posted July 22, 2003 11:49 AM            

For me, it's as follows:

1) Cruelty in any form to animals or children (even big kids like adults)

2) If they treat their family like dirt.

3) Being pompous / condescending to others, especially service people.

4) If they smell, have bad manners or are crude.

5) Wimpy dudes with no backbone. (I have a hard time if I am stronger than the man I am with. He has to be able to challenge me intellectually and willfully)

6) If they do not have any passion for politics, religion or intellectual pursuits.

7) LOW SEX DRIVE - or if they can't kiss - again, this goes back to how my mental pic of a man should be. He should be able to make my legs shake when he kisses me (even if we are both nervous). If he gets too mushy, goopie or into the moment, that turns me off. You know what I mean? Like a guy that kisses you, gets sloppy and makes moany noises like he is having a "moment" right then and there. ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!

LOL

posted July 22, 2003 12:09 PM              

1. Cruelty to animals and children
2.sappiness
3. and bad hygiene

posted July 22, 2003 12:14 PM            

For example, I knew a guy that treated his coworkers like pathetic idiots. He had this self image that he was a god and everyone else was stupid. He did the same of his family and even though he and I were friends only, he wanted more. BUT, he started to use his condescending attitude towards me until I put him into his place and ended the friendship.

posted July 22, 2003 12:55 PM              

Dirty fingernails

Discussing in detail medical conditions that are best left untold.
When I am ready for intimacy I have spend days, no weeks preparing for the big moment, with the right clothes, makeup jewelry, maybe body art, candles the works. I do not want that moment to be interrupted by a detailed analysis of someone's constipation or nasal drip. Or even worse some kind of mysery inllness that causes strange coloured fluids to drip from visible orifices.

GOD@!!!

posted July 22, 2003 01:48 PM              

b) lack of...spark. It's not just being disinterested in occult things that gets me...but people who brush it all off as "all in your head" really rubs me up the wrong way.

c) Impatience. People make mistakes, its part of the human condition and while I'm not the most tolerant person in the world if people transgress I usually give them the tolerance i would have them give me. However, if someone is continually on my back it really gets me down.

d) Bad kissers. Yes - it does put me off.

e) lack of care. I dislike people who don't care about the world, it's true. While this may sound very self-righteous i've found when i get close to people either as friends or as lovers, if they just don't care about the world it really puts me off them.

f) Self-worshipping. I can't stand people without any humility (even if its put on) - if someone refuses to accept there are two sides to any argument then i have a very hard time being friendly with them, let alone anything more.

posted July 22, 2003 02:02 PM              

Natasha, did some gross-out guy actually pull that on you? Good God! Some people have no couth...Mind you, it's good to know that about someone you're considering becoming intimate with.

posted July 22, 2003 02:04 PM              

2) Un-lady-likeness (I dig tomboys, but any smell or untamed body hair, ew!)

3) Dull/Weak mind (Gets offended or can't defend her convictions if I challenge them)

4) Slu*tiness (been with a couple of the homies huh? Beat it!)

5) MATERIALISM/SHALLOWNESS (If you don't wanna support yourself independently thru life & pursue your own career... then I don't trust you, because you are going to have to manipulate to have someone support you throughout your whole life)

posted July 22, 2003 02:08 PM              

If I decide the man I am with is a pig and is disrupting a social event I will walk out and expect to be able to change my mind without having to explain why. The man has to figure it out on his own, I'm not his teacher. Case in point-man who is very nervous (Aries) nice doctor leaves the bathroom with his belt unbuckled in a nice quiet place where I have friends and there is performance going on, his pants fall down, next thing he is tripping over them and he's on the floor next to me wading around and getting up and down to dance a little holding his pants. Embarassing.

Next thing a woman I know comes up to me and asks, does this belong to you? NO! I can now change my mind. Once a Taurus sticks to something they will keep on, but at some point you have to say, I am sick of trying and throw in the towel. Romantically it's hard for a Taurus to say no, so that is why my Libra liked to tease and torture me for months. He knew my weakness. Come to think of it we didn't go out much the first few months. I think Taurus wants to eat her cake not just look at it, but the cake has to be all hers, socially and romantically. (Taurus women are very posessive about a man's time and attention because she focuses a lot of hers on the man in her life) I do not like to feel a man wants to be with another woman at anytime, so I do not understand why a man would bomb out socially and be wonderful romantically, I do not expect perfection but a stab at everything that person wants to do shows an interest. I expect a lot of myself too and do my best and I only ask for the same in return. That is probably why my Libra is not big on going out, he goes out only to selected events and needs to choose who else is going to be there. That also explains why my Libra does not work with me because it would be such a drain on his time. We compromise but I still do not like him to work with women so I can only be human here. (Did I say Taureans were posessive?)

posted July 22, 2003 02:14 PM            

He was a Libra with a Leo Moon. I did write about him being so damn repulsive in the way he treated people and thought he was just so brilliant. LOL

So far is does seem like all of us need that mental stimulation (or else we wouldn't even be posting here.LOL)

NW and Prox: You both are so right. I agree that it is necessary for someone to be able to debate without resorting to name calling and the ability to share ideas, philosophies, and what we care about as human beings is so important.

posted July 22, 2003 02:26 PM              

Ermm...yes im posting so much because there's nothing else for me to do right now, incidentally.

posted July 22, 2003 02:35 PM            

I can see what you are saying. My Leo (he has a Taurus rising) he was once with a Taurus woman. It just didn't work out (especially with his Aqua moon). At any rate, he is not the most socially graceful person and has a tendency to flub up his words, but it's what I love so much about him, it makes him so human. I have managed to refine some of his rougher habits (like the way he used to hold his silverware ---he can be so cowboy) but all I had to do was smile and wink, he would then see how I was doing it and would be fine. I know that his ex would get angry, make comments and stalk off. But, I understood him, possibly because I had been put under the same scrutiny when I was married to a Virgo.

See, for some of us fire signs, it can be so nerve shattering to be with someone that is so prim and proper. Someone who expects us to be perfect, because we are so full of passion and enthusiasm, that we will forget the buckle on our pants (my Aries granny broke her leg doing something like that) or we'll be so animated about our converstation that we will trip over that hedge and yet keep telling our story. I laugh at myself all the time (have to with these legs that tangle so easily).

With my Leo, he laughs with me and I laugh with him, because I know it's okay.

Now, I totally see a Libra man and Taurus woman. Both would take so much time in spoiling each other, emotionally and physically. To some of us, it would feel like being smothered. Like, if someone devotes all their time to me and refuses to even turn their eyes to a beautiful woman,my first thought is "Dude, what's wrong with this man.". I don't mind if my dude flirts, laughs or talks to other women, he's coming home with me, or if he does choose someone else, then he'll never get into my bed again - and I'm the best he has ever had, so his loss....LOL....hee hee, sorry that made me laugh.

posted July 22, 2003 03:23 PM              

I know I have dated Taurus men who were just as difficult as me, it takes time and maturity to unbend. Taureans have a lot of pride and do not like to crawl or beg. Dignity is big for Scorps too. I had a Scorp friend who had a list of traits he wanted in a woman, master's degree, beautiful, wise, I mean he took the cake.
Taurus and Scorps are a pain. Where are the Scorps?

posted July 22, 2003 03:47 PM              

Insensitivity: Not being aware of the circumstances or reacting appropriately to the sitution.

Overly sensitive: Don't like a man who cries all the time about the little things. Showing emotions is healthy, but there is a time and a place. I dated a guy once who was driven to tears because the sun was so beautiful shining through the clouds. and it was. but to break down to tears in a cafe over coffee??? I Couldn't get away fast enough.

Arrogance: I'm so smart and great and wonderful and I'm even better than that.

Substance Abuse: Of any kind.

And then of course all the aforementioned traits too.

I want someone who is aware of my idiosyncrasies, but loves me because of them. And is not embarrassed by their own little neurocies. I want someone who sees me as their partner, their equal. Someone who will tell me about his day, then ask me about mine, and be truly interested. Someone who will help prepare the evening meal and share time with me in the kitchen instead of running off to watch whatever sports is playing at the time. I want someone who gives me butterflies when I hear their voice on the phone.

posted July 22, 2003 05:28 PM              

Great topic, Pidua!

OK, you guys have just about covered it, but I'll throw in my two cents anyway.

1) LIARS!!! - In any way, about anything!

2) Arrogance - If you know everything, do everything better than everybody and have a higher opinion of yourS-elf than anyone else...see #1!

3) Dullness - You have to WOW me with your ideas/wit/personality/attitude.

4) Lack of social skills - I want to be able to go ANYWHERE with you and feel comfortable.

5) Lack of debate skills - Challenge me! But be prepared to back up your side of it!

6) Narrow-mindedness - On the other hand, I don't want someone who is so open-minded that their brain falls out!

7) BAD KISSERS! - No 'dead-fish' mouth, tight lips or cannibalism. No cold lips.

8) Sexual prudery - You kNOW who you are! If it is always "making love", in the dark, in the bed, with the door firmly locked...NOPE!

9) Macho attitude - I am not an inferior being because I lack a penis or because my tear ducts are operational!

10) "The strong, silent type" - True strength is attractive, brick walls are not! If you can't share your thoughts with me, you probably can't share anything else with me.

posted July 22, 2003 05:28 PM            

I am doing this for a reason. At some point I will put posters lists of likes and their dislikes together. That way they can get a true picture of what they want or feel they need in a relationship, thus getting to know themselves better.

I mean, it's so easy to think of what we want, but what is it we really look for or are turned off by.

Look at the bigger picture, not just the nit-picking parts. If I had the time I would do a full analysis on peoples charts compared to what it is believed they should like (based on the planets and signs) as compared to what they say.