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posted December 05, 2010 09:43 AM            

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.....and not kill each other in the process?...

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posted December 05, 2010 10:03 AM            

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I'm sure it's possible, but I would prefer not to...

I've seen enough spit spots on the bathroom mirror and dirty clothes on the floor to annoy me for a lifetime.

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posted December 05, 2010 10:08 AM            

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posted December 05, 2010 10:08 AM            

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posted December 05, 2010 10:16 AM            

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Haha. I'm just being honest

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posted December 05, 2010 11:06 AM            

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Yep me too!....I had this conversation with 2 men, one was heterosexual and the other man was gay and they BOTH said that women were a different species, and the gay guy said he felt sorry for the heterosexual guys living with a woman. I agreed... Only I feel sorry for us women too. At times it seems impossible for a woman and man to cohabit, but there are couples out there who seem great at it. Perhaps their servants and nannies make the difference here? (I am being harsh,I know!)
Now I do think it's possible that men and women can live together....
I know I'm being slightly sexist here, but I was thinking... there are two types of women.. Queens and Maidens....There is only one type of male... Kings... kings can live with queens because they both know how to assert their authority and love doing so... kings and maidens can't live together because maidens find it difficult to say no to their "king" and arguments becomes twisted and complicated...King says why isn't the house cleaned... maiden says I have been looking after the children all day and didn't have the time. King decides to clean and maiden says you didn't even try, it's not done properly. King says I did try it's just not done to your standard, where is my dinner? Maiden says I'm making it later, king says but I'm hungry now. Maiden says then make it yourself. King makes 3 days worth of dinners for the whole family for himself and maiden says why didn't you ask me if it was ok to make this incase I needed it for tomorrow night's dinner? King says oh so I need your permission for everything now do I? Maiden says no you are just being inconsiderate ... blah blah... we could go on...
Is there any truth in this scenario?

Men and women are great together until the practical aspects of life and kids come along...
Then all of a sudden an inherent class of values and needs happens...
Any truth in this?

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posted December 05, 2010 11:06 AM            

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My father has always said the institution of marriage is one of the most ungodly acts ever invented....i'm finally starting to see what he meant...lol

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posted December 05, 2010 12:49 PM            

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Sadly yeah.....
That is often the case.

However I do not think it is exclusive to only
male/female cohabitation;
nor marriage.
Though many folks turn into jerks once they have that perceived "ownership" paper, the marriage certificate.
I ran into such with former husbands and soon to be ex husband.
However also experienced this with a female roomie.
She, as with the others, just could not would not think of equality and carry her share of life's mundanities which need addressed on a daily basis.
I have been most often left carrying those responsibilities.
So I see it as not merely a male/female thing but a people not respecting each other,
often one sided, one giving more than as the other takes them for granted.
A marriage certificate/license should never be treated as an ownership decree.
But most do see it as that!
It should be seen as a legal arrangement only, to allow for certain benefits not otherwise allowed "legally" for two only cohabiting, things such as HIPPA, insurance, and so forth, such as legal protection for any children.
Otherwise I do not see a need for such.

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posted December 05, 2010 01:58 PM            

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Sure they can live together.

I had a much worse time with my ex roommate who also is one of my bestest friends. Even though we are both women, we didn't keep house the same way and it drove me CRAZY. I am glad we don't live together anymore so we can go back to being great friends.

My fiancé and I have the same standards of how things should look and be cleaned, etc. We mesh well so there are rarely any problems.

It depends on the two people involved - not whether they have a hoo-haa or a hoo-hoo.

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posted December 05, 2010 02:07 PM            

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posted December 05, 2010 03:24 PM            

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I've had male roommates and female roommates. No real problems. It's all about mutual respect. But yeah, I hate a dirty bathroom mirror with a passion. It drives my Virgo ASC crazy.

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posted December 05, 2010 03:27 PM            

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posted December 05, 2010 03:46 PM            

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My ex boyfriend and I kind of lived together.
It thought me thinks about my self didn't know.

He hated it when I didn't trow left overs away.
For example when there's little milk left, drink it or throw it away.

Living together is a challenge,you get to know each other pretty well.

I wouldn't miss it in the world if I love somone. I'm ready for the fireworks about the houserules.

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posted December 06, 2010 09:44 AM            

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I live with two males (they rent rooms in my house)
They are fantastic. Men are extremely easy to live with. You don't have to go all around the houses to ask them to do anything (unlike with women)
You can issue short statements such as
"Boys get your shoes out of the hallway, I'm vacuming"
They do not take offence because they like clear cut instructions.
If you spoke to a woman like that she would probably sulk for days.
I would never have female housemates now.
BUT
If I have been married or having sexual relations with a man then I find them impossible to live with!
Impossible

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posted December 06, 2010 10:23 AM            

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posted December 06, 2010 11:49 AM            

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Bunnies,

What's the difference between just living with men, and if you're "married or romantic"?

In what way do they become impossible to deal with?

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posted December 06, 2010 11:51 AM            

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Randall,

GOOD THING for that Virgo Asc... sheesh!

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posted December 07, 2010 12:15 AM            

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It kinda kills the romance.

I'd rather live in separate places and meet every so often - go traveling somewhere.
But that would cost a lot LOL

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posted December 07, 2010 12:19 AM            

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i think virgo energy is awsome...my opinion may be a little biased cuz my dad was one, lol

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posted December 07, 2010 07:27 AM            

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I agree that men can be easy to live with when the relationship is platonic... I think it's when things become sexual or have a business element that it gets messy.

I know a lot of guys who still have this belief in their minds that it's embarrassing to lose to a girl... and the competitive element comes out in sexual relationships because a sense of attractiveness and worth is usually bound up in relationships. When you are just friends or room mates there seems to be more respect for each other which is really sad because you should express the same if not more respect for your partner, but that doesn't always play out.I think what happens is we can easily just fall into the roles of our parents and be like they were, it's just easier.

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posted December 07, 2010 06:19 PM            

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Well, I think the big clashes are really a lack of tolerance by one or more party. One person feels that they shouldn't have to tolerate such and such, and that leads to resentment. Different people have different strengths and weaknesses. You've got to choose wisely, and really know what's important in the grand scheme of your life. You can change your tolerances for the right person.

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posted December 08, 2010 04:31 PM            

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I actually think men are better at changing their tolerances than women AG... I know I'm being stereotypical, but men seem to take things in their stride while women seem to be hard pushed to get things done...
Personally speaking I find it extremely difficult to change my tolerances.

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posted December 08, 2010 07:19 PM            

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I don't really see it as a gender thing. I mean, I get that society likes to make women out as the Type A personalities that must have their way, but I think there are an awful lot of shades of both genders.

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posted December 08, 2010 07:22 PM            

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i dont like the whole notion of the Type A and Type B personalities cuz i have neither type, i'm laid back but not so laid back that i'm type B, and i dont like being high strung so i'm the furthest thing from type A...type A and type B are too extreme for everyone to fit into

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posted December 19, 2010 10:24 PM            

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I don't fit types.

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