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posted September 16, 2010 09:29 AM         

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posted September 16, 2010 09:43 AM         

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It's because single people make married people uncomfortable. Either because they're so blissfully blindly in love that they feel the need to match the single friends up or because they're unhappy and feel that they're missing out on something because they feel restricted in their marriage. The grass is always greener...

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posted September 16, 2010 10:08 AM         

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posted September 16, 2010 11:15 AM         

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It's because single people make married people uncomfortable

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Really?!?

Do you really believe this?

Funny b/c I was just thinking on my way to work, how wonderful it is that I am single.........I can do what I want whenever I want, I don't have to answer to anyone, I can go out with whomever I want, I am ultimately FREE. I was thinking of another friend who is also single, we both have it made, if you think about it. There are SO many people who are married just because they think they are supposed to be. There are so many people who settled for less. There are so many people in unfulfilling marriages.

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posted September 16, 2010 11:42 AM         

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It's good to be singlelicious.

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posted September 16, 2010 12:07 PM         

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no longer being singlelicious ( thanks for that Randall and do i have permission to use your word in my daily conversations? ) i think it really does depend on the individuals involved... some folks really need to be around "like-minded"
individuals... they can't fathom why anyone would choose differently - " i'm so happy being this way and you should want to be that way too "
we don't really have "couple friends" - in fact, my closer friends are single... and i think, for the most part, happy to be so...

it is too bad about your friend HappyDragon... perhaps he was having an off day?

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posted September 16, 2010 12:12 PM         

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Yeah but I think it depends on the person.
I for one kind of miss being married.
Waking up every morning and going to bed every night with your best friend.

I remember when I was married and worked with a bunch of single women. We all got along great at work. We went out to lunch together a lot, chatted inbetween calls, etc. But I always felt left out because they would do things together on the weekends and not invite me. I chalked it down to the fact that I was married. I agree there, I think it makes some people feel akward.

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posted September 16, 2010 12:44 PM         

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I like that term too, "singlelicious". It's very attractive........ and goes smoothly over the tongue

I also like your quote Randall.

Winks, well of course if you are in wonderful true love with someone in a fulfilling relationship, but I feel that this is rare. I could give a whole lecture on all the people I know who got married in their 20's because "they thought they were supposed to" "they'll never find anyone better" "they felt pressure from their family and friends" who are now either divorced, or living with 1/2 of a soul left because they have been stripped of discovering their own SELF, restricted in some manner of living due to their significant other, not following their dreams, not being fulfilled. It's sad.

Of course, being very Taurustic, with Venus in Taurus, and Venus sextile Saturn, Venus trine Mars, Sun conjunct Venus in my chart, Neptune in the 7th, I am a hopeless romantic and refuse to ever "settle".

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posted September 17, 2010 02:15 AM         

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It's weird & the same thing has bothered me at times in life HD.

I never understood that mentality even when I was with a partner. I always wanted to hang outwith my single girlfriends.

The S/O @ the time didn't like that but
tough t i t t i e s for him was always my response, lol.

Must have something to do with my Sag Moon & Uranus in 7th. "Don't fence me in" is my way of life though.

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posted September 17, 2010 10:00 AM         

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well it certainly is NOT true of everyone but i have definitely seen couples who were uneasy around their former single friends...either one half of the pair doesn't really LIKE said single friend, or likes them TOO MUCH and therefore makes the other half uneasy/jealous; or the two feel "sorry" for the "lonely" single person...there are myriad combinations of these uncomfortabilities!!

and some people get on just fine with single buds...but frequently it is just the different priorities and schedules that single vs married people tend to fall into that have a way of pushing them apart gradually and naturally but noticeably too.

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posted September 17, 2010 10:29 PM         

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Weird. I am "hooked up" and i don't give two hoots if my friends or single or not as long as they are happy.

Sure, i couldn't go on an 'impromptu road trip' but because i have a child, and a dog and a job and other responsibilities. If my friends go on one then all the better!! The can share stories with me next time we Hang out and i can share some of my stories too.

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