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posted November 29, 2010 07:53 PM            

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Please discuss this .
How does it work/not work in your life?

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posted November 29, 2010 09:47 PM            

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I do NOT have a thick skin, as of now. I would like to develop one, though
I think it would be a worthy goal.If not,you are at the whims of others who have their own issues, of course.

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posted November 29, 2010 09:48 PM            

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No. I am supposed to have a hard outer shell, but I certainly don't.
I learn from my mistakes though.. and I am working on it. (Still)
I can however, take a licking and keep on ticking. (Which really, in this forum, could mean a whole lot!)

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posted November 29, 2010 09:52 PM            

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Sometimes I falter, but usually nothing phases me.

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posted November 29, 2010 09:54 PM            

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Dear Randall
To what do you attribute that?

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posted November 29, 2010 09:55 PM            

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Yes, except for when I fall in love - that's another matter It didn't used to be that way but now I'm better with boundaries, but that took a lot of objectivity & practice.
If you're a psychic sort of person, then there are remedies to protect yourself after that are helpful, so that there's not such a huge energy drain. Empaths seem to have this problem a lot.

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posted November 29, 2010 10:05 PM            

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I'm strong but wouldn't say thick-skinned. I try not to take things personally. It's rare that they are, I think, anyway. My sense of humour keeps things in perspective. I can keep a distance and see things from the outide - 11th house Aqua Moon trine Uranus, and square Saturn has to be good for something. Though Moon squares Mars too so when it is personal, it lets rip.

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posted November 29, 2010 10:45 PM            

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I think you can have a thick skin when you know who you are.
You know your good and bad. You accept your good and bad.
In this way, you define yourself.
If you can make peace with yourself, you will have peace with the outside, to a large extent.
That is my goal but I have not achieved it,not nearly LOL

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posted November 29, 2010 10:52 PM            

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When you see past the illusions of separation and fear there is no need for a thick skin..

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posted November 29, 2010 10:53 PM            

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It depends. In places where I'm free to be very vulnerable, absolutely not, I can be very sensitive and soft but that's usually not in my online life, where people don't ever truly get to know the essence of ME unless I share it with them.

I used to walk around feeling very raw on the outside, like I was flipped inside out (this is a trait of Pisces rising) but the world is a harsh place unfortunately and will eat you alive if you don't toughen up a bit.

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posted November 29, 2010 11:04 PM            

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Yep, totally SOV, well said, my dear friend

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posted November 29, 2010 11:06 PM            

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Your outer world is a perfect reflection of your inner world.

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posted November 29, 2010 11:32 PM            

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I attribute it to a rough life. lol

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posted November 29, 2010 11:43 PM            

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No.
However...
exactly what does that mean?
"thick skinned"
to most folks?

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Etymology of the phrase:
"thick-skinned";
is attested from 1540s; in figurative sense from c.1600.

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1. Having a thick skin or rind.
2. Not easily offended.
3. Largely unaffected by the needs and feelings of other people; insensitive.

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I always think of it as being definition number 3.
Or this meaning:

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callous (adj.)
c.1400, "hardened," in the physical sense, from L. callosus "thick-skinned," from callus, callum "hard skin" (see callus).
The figurative sense of "unfeeling" appeared in English by 1670s.

Callous:
Emotionally hardened; unfeeling:

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posted November 29, 2010 11:57 PM            

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I think of it as having a good buffer zone regarding others' issues, not delving into someone's drama good or bad so that you're immersed and can't distinguish your stuff from theirs, not crying at every sob story on the news..just well-developed boundaries. It's not so much insensitive as much as it's knowing what's yours and what's not. You stay whole within yourself and aren't easily unbalanced.

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posted November 30, 2010 01:45 AM            

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Lonake
You rock, as usual. Would you consider a job as Siamese twin

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posted November 30, 2010 02:44 AM            

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I'll mix up a magic potion for you

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posted November 30, 2010 02:49 AM            

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We are two insomniacs. Mix up a potion for that ,too, while you are on a roll

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posted November 30, 2010 03:00 AM            

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Technically I'm procrastinating ~ I don't have 3 Libran placements for nuthin'

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posted November 30, 2010 02:44 PM            

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"I don't know if you are aware, but we singletons are competely covered in scales under our clothes".

So yes.

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posted December 01, 2010 10:07 AM            

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I got a thick skin but that's due to my life experiences, its not that I don't care..sometimes I'm indifferent to things and others I'm incredibly sensitive about but I tend to have the armor on and the guard up, like a typical cancerian. Tough shell.

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posted December 01, 2010 08:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Lonake:
I think of it as having a good buffer zone regarding others' issues, not delving into someone's drama good or bad so that you're immersed and can't distinguish your stuff from theirs, not crying at every sob story on the news..just well-developed boundaries. It's not so much insensitive as much as it's knowing what's yours and what's not. You stay whole within yourself and aren't easily unbalanced.

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By this definition, yes, most definitely thick skinned. If I don't consciously distance myself I get too wrapped up in things that aren't mine and I'm bombarded with all kinds of emotions and it is hard to differentiate what is mine and what is theirs.

There have been two times I'd been gripped with fear of a malady-one was heart disease and the other cancer. Not hypochondria or normal concerns but almost feeling like the disease was traveling through my body. Not long after each time it happened two people I am close to, one had to have open heart surgery the other had ovarian cancer.

These past couple of years, even in my dreams, many times I am just an observer of all that is going on but not part of the story being told. And if something is off kilter my observer self comments on it. Like say people fly in my dream that's cool but if they take off a certain way and someone does it a way that is not heard of I will say, no, that's not right this must be a dream.

I think I have allowed my skin to get just a bit too thick. Actually, I know I have. It's always been one of my greatest struggles, to find and keep a good balance between the rational, objective, logical, protected self and the feeling, caring, compassionate open more vulnerable self. The latter being the one that usually ends up getting the shaft when push comes to shove. But I'm working on it.

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posted December 01, 2010 08:56 PM            

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hey ghani, i have 2 singletons...does that mean i'm practically a dragon? lol

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