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posted May 10, 2009 09:40 AM         

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This year I have no root family around - they are very estranged from me and I have no Mother to wish a Happy Mother's Day to. I am a Motherless daughter. There is this empty feeling inside and I know that this will pass in time but the grieving is here today.

On the bright side I have a lovely 6 year old girl who I got lovely Mums day gifts from. I'm proud to be her Mum and wouldn't trade it in the world. I also am expecting in August to a baby girl!

It will be a day mixed with many emotions....

Cynn

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posted May 10, 2009 09:52 AM         

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That's really sad sweetheart. One thing I've learnt from being a mother is that sometimes you have to give yourself the love you need - and be all of those people for yourself, including showing yourself that mother love that you desire and want to show and be shown.

Hugs for you. There's always love for you.

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posted May 10, 2009 09:54 AM         

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Hi Cynn

I empathize with you on that one. My own relationship with my mother is less than desirable but I do not see her by choice. I have no place for toxic people in my life. I, like you, have a beautiful child whom I adore & that gives me all the joy I need to see me through Mother's Day.

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posted May 10, 2009 10:40 AM         

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Happy Mothers Day, Cyn
And PA and SB too

My mother is in a nursing home, somewhat daft, confined to her bed. She thinks it's HER day, never mind me.....
AS PA said, sometimes you have to give *yourself* the love you need, and I bought myself a gorgeous bouquet of flowers on Friday, along with a bouquet for Mom. I expect to see a hand-lettered card (and some tulips pulled out rudely from the yard ) when the scion gets up

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posted May 10, 2009 10:42 AM         

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My mom is a psycho so I have nothing to do with her.
My son does not talk to me because due to health reasons I missed his out of state wedding.
So mothers day is a day I really hate.

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posted May 10, 2009 12:14 PM         

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i understand. it can be such a hard day missing loved ones that have gone on and wishing thigs were different for those that haven't but can't be in our lives for whatever reason. bless us one and all that are hurting today as i know how hard it can be.

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posted May 10, 2009 12:35 PM         

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Happy mothers day!!!

Sorry to hear that Lexx, a special happy mother's day to you!!!

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posted May 10, 2009 12:54 PM         

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well my mother passed many years ago and on mother's day i am thankful:

that i made my peace with her before she went;

that i have a daughter and have through mothering come to forgive many of my own mother's "faults";

that i had someone as an example both good and bad. my own mother was orphaned at the age of 7 and yet somehow managed to do a pretty good job of raising not only her own two children but two others whose mother was not there for them, my half-sisters.

XOXO

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posted May 10, 2009 01:22 PM         

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BlueRoamer Thank you, it was nice to hear! To all of you, moms or not.

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posted May 10, 2009 03:41 PM         

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Happy Mother's Day, Cynn....and to all of you out there
My grandmother died on Mother's Day 5 years ago and was like a mother to me too...makes this day even more special.

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posted May 10, 2009 03:42 PM         

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Anyone read 'Motherless Daughters', btw ?

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posted May 10, 2009 03:45 PM         

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"Never being able to say the word ’Mummy’ again in your life sounds like a small thing. However, for many, including me, it’s now really just a word - hollow and evoking only memories.

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http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article5900342.ece

No idea why I kept that link, glad I did though.

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posted May 10, 2009 04:57 PM         

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Thank you all for your kind comments and Mother's Day wishes!

This year I started a new tradition for myself and called up a few Moms that I know and wished them a Happy Mother's Day! I thought why not spread it around!

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posted May 10, 2009 05:55 PM         

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Hugs to all of you hurting today.

Life is a different experience when you're no longer someone's baby. I think I will consider this Moon's Day, a day for celebrating the nurturer in all of us. So Happy Moon's Day to all.

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From: aspideronmars
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posted May 10, 2009 06:36 PM         

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I'm a motherless daughter too... l have my health, my life and great friends.

I have hd to learn that people are always within you even if they are not in your life.

Try to look at the good times Cynn.

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posted May 10, 2009 10:17 PM         

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I have mixed emotions, too.

When I went back to Texas for a visit, I tried to start over with Mom & Dad (divorced), but it was just a sad visit. I'm willing to let the bad stuff in the past stay in the past, but neither of them seem at all interested in knowing me. They don't hate me (they just don't care enough one way or another for that), and I don't hate them, but that well is dry.

Still, because I ranaway from home due to all that was going on, I ended up bonding with a woman who never had children who turned my life around. I sometimes think that I was born as I was because it was impossible for me to be born to HER (as she never had children). So she gets the mother's day card (as does Granny).

I take care of a lot of children (and enjoy doing so), too, but I don't think I'm ready to be a mother. Don't know if I ever will be, either (despite all the practice I've had).

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posted May 11, 2009 12:45 AM         

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Huggs and well wishes for you today! Your baby girl is lucky to have such a mom as you

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posted May 14, 2009 01:51 PM         

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Thank you so much for the lovely words of comfort!

I went and called the moms I know and wished them a Happy Mom's day and it went over well.

Cynn

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