turned up it can start to get to me

posted March 04, 2019 03:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
Ever dated one of these guys? How did it begin? Who asked who out first?

How did you know they were interested or into you?

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posted March 04, 2019 10:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
Did things work out?? Where was his Venus and Mars.

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posted March 04, 2019 11:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
Yes, that qn was for you. Cha-cha thing? I know Mars in Cancer can be tough to deal with.

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